Cheating, Whidh situation is worse?

Cheating. Which method would be more detrimental to you? and why?

  • Tiger: 10 -Jumpoffs crawling out of the closet @ 5 yrs of Marriage?

    Votes: 4 10.8%

  • Spitzer: Expensive "Call Girl" habit aka: Emperor’s Cub V.I.P. @ more than $2K per hour?

    Votes: 3 8.1%

  • McGreevey: Nice (DL) Husband with a Gay Lover, wanted to pay 50Mil to keep it Shhh

    Votes: 17 45.9%

  • John Edwards: Secret life, illegitimate child; but, otherwise a "model Husband"?

    Votes: 13 35.1%
  • Total voters
    37
  • Poll closed .
Ivonnovi

Ivonnovi

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In light of recent events, I'm wondering which method of "cheating" would you find more "difficult" to recover from.

For me I think it's the Call Girl addiction. Who knows what his actual "count" is and "Just Damn" at him wasting all that damn $ that now I can't get back or take with me!


BTW: Lawyers? Can Elin sue the "J-offs" for Alienation of Affection? Is this allowed in FL?. Afterall they are making money for their stories now. ......
 
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I think it's Tiger. Didn't he also sleep with "escorts"? And there are just so many and it seems like the number keeps jumping every few days. And he was sleeping around while his wife was pregnant. :nono: He could have given her something that she could have passed to the baby.
Even with McGreevy, yeah it was a man, but at least he kept the number limited lol
 
I have to say they are ALL equally difficult to recover from. The one that if I had to choose would be the most difficult or impossible to recover as in can you recover the marriage is someone who prefers the opposite sex.

Anytime there is an affair it is dibilitating. To me all of these scenarios are a type of death. The death of a relationship.

It is like trying to determine if someone you loved died and which would be a worse death. The person is dead and not coming back so it is the same thing just happened in a different way.

Oh and I have to correct you with John Edwards "otherwise model husband" naw. He was perpetrating. In the public eye they were all "otherwise model husbands".
JMHO.
 
Though agreed all are unacceptable if I had to chose it , which I did it would be/was: McGreevey: Nice (DL) Husband with a Gay Lover, wanted to pay 50Mil to keep it Shhh

All can personally affect my health but I would think that this situation would be worse not only for health reasons but mentally to know my husband allows other....men :blush: to satisfy him sexually :perplexed and then to pay so much money at that to keep it on the hush :nono: thats crazy I know violence aint the answer but :bat::hardslap::gunner7:
 
Thinking about it, I would have to say the affair like John Edwards would be the most difficult for me to recover from. The others examples are a pure lack of d*** control, so the consequences for such behavior are pretty cut and dry in my book. It's almost as if their behavior less of a personal attack on their wives but more about men out fulfilling a carnal fantasies. They really don't care about any of the women involved at all.

John Edwards on the others hand, his actions were personal. As far as we know there was only one other woman. He had to have some type of emotional attachment to this other woman and was comfortable enough to be rawdoggin' it with her. He went out and essentially created a whole other family behind his sick wife's back, moved them down the street, and laid it out there as this is how it is going to be. H*** NO!!!! By far he is the worst to me.
 
Bump,
......looking at the big picture, I think Tiger's escapades were trivial by comparison, I guess because he was reported as being so "cheap". LOL
 
All these are devestating but I think I would be absolutely done if I found that my husband was attracted to men. Dont think I would even want to try to mend fences.

But regardless of the circumstances I think having it published inthe media is the worst scenario of all!
 
CoilyFields said:
All these are devestating but I think I would be absolutely done if I found that my husband was attracted to men. Dont think I would even want to try to mend fences.

But regardless of the circumstances I think having it published inthe media is the worst scenario of all!
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exactly :nono:
 
i could get over him being attracted to men if he were honest with me. But paying 50M to keep it quiet? I'd whoop his behind.

For me, it's bad enough that you cheat and expose me to diseases, but now money is leaving my household? Uh uh.

But I can't vote, it's all horrible
 
ITA they are all devestating.

The original post asked which would it be more difficult to recover from.
To clarify I wasn't asking about the relationship but about you as an individual.

(Also, it's a shameless atempt to compare Tiger to some of his philandering famous and wealthy peers)
 
I can't choose, they are all very hurtful and deceiving, but I will try to rate them from most detrimental to least detrimental to me:

1. McGreevey: Nice (DL) Husband with a Gay Lover, wanted to pay 50Mil to keep it Shhh
2. Spitzer: Expensive "Call Girl" habit aka: Emperor’s Cub V.I.P. @ more than $2K per hour?
3. John Edwards: Secret life, illegitimate child; but, otherwise a "model Husband"?
4. Tiger: 10 -Jumpoffs crawling out of the closet @ 5 yrs of Marriage?
 
