Hmmm...I personally believe a couple who's practicing abstinence should not spend the night over each other's houses. I am now in grad school and when I first got here I had a childhood male friend who was also a christian abstaining from sex come and visit me. He drove a couple of hours and we ended up chillin' the whole day and lost track of time. Well it was really late and he was tired and didn't want to drive home. I let him stay in my dorm room, BUT I stayed in one of my friends rooms. I left him in there, and we met back up in the morning. There was no chillin' and both falling asleep and oooppss I left to go to my friends room. When we got to my room, I showed him where things were and bounced.
As for right now, I have been in a relationship for over 4 yrs and both are waiting until marriage (which is this September!). I have my own apartment and he has not once stayed over night. We actually made a practice for him to leave at a certain time. We do that just to not set ourselves up for temptation. Yeah, I know you can be tempted during all hours of the day, BUT late at night just chillin', snuggled up watching tv or something can get ya! We also do that because we don't want to mess up our witness to others. Of course, we and our family/friends know we r virgins and waiting til our wedding night, but the neighbors and other college students don't. It would not look good him creeping out of my apartment in the morning (even 2 or 3 am). They see people sexin' and creepin' out from every other apartment on this campus, so why would they think different of us? I as well as he try to keep everything on point, so when we do witness to someone, say for example ask them to church, they can't say HYPOCRITES!....I just saw some guy sneaking out of her house the other night! Its not super serious, but I do try to be cautious because I know I'm being watched![/QUOTE
ITA with MzC, we should be mindful of the message we send to believers and unbelievers in all that we do. I am in a relationship now, and we have decided not to sleepover at each others' homes. The Bible states which should flee from the appearance of evil. Therefore, even if you don't do anything, it will still look like you did, so its best to avoid it altogether. Its also about not giving the devil a foothold, you;d just be increasing the chance of falling into temptation.