Conveying Interest

babyu21

babyu21

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I went on a date the other day and the guy told me he had a hard time telling if I was really interested. I'm concerned because this isn't the first time I have heard that I was hard to read.

My question to you ladies is: What do you do to convey to man that you are interested in him?

Should I try to touch him more, I am not really a touchy person.
Should I just come out and say it, I am unsure about expressing it in words.

I must be missing something. In the future I would like to make it crystal clear that I would like to get to know you better. What should I being doing??? :perplexed
 
I'm the same way, and it's something I'm working on, but lately my m.o. is to smile a lot and make fun of him (gently). You don't have to cheese at him constantly or "make eyes" at him, just have a pleasant smile on your face most of the time while you're out. It shows that you are relaxed and happy, and he'll assume it's because of him :lol:
"Armyguy" who I've mentioned in the online dating thread, commented on liking that I "smile a lot" on our first date. He compliments me verbally, and is more of the touchy/feely type, while I mostly engage in a lot of good-natured teasing and smiling warmly at him. It's enough to encourage him, without making me feel awkward trying explicitly to "let him know" that I'd be amenable to going out again.
 
or you could just say "I'm having a good time or "I enjoy your company" or something like that, and accompany it with a smile. Or pay a compliment "you're easy to talk to", "you have good taste in XYZ"
 
Okay so I do need to throw in a compliment here and there. I am horrible at "making eyes" at men. One of my girlfriends is so good at giving men the eye and I just can't catch on. I do the gentle teasing thing a little but I have met a few men who took some of that the wrong way so I have laid off that method recently.

I should also try to say stuff like "I am really enjoying myself" I've never been good at saying stuff like that.

Any other ideas?? I am 32 I feel like I should be better at this. This is exactly why I want to find "The One" so I can be done with all this dating stuff.
 
A good way to give "eyes"... Think of your favorite food, look at his face & smile. The "I'm about to tear into this yummy food" & "I'm attracted to you & think you're cute" looks are oddly similar :lol:


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I think I need to take a flirting 101 workshop. I never developed that ability to be flirty and coy. I shutter when I think about having to say "I like you" let alone to actually get to the point when have to admit that "I love you."
 
babyu21 said:
I think I need to take a flirting 101 workshop. I never developed that ability to be flirty and coy. I shutter when I think about having to say "I like you" let alone to actually get to the point when have to admit that "I love you."
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babyu21
Lol...Don't feel bad....I'm not that good at flirting either... at least... not intentionally. :look:

The GOOD thing about men however, is that you usually don't have to do too much in order for a man to feel like you're flirting with him. :rolleyes: All you have to do is smile, give good eye-contact, laugh at his jokes, maybe touch him lightly when you laugh if he says something witty or funny, and voila! :giggle:

I really don't think women have to do much.... at least not on the first few dates. If he's asked you on a date, then you know he's interested. :yep: If you have accepted, then he should kind of know that you're at least open to having his company for a few hours lol.

Are you shy because you're REALLY interested in these guys and you don't want to do the wrong thing, or don't feel comfortable showing your feelings? Or, are you shy because you're not really feeling them like that?

I know that for me personally, if I'm really feeling a guy and I know/sense that he's interested in me too, then my "inner flirt" naturally shows through! :grin: I have to be actually interested in the guy though. :look:
 
Crystalicequeen123 I am not sure what my issue is. I'm thinking that it is due to a lack of practice since I go for extremely long periods of time with no dates or potentials.

The issue with this weekend is likely do to the fact that I was actually liking him and enjoying the date so I was feeling a little nervous and shy maybe.

When I talked to him he said he couldn't tell because it was our first time hanging out and I perplexed him. He said that now that he knows me better it won't be so hard.
 
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