So...I had to do some more reading on this and I think it's important to also understand that this is not cut and dry...meaning that all women are to have a "shy" personality but rather a gentle and meek spirit. There is no cookie cutter personality for all women to have. I think if u look at the surrounding scriptures about adornment, this addresses something deeper, namely-the heart. God does not look at the outer appearence...like the fig tree...he is looking for fruit. So, this scripture is about bearing fruit. We can talk, and laugh, and make jokes! It's not about legalism, He just wants the inside of the cup to be clean, not just the outside which is a repeating concept. God looks at the heart...I'm beginning to think the whole new testament is about the heart!