That's it...You are using the conditioner as you would a shampoo. Some people wet their hair in the shower and leave it on while they suds up and then rinse it out. I rinse my hair well before entering the shower apply conditioner, let it sit a little bit and then rinse off before I shower (in the shower of course). I don't think there are hard and fast rules. You do what works for you. I use a few different conditioners, but my staple is Aubrey Organics GPB. I also use a leave-in after, because this makes comb-out effortless for me. I have relaxed, 4a/b shoulder-blade length hair. You have to find the products that your hair "likes" so this will be a good experience for you. There are plenty of product recommendations on this board, but you could just try with whatever conditioner you have on hand and see how you like it.