I agree. Hire a housekeeper. If you don't wanna go that route then you should have a talk about expectations (regardless) and divy up chores so that you only do what you like to do
I don't mind laundry
I hate dishes but I'll take that over cooking any day
Dusting, mirrors, vacuuming (with a small light vacuum) I'm ya girl
Cleaning bathrooms aren't really my forte but I can do the kitchen except for the oven....I kinda don't like mopping either
If you're problem is organization. Make sure you have a system in place for clothes, mail, and important papers which seem to be much of the hassle.
For clothes, make sure you hang, fold, and put away all laundry once it's washed. Make separate hampers for dirty clothes (towels/washclothes, whites, colors, etc.) Put each in it's appropriate place when done wearing them. If you wear clothes more than once throughout the week maybe you can designate a drawer to clothes that have been worn once and can be worn again before putting them in the hamper. Seasonal clothes can be moved out of the closet and drawers each season and maybe put in the closet and/or drawers of an unused room. That way you can keep rotating throughout the seasons. Just make sure you go through the items every now and again to donate unused clothing.
For mail, make a commitment to at least open or trash each item. After that, you can file them in a bill folder or coupon folder/envelope (make sure to include month/year of expiration outside. If the expiration is a couple months out I wouldn't worry about making another envelope just keep it with the newer ones so that you'll keep seeing it. Important mail that needs to be responded to can be kept in the bill folder. You can designate a day each week or biweekly to respond to the items in the folder. Just mark what you did on the outside and file it away. I use a binder, just buy a 3 hole punch.
I would also employ the "If you see something that needs to be done, do it, or shut up about it" method (insert registered trademark and copyright symbol) I love it but I can shut up too so it definitely works for me