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Your hair is GORGEOUS!!! This is my goal for my DD's hair, she 9 years old and she LOVES her natural 4a/b coils. Your story inspired me, thank you.
 
Inspiired said:
I have memories of all my hairdresser visits where they just did not care for my hair, one in particular around a year and a few months ago left me with a bleeding scalp. I can only wonder how these hairdressers see a young vulnerable girl crying in agony but do nothing about it. You see, the thing that hurts me most is that I put my ultimate trust in these people. Before they start I beg them not to do it tight. I beg them not to hurt me. I'd much rather have a loosely sewn weave than sleepless nights and migraines for a month. Since I was younger, I have always had a tender scalp and rather than these hairdressers acknowledging that, they treat me as if I'm exaggerating and literally laugh. Worst thing is that it's not just one bad bunch, I tried SO many hairdressers all over the place. It has come to the extent that the smell of weave and walking past these hairdressers make me anxious. I have always experienced balding as a result of all of these (traction/tension alopecia I believe it's called) but I try to stay strong and see what I can do about it. The hair grows back and then I go for a protective style (weave at the hairdresser) and I lose it all again. It's a cycle that I'm starting to break. Since I went natural, I have never been happier. To me, it's not just hair. At all. It's life. My natural hair symbolises strength and happiness and I wish this is something that people can understand.

I just wanted to speak to that "tender headed" thing. Everybody's scalp is tender. It's just that we've been taught to endure pain as a part of hair styling. I can't imagine another profession where it's ok to criticize a paying customer for expressing pain at rough treatment.

I went to a "celebrity" hairstylist once who ripped a comb through my hair from root to tip. I was wearing a wash and go and he assumed my hair would be tangled. His solution to that "problem" was to just rip through my hair whether or not it hurt me or damaged my hair.

When I challenged him, ie WTF!, he said "Oh, are you tenderheaded?" As though I was in the wrong. I believe I was supposed to meekly accept his criticism of my "weakness". I told him that I never rip through my own hair like that. I also told him that I detangle at home when I'm going to let someone else touch my hair.

He got really defensive at that point. He said, "you'd be surprised at how many people who wear their hair like yours never clear it out."

I replied, that he should have asked me about what state my hair was in, and in any case ripping through it is never appropriate. Then I gathered up my belongings and left.

How differently would we react to abusive handling of our hair if we had been taught that it was a beautiful part of ourselves that deserved to be well cared for rather than some rough beast to be subdued.
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Oh WOW, thank you so much everyone! I was not expecting such nice things to be said.

Here's my hair a bit more stretched, no heat though - it was taken the other day :)

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Its nice to see 4b hair that grew so long so quickly, great inspiration!

And i know what you mean about hairdressers not acknowledging when you're in pain - I have a sensitive scalp and i get the same thing.

What's your regimen? (i think we need to organise a london meet-up soon cos i would like to grill you about your hair!)
 
Off topic: But I loooooooove your body. Are you just genetically like that? Any special diet or particular exercises, tips?!? You can give to help a shapeless sista out.
 
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AlwaysNatural said:
Off topic: But I loooooooove your body. Are you just genetically like that? Any special diet or particular exercises, tips?!? You can give to help a shapeless sista out.
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Awwww thank you so much! I think it's genetic because everyone in my family has a similar shape. I wish I had a special diet / did exercises but I don't, work what you got though that's the best thing anyone can do for themselves. I think any body type can be beautiful!

-- http://www.twitter.com/bootyfurl
 
Thank you so much everyone! I'll answer your questions soon within the full update. I'm so sorry I haven't posted it yet, I am extremely busy (soooo busy!) and I like to put my all into anything I write for you guys as you can probably tell, next week I promise!
 
abioni said:
How do get your hair to fall, is it the weight or it's the products that you use?
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pelohello said:
Your hair is BEAUTIFUL!!! How did you achieve that style? :lick:
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Thank you very much! I didn't do anything in particular to make my hair fall, this style was simple to achieve. It was a curlformer set followed by a twist out - only products used were Shea Butter and Castor Oil.

Happy hair growth!

---- Because You're Worth It ;)
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Pretty please vote for me for BGLH Icon of the Year :) http://blackgirllonghair.com/2012/12/vote-for-the-2012-bglh-style-icon-of-the-year/ Also please read some more previous posts: http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=591027 http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=622227 http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=656937 Length at October:
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Jennifer :D www.bootyfurl.co.uk ♥
 
Inspiired.


Do you so happen to have a YouTube channel. Also, I am a teen and I have been transitioning for 8 months now any advice for what you have done for your hair?
 
Hi, you have a very inspiring story and I enjoyed reading it. You did not mention your routine and products. Can you do so?
 
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