UniquelyDivine
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InchHighPrivateEye said:^^I agree. I don't think crushing his ego is a major concern because, while he probably doesn't mean any harm, the reason why he's so nonchalant with stuff like you waiting for so long and being told to do something for your birthday, yet STILL thinks he's a great boyfriend is because he's probably used to people fawning over him and women treating him like it's enough to just be in his presence. He's probably not a bad guy but it seems like his ego could handle a downward notch or two
I'm not saying be rude or anything and you obviously don't want to be, but I do think you have enough room to be honest about how you feel like he's not rising to the occasion without worrying about his feelings.
Professional athletes! Welcome to their world, if you can't get with the program bounce. Cause he's doesn't have to change.he is used to people catering to his every whim
Lymegreen said:My thing is don't . Don't kiss his butt. I think you may have let an opportunity to discus this pass.
He probably breathed a sigh of relief when you didn't blow up! You had every right to be mad. But going to him after the fact is a little problematic. But, it probably gave you a chance to think things over.
Maintain decorum as a lady. No cursing etc... but I would be curious to know if you expressed hurt (I never like to say anger) after sitting around for hours would he look you in the face and wonder why you were upset.
I think you'd be giving a 'nice' gesture by waiting until (or if) something happens again. Short of that I can't think of a nice way to let him know.
If you are too nice he may think it's a play for attention and that nothing is really wrong. Afterall he's such a great guy how could you complain?
If you catch him in the act he will have a hard time looking you in the face and say that you are over reacting. Also, the focus will not be on his ego but on your feelings.
Brighteyes35 said:This sounds like a catch 22 relationship. I was in a relationship that progressed just like this. The first 4 months were the bomb and after that things went numb and it seemed like he took my kindness for granted. Deep down I knew he was a good man, no doubt about that but he was so self centered. When I pointed things out to him, instead of acknowledging them, he pointed out my faults. It was like some teenaged high school BS. My mom told me I was likely the first woman he had been with that called him out on his mess and he couldn't handle it. I eventually did what I have always done best when I wanted out of a relationship............I stopped answering the phone. It was hard but I felt why give you an explanation when I've been trying to address issues all along!
Yep! That's exactly how I feel! He once told me that one of his exes got down on her knees and begged him to stay, I truly think he doesn't realize his faults because the other chicks put up with the bull because of the $$$ and let him get away with it.
I know a lot of folks go through periods where they may take their SO for granted but after 4 months?!?!?! I can't wrap my head around it, I'm hoping he accepts what I have to say but if not I'll have to cut it loose. I don't have time to be mistreated.
@ThatJerseyGirl needs to come in here.
I stopped reading after the first paragraph because you were doing waaaay too much and you ARE now his PA, not his girlfriend He is taking advantage and he doesn't give a crap.