Are you all newly natural? I ask coz this isn't a mystery or even news to me. We're talking about hair that is made of kinks: very tiny coils. These coils happen to grow next to each other and are so close together that they sorta are fighting for space, not to mention that unless you're into having knots, we manipulate the hair to keep it stretched thus opening up the coils. For people with larger coils, the coils cup each other and form defined clumped coils easily. For those of us with kinky aka VERY TINY COILS, the cupping doesn't happen easily and so we may only see it at the ends. It's the reason that for people with tiny coils to get the definition they have to shingle: ie stretch out the coils a few at a time from base to ends and keep smoothing them out so in the process you open up the coils and allow them to line up with each other in a way that they can cup each other as they contract. (
Demo of shingling)
Look at every person with tiny coils who does a WNG, you'll see clumping at the ends and none at the base. It's the nature of our hair. This is what it does:
When hair is short, you can see it form nice circular coils of definition:
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showpost.php?p=13195349&postcount=261
But as the hair grows longer, and we manipulate it opening up the coils and as they fight for space, a blending occurs at the base so that the only place where the coils are visible is at the ends:
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showpost.php?p=15161739&postcount=281
If I finger comb my hair with conditioner in it, the ends may form coils but the base just looks like a cloud:
If I were to separate the strands, you'd see the coils are all the way to the base, but they don't clump when en masse coz they are too small to spoon each other when all are bunched up together:
If you want to see coils, you need to shingle, and work on narrow sections at a time. It's a lot of work. I think the reason your hair looks like it has a "problem" is coz instead of getting to know your hair, you're looking at someone else's hair and trying to get yours to do the same.
I think if you guys view your hair as unique, you can find cool things it can do that other hair you are trying to emulate can't. One of the people who really enjoys her hair and takes chances with it even risking tangles that WNGs can cause (something chicken ol' me would not dare) is @
Foxglove:
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showpost.php?p=11246758&postcount=36