Can/should you be in a relationship if...

No, you should not... JMHO... Take time for you and heal from the last relationship with your ex.. So, that when you are ready to date again those "residuals" from your past relationship will not go in/on to the new one.

Best to clear out old energy.
 
Yes, you can be in a relationship and have feelings for an ex. People don't turn on and off their emotions like a water hose.

The problem comes in when we let those feelings interfere with our current relationship.

We are not with the ex for a reason.
 
Fine 4s..... You have to let go. How about if your "ex" marries the current women he is with and not you/me? You still hold on to those feelings and he is all married to the other woman.. That is why I say you have to clear the old energy.

Then also, when you hold on to feelings for an ex... You are blocking the new person in your life from coming through..

No one wants to compete with old relationships..
 
Of course it is not easy to move on from an ex... However, ex's are ex's for a reason.. A good and new relationship should not be blocked because of that.
 
I personally would not want to do that. Normally for me when I have my attention on someone else it is because I have moved on. I am a all or nothing type of girl (there are pros and cons to that). There will always be a love for the ex but it is not the same love that was there when I was in a relationship with him.
 
Highly Favored8 said:
Fine 4s..... You have to let go. How about if your "ex" marries the current women he is with and not you/me? You still hold on to those feelings and he is all married to the other woman.. That is why I say you have to clear the old energy.

Then also, when you hold on to feelings for an ex... You are blocking the new person in your life from coming through..

No one wants to compete with old relationships..
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ITA! This is so true.
 
Alot of people move on to new relationship as a diversion. Hell I learned this angle while in college Marriage and Relationships class. For some it works and for some it doesn't. I was against it for years then I tried it and it worked. The guy knew I was dating him to get over my ex. (which meant this time I'd put out/he puts up with all my bs outta love) I didn't even realize it worked til two year later. LOL

I think its whatever works but if you don't want to be someone else rebound person, don't do it to others. karma is a b.
 
It depends on how strong the feelings are for the ex. If you are still pining to be with him because he broke it off (or because you broke it off and changed your mind) then I would suggest you either get back with the ex, or just date. Don't get into a serious relationship with someone else .

There's a potential for so many things to get wrong if you have one foot in one relationship and another foot in another.
 
nope work on releasing the feelings of pain, hurt or regret first....people tend to jump into patterns that are related to not resolving issues from previous relationships.
 
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