Baptism

[rozlips]

Surprise, I'm starting a thread in the Christian forum! Don't get out the holy water yet, I'm hoping y'all can help me out with a problem.

As y'all know I don't really care for church or organized religion, however dh's father was an Episcopal priest and he very much wants our children raised in the church. I'm in agreement as I do believe traditions and rituals are good for children.

Okay, here's our problem; godparents. We were very fortunate that my best friend and her dh are our firstborn's godparents. They are devout Christians and take their role of spiritual leadership very seriously. I have no qualms about them having that role in our son's life should something happen to us.

With the new baby we have a mega-problem. The couple we'd love to have is Jewish. Of course, I had no idea this was a problem, but have now been told it is. I'm tempted to buck this one, but we anticipate this being our home church forever. Besides its the only church I've been able to tolerate in my 42 years on this earth. I promised dh we would be a church family, so no sense in chipping the folk off any more.

The rest of the couples we know have a variety of strikes against. Two of my dh's best friends would be ideal, except they're Alabama fans. He's an Auburn fan and yes, he's serious about this. (You'd have to live in Alabama to understand). Another couple is great, he even played football at Auburn, but we suspect their marriage is on the rocks. And that pretty much takes care of all our friends.

What in the name of all that's good are we going to do? We're bubbling over with relatives and a relative can be a godparent, but we were kind of hoping to expand the tribe somewhat. Its been really nice having Luke's godparents as part of the family and we'd like to do that again. Any suggestions?

 

[MrsQueeny]

Have you thought about asking Luke's godparents? Q

 

[melodee]

ros- I heave some ?'s Can you clarify?


Do you want the Jewish prosepective godparents to serve as spiritial mentors? Moral role models? Good older friends? Or is it that you want your child to go with them upon your untimely death?

Do you want your kids to be together if you die?


I guess I'm not really big on godparents. My kids have no godparents, although we are indicating with whom we want them to live in our will. I think it's okay to have multiple godparents. Like the Jewish friends AND another couple within your home church. Just make sure everyone knows and is okay with this.

 

[pebbles]

Surprise, I'm starting a thread in the Christian forum! Don't get out the holy water yet, I'm hoping y'all can help me out with a problem.

As y'all know I don't really care for church or organized religion, however dh's father was an Episcopal priest and he very much wants our children raised in the church. I'm in agreement as I do believe traditions and rituals are good for children.

Okay, here's our problem; godparents. We were very fortunate that my best friend and her dh are our firstborn's godparents. They are devout Christians and take their role of spiritual leadership very seriously. I have no qualms about them having that role in our son's life should something happen to us.

With the new baby we have a mega-problem. The couple we'd love to have is Jewish. Of course, I had no idea this was a problem, but have now been told it is. I'm tempted to buck this one, but we anticipate this being our home church forever. Besides its the only church I've been able to tolerate in my 42 years on this earth. I promised dh we would be a church family, so no sense in chipping the folk off any more.

The rest of the couples we know have a variety of strikes against. Two of my dh's best friends would be ideal, except they're Alabama fans. He's an Auburn fan and yes, he's serious about this. (You'd have to live in Alabama to understand). Another couple is great, he even played football at Auburn, but we suspect their marriage is on the rocks. And that pretty much takes care of all our friends.

What in the name of all that's good are we going to do? We're bubbling over with relatives and a relative can be a godparent, but we were kind of hoping to expand the tribe somewhat. Its been really nice having Luke's godparents as part of the family and we'd like to do that again. Any suggestions?

If the pool of friends is really limited, and for various reasons you can't ask certain people, you could always consider asking Luke's godparents to be this baby's godparents. I see that a lot. People usually want godparents they're pretty sure will be around no matter what. Family is also a really good choice. Perhaps you could consider a member of your family and a member of your husbands family to be the godparents.

 

[rozlips]

No, we want the godparents to be a spiritural guide period, but especially if something happens to us. For instance Luke's godmother took him to vacation Bible school this summer. Not something I would've done in a million years, but it was good for him. Lets not even bring up the untimely death thing. Dh and I have been trying to do a will now for two years. I know our lawyer thinks we're nuts. But we've got too many crazy relatives on both sides and either way you slice it I see a really ugly fight. Both will definitely go to a relative if we die, but we've got a lot of work to do in that area!

ros- I heave some ?'s Can you clarify?


Do you want the Jewish prosepective godparents to serve as spiritial mentors? Moral role models? Good older friends? Or is it that you want your child to go with them upon your untimely death?

Do you want your kids to be together if you die?


I guess I'm not really big on godparents. My kids have no godparents, although we are indicating with whom we want them to live in our will. I think it's okay to have multiple godparents. Like the Jewish friends AND another couple within your home church. Just make sure everyone knows and is okay with this.

 

[rozlips]

Yeah, we thought about that and that's probably what we'll do. These friends are older and their kids are grown. They have two daughters and I think they think of Luke as the son they've never had. They've been absolutely brilliant and very involved. Exactly the type of godparents we had in mind. I think that's the problem; they've set the bar so high! I guess we can't help but ask, they can always say no if they think its too much.

If the pool of friends is really limited, and for various reasons you can't ask certain people, you could always consider asking Luke's godparents to be this baby's godparents. I see that a lot. People usually want godparents they're pretty sure will be around no matter what. Family is also a really good choice. Perhaps you could consider a member of your family and a member of your husbands family to be the godparents.

 

[pebbles]

Yeah, we thought about that and that's probably what we'll do. These friends are older and their kids are grown. They have two daughters and I think they think of Luke as the son they've never had. They've been absolutely brilliant and very involved. Exactly the type of godparents we had in mind. I think that's the problem; they've set the bar so high! I guess we can't help but ask, they can always say no if they think its too much.

This couple sounds like the best candidates for the job. I say ask them.