Hi Guys - thanks so much for responding
I have been lurking and asking for a bit. I guess I am just totally nervous about the whole thing - I have already chickened out twice! It is actually the pain of what I remember that kinda gets me to put the weave back in (instead of taking the plunge!).
Greetings again CurlyCrly,
I have not given myself a perm/texurizer before. It was the reason why I have been asking questions (and probably asking the same question again
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Say Londongirl - I would not mind getting some help in this area - unfortunately, I now live in what we shall say - in a far away place. I would prefer to do it at home though - I am not sure when I'll get back there. Besides, I am not too trusting of the stylists. Someone said that if their hair was to be ruined, they would do it themselves - I have been seeking a plausible application technique so that would not happen.
I am amazed at all of the ladies coming out with good experiences with beauticians. I was *never* so lucky
Besides, I feel that the beauticians now would not be able to deal with my head of hair. I am reminded of another experience: they would just look at it, shake their head, criticize me for it being so "nappy", slap on a perm (overprocessing it), and then move on to the next dollar - er - excuse me - customer.
That was another factor contributing to me going down the road I am no now. I agree - overprocessing can be EZ - that was why I was considering to do it in pieces/parts - I was going to ask a friend spot me though
Greetings JazzAngel,
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Mufasa, how long have you been natural and how have you been wearing your hair?
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I have been natural for quite a while - I want to say close to 8 years - give or take one - I don't remember. I now keep it in the braided/weaved style because I was too lazy to deal with it on my own - especially given the length and thickness
Sometimes it bugs me ...
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Have you been considering texturising for a long time now?
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Yes, for a very long time. I saw Lonnice's book and then tried to get to be that way. My sibling - bless her heart - tried to do it for me a few years ago - well, let's say 8. Unfortunately, we didn't have any neurtralizer
- and - I am sure you can guess the rest
But - it has grown back now.
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I ask these questions because many who have texturised get to the point of wishing they had remain natural.
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I have been looking high and low for a natural solution
I don't know of one unfortunately. I have been chasing solutions that seem to work well for the 3C folks. My hair tends to shrink up and dry. Don't get me wrong, I have had some times when my hair was really great. I was happy about this and thought "Say! I don't need a perm!". I have had folks compliment me on my own hair (which has never happened to me before) - but - the problem is in duplication
It just seems to be a crap shoot sometimes. I thought that a texturizer would allow for some sort of consistency. If I do "A" and then follow with "B", then I will get "C". I don't want to use chemicals - then again, I am tired of the weave - I guess I am at a point now where I want to look decent with my own hair and wanted more styling options than buns, twitsts or dreadlocks.
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Read the Henna threads and the straighten hair the natural way thread before you go the permanant route.
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Thank you for the advice. I had seen the threads. I thought with my hair texture, that it could not possibly work for me. I have a rather generous product graveyard of items that folks say worked wonders on their hair - I just have gotten a little frustrated with the grooming action now. My head is shaped in such a way that it needs hair in order to look decent. The only way that this can happen (with my hair now) is with a blowout - which is not good for the hair at all. I have also noticed that when just "wearing it out" after such a process, people have more of a tendency to want to put their hands in it
- mind you, it is not exactly shaped now. So, I wind up putting it into a bun or securing it with some clips. Not exactly flattering ....
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This lady has great styles take a look:
http://public.fotki.com/yantecoi/
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I have seen her hair. I saw it before her album went "On Haitus" status. It was beautiful! I think that she is more of a 3C though. I don't think our hair is similar and I don't want to delude myself into thinking what worked for her would work for me.
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This is the super long Henna thread, I didn't read more than the fist page but I think you will find it helpful. Just DO NOT do repeat processes in under a month.
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=48449&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
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Thank you again for the pointer. It would be nice to see it work on someone who has hair like mine though. To be quite honest, I had thought about doing the light texturizer only *once* and then trying the Milk and/or Henna options to ween myself back off perms. If these products can naturally soften/straighten the hair, then I should not need another texturizer. I don't know how realistic this approach is though
I don't want my hair straight. I like the elasticity of it and what I have been able to accomplish with it (naturally) in the past. I just want to be able to have many styling options, less time; and, above all, consistency. I hope such a thing is possible ...
Thanks guys!
Kind Regards.