See, the thing about McGreevy is that I kind of understand. If I were his wife, I'd want him to be honest with me, but because of his position he has a certain image to uphold. He's a political figure, and no matter how progressive you may think America is, it really isn't. I'm not saying that it excuses him, but I think I'd be able to recover from that situation easier than the rest. Probably because a lot of the time when you break up with someone, you go through a little "what could "I" have possibly done different" phase. You might try to see if it's at all your fault. If he's gay, you know it wasn't in his control (not the cheating, but the emotions/attraction to men). So basically, I just think recovering from a man's lack of control from the beginning of our relationship is harder, or at least it would be if it were me.
 
Poohbear said:
I can't choose, they are all very hurtful and deceiving, but I will try to rate them from most detrimental to least detrimental to me:

1. McGreevey: Nice (DL) Husband with a Gay Lover, wanted to pay 50Mil to keep it Shhh
2. Spitzer: Expensive "Call Girl" habit aka: Emperor’s Cub V.I.P. @ more than $2K per hour?
3. John Edwards: Secret life, illegitimate child; but, otherwise a "model Husband"?
4. Tiger: 10 -Jumpoffs crawling out of the closet @ 5 yrs of Marriage?
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I basically agree with your list- except I voted for Spitzer, with basically the same rationale as the OP. This was an ongoing practice, and you were consistently taking money from our household to fund it :nono:
I would be pretty devastated by my husband having a gay lover, too, though.

Re: the Tiger scenario, maybe I'm just an anomaly, but I;m really not that bothered by it. Obviously I wouldn't want that to be done to me, but in the big pic, I don't think Tiger's transgressions are more major than a lot of high profile celebrity cheaters (i.e. Letterman, etc who was using his influence with his employees.. )- so why is so much being made of it. :perplexed And, frankly, the fact that he was so cheap with them actually makes me more comfortable with Tiger's liaisons. Dollars spent are like an indication of the importance in my mind
 
They are all bad but I cant get over the fact that my husband has been with a man and giving him my money no
 
I say John Edwards is the worst.


Tiger's issue seems like an addiction--I think I could get to the place where I understood it was not my fault, it was his fault, his addiction, his problem.

Spitzer--I think he just let power go to his head.

McGreevy--If you are DL, at some point I had to know you wanted it that way. At least it wasn't another WOMAN.

Senator Edwards--Poor Elizabeth is DYING and this is **** keeps smelling more foul and more foul. I don't think I could get passed this--it'd be eating me alive. I'd be very angry and bitter b/c I'd feel like he was trying to replace me before I was even gone.
 
LOL. You made this decision very hard because all of them would send me off of a bridge and would be hard to recover from.

However, I chose McGreevy. I would rather set myself on fire than to know that my husband got it in that way.
 
The Mc Greevy instance, I would be hurt because I would have felt him being with me was a sham from the get go, and that I could never be what he wants. The others would anger me, but I don't know if I'd be hurt, I'd just move on.
 
nysister said:
The Mc Greevy instance, I would be hurt because I would have felt him being with me was a sham from the get go, and that I could never be what he wants. The others would anger me, but I don't know if I'd be hurt, I'd just move on.
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I totally agree with you right here.

I would hate to be in any sort of situation with cheating, but the other's extramarital relationships were just a recreation of the same sexual situation with a different model of vagina. Lacking self control, such as in Tiger's case, is a personal failure that has little if anything to do with the woman he chose to marry. An indiscretion like Mc Greevy's lets everyone know that his ideal was something that I as a woman could never live up to. For a woman who really had no idea that her husband was DL, that's devastating think that you may have never been what he wanted. You didn't even stand a chance at what you were trying to do. At least other wives can pretend that's the case, but a situation like that blows your reality to bits in a way that is just too much for me.
 
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I chose the last one...John Edwards. I can divorce him and make him pay me and the kids for life. Plus his situation would be more easier to deal with and get over. At least he (as far as we know) slept with one woman. The others, slept around so much, they started the AIDS virus.
 
OT: See let me go on and be honest here...all of these women knew about their husbands extra-marital affairs and moreso the only reason we find them out is when something unexpected happens. These women have plenty of money and keep P.I.'s very busy. The reason that we find out is when someone is tired of keeping their mouth closed or isn't being paid enough or they ready to cash-in on that pre-nup...

For example, so many people knew about Tiger and this wasn't the first time that his wife found out...per the many messages she left for folks. The only reason we found out was because of the accident...had the accident never happened we woulda never found out as soon as we did...

So looking at all the money that is sitting there in that poll...Real talk ain't none of they asses just hurting...maybe for a minute or so honey and thats to keep it cute for "us-spectators" to want to feel/support them in the future endeavors that they are going to do such as book writing, tv shows, radios, and etc...all those prenups up there...babay they in someones spa somewhere high-fiving each other...not fooling me...

Back to OP topic the hardest has got to be McGreevy and thats because you knew you were gay before you married me and you gonna trick me?...sorry I woulda shot folks in their a$$ and drove myself to jail...
 
I dunno. If my man decides he likes other men, I just can't compete, I don't have the right equipment, so I wouldn't take it personally.

But.......if he keeps sleeping with redheads, damn. I coulda gotten a wig homey.:perplexed
 
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