BlackDiamond21
New Member
Hi ladies,
I found a new stylist that I have meshed with and I am going to start a new hair regiment with her. I have not been able to make it to long time sylist and my hair is showing it. I have so much breakage and I am all over the place in finding products that work.
My new stylist, Ray, said that she belives I need to cut my hair about an inch due to all the breakage. Honestly I believe she is right. Trying to hold onto fray/split ends by doing bare minimum trims hasn't been working. My bangs in front are past my chin and I have breakage in that area that goes all the way up to my nose.
I told her that I relax about every 6-8 weeks, which she thought was good but said that my hair looks over processed. I have been alternating between Soft & Beautiful Botanical Relaxer (for my sensitve scalp) and S&B Ultimate Protection w/ Oil Relaxer (I prefer the one with Oil nowadays b/c it has left my hair feeling so nice afterward and a not bone straight). When she was roller setting it, it was just coming out and all up in the comb. She wasn't pulling or anything, so I know it isn't her method. I have very fine hair and rarely if ever use my curling iron or Chi flat iron. Maybe once every 2-3 months. My hair never holds a curl anymore and it used to when it was shoulder length, so I know it is possible. It hurts so much to see all the hair coming out... I am so sad and you all are the only women I can share this with who truly understand. I am so depressed about all of this. I have been working so hard at growing it out and loving it but it's just not worth it looking crazy. My hair ends haven't looked salon smooth since lawd knows when. I just passed the BSL (w/o stretching) and will probably end up somewhere between APL and BSL after the cut. 
My question to you ladies and professionals is it ok to cut the hair 2-3 weeks before a relaxer? I usually get my hair trimmed or cut right after a relaxer (right after the conditioner has been rinsed out) but I wasn't sure if timing mattered.
Of course I would rather get it over with (the sooner it will get better) but I wanted to know if that is the right thing to do?
Any advice would help me greatly. I am due back in her chair Friday and need to know asap. Thanks everyone!
BD21
P.S. Thank you for letting me vent... I could use a
I found a new stylist that I have meshed with and I am going to start a new hair regiment with her. I have not been able to make it to long time sylist and my hair is showing it. I have so much breakage and I am all over the place in finding products that work.
My new stylist, Ray, said that she belives I need to cut my hair about an inch due to all the breakage. Honestly I believe she is right. Trying to hold onto fray/split ends by doing bare minimum trims hasn't been working. My bangs in front are past my chin and I have breakage in that area that goes all the way up to my nose.
I told her that I relax about every 6-8 weeks, which she thought was good but said that my hair looks over processed. I have been alternating between Soft & Beautiful Botanical Relaxer (for my sensitve scalp) and S&B Ultimate Protection w/ Oil Relaxer (I prefer the one with Oil nowadays b/c it has left my hair feeling so nice afterward and a not bone straight). When she was roller setting it, it was just coming out and all up in the comb. She wasn't pulling or anything, so I know it isn't her method. I have very fine hair and rarely if ever use my curling iron or Chi flat iron. Maybe once every 2-3 months. My hair never holds a curl anymore and it used to when it was shoulder length, so I know it is possible. It hurts so much to see all the hair coming out... I am so sad and you all are the only women I can share this with who truly understand. I am so depressed about all of this. I have been working so hard at growing it out and loving it but it's just not worth it looking crazy. My hair ends haven't looked salon smooth since lawd knows when. I just passed the BSL (w/o stretching) and will probably end up somewhere between APL and BSL after the cut. My question to you ladies and professionals is it ok to cut the hair 2-3 weeks before a relaxer? I usually get my hair trimmed or cut right after a relaxer (right after the conditioner has been rinsed out) but I wasn't sure if timing mattered.
Of course I would rather get it over with (the sooner it will get better) but I wanted to know if that is the right thing to do?
Any advice would help me greatly. I am due back in her chair Friday and need to know asap. Thanks everyone!
BD21
P.S. Thank you for letting me vent... I could use a
**oops** Don't worry, it'll get better.
