I don't know whether you are relaxed or natural, because I think we do it differently. I'll list what I do because I am bad at directly answering questions.
CW conditioners I like: HE Hello Hydration, HE Long Term Relationship, Organix Vanilla Silk or Coconut Milk, Aussie Moist, Trader Joe's Nourish Spa, VO5 Strawberries and Creme, Suave Tropical Coconut
DCs: Aussie Moist, GVP Conditioning Balm, Kenra MC, Megatek or Aphogee 2 minute thrown into one of the first three
To cowash: load conditioner in hair and finish my shower...washing, shaving, exfoliating, etc. By the time I have finished this my hair is properly saturated with the conditioner. Then I finger comb, or pull out my shower comb and/or Denman if it is detangling day, and run that through my hair *gently*. Then I rinse it all out, dry with a t-shirt, and add my leave-in and seal.
When I DC, I throw whatever I feel like using (conditioner(s), honey, jojoba/grapeseed/olive oil) in a container, mix it up, and slather it on in small sections. Then I sit under the dryer for about 30-45 minutes.
I don't DC after I cowash because I cowash so frequently (maybe 3-4 times a week). I only DC on Sundays, which is my normal wash day, before I do an ACV rinse.