Supergirl
With Love & Silk
There are mixed views on the forum as a whole about spanking, so I wanted to bring my question to like-minded Christian mothers, even if we don't agree.
I'll start by saying I do believe in the whole "spare the rod, spoil the child" philosophy.
However, I have mixed feelings about the act of spanking my own (future) children. I want them to be well-trained. I have seen Christian mothers who seem to use spanking appropriately as a training tool.
I guess the reasons for my worries are because I feel like my mom sometimes went a little too far with the spanking. I love her with all of my heart, but I don't ever want to make my children feel the way she made me feel sometimes when she hit me. Many times, she would spank when she was angry. I understand that parents are people too and they do get angry. Also, sometimes there were some pretty harsh words that came with her spankings. Being that way with my own children scares me somewhat. I've shared this with my husband and he says that physical discipline can be exclusively his if I am uncomfortable with it. But I want to have as much "leverage" with the children as he does. I don't want to have to be the "wait until your dad gets home" kind of mom.
I am thankful that my mother disciplined and trained me, but as I said there were some occasions that it probably just went a little too far. I know she was parenting the best way she knew how. Still, I want to avoid repeating some things that I experienced.
So, Christian mothers would you please offer me some guidance on this. Thank you
I'll start by saying I do believe in the whole "spare the rod, spoil the child" philosophy.
However, I have mixed feelings about the act of spanking my own (future) children. I want them to be well-trained. I have seen Christian mothers who seem to use spanking appropriately as a training tool.
I guess the reasons for my worries are because I feel like my mom sometimes went a little too far with the spanking. I love her with all of my heart, but I don't ever want to make my children feel the way she made me feel sometimes when she hit me. Many times, she would spank when she was angry. I understand that parents are people too and they do get angry. Also, sometimes there were some pretty harsh words that came with her spankings. Being that way with my own children scares me somewhat. I've shared this with my husband and he says that physical discipline can be exclusively his if I am uncomfortable with it. But I want to have as much "leverage" with the children as he does. I don't want to have to be the "wait until your dad gets home" kind of mom.
I am thankful that my mother disciplined and trained me, but as I said there were some occasions that it probably just went a little too far. I know she was parenting the best way she knew how. Still, I want to avoid repeating some things that I experienced.
So, Christian mothers would you please offer me some guidance on this. Thank you