Dating Question

[GV-NA-GI-TLV-GE-I]

Do any of you date or maintain relationships with your own specific group of people in order to preserve your culture, heritage, race? What are your thoughts on this?

 

[cutiebe2]

I was going to until I realized my family will be 50-75% white by the next generation. No need for me to try and preserve things if everyone else doesn't. If I was part of a dying or small race/ethnicity than I would be more strict on who I date.

 

[Almaz]

Yep would have never dealt out.

 

[Nayeli]

This is my preference yes. Perhaps not necessarily to preserve heritage etc, but to have someone that "gets" you - understands all the cultural references you make, has generally the same mindset because you were raised alike....just a few less things to worry about in the rel/ship.

 

[tocktick]

My mother would prefer me not only marry someone who is black but from the same country and also from the same tribe group within the country. When I was younger, she was extremely strong on the message. Imo, it felt like she viewed things as if we were back in our home country versus multicultural London.

Regardless, I've never ever had it in my mind to just date people with the exact same ethnic background as me. Whilst I'm open to them, I'd never severely limit my pool of guys. It seemed crazy to me that I would deliberately overlook someone who was an ideal match for me just because he was from somewhere else. Even my mother is seeing things more how I do lately, although I know she still has her preferences.

 

[Maracujá]

That's one of the reasons why I prefer to date inside my ethnicity yes.

 

[Bunny77]

Not really.

The more I date, the more I find that cultural similarities have had little to no effect on the success (or lack of success) in my relationships.

I'm not really looking to preserve my culture/heritage/race through my dating life/marriage anyway. I think true cultural preservation, etc., takes a lot more work than simply dating, marrying and having kids with someone of the same background.

 

[Lady S]

Do any of you date or maintain relationships with your own specific group of people in order to preserve your culture, heritage, race? What are your thoughts on this?

The thought has crossed my mind. When I imagine myself with kids, I imagine black kids, so either I'm procreating with a black dude or I'm adopting. But on the other hand, I don't want to limit myself. I don't want to write a wonderful guy off because he's from a different race.

Having said that, after reading your blog entry, I can definitely understand wanting to preserve your Native American culture and heritage. From what I understand, there are a lot more black people in the US then Native Americans in the US. So, I don't really feel the threat of the black race dying out. If our numbers were as small as the current population of Native Americans in the US, maybe I'd feel differently.