AngelicRose07
back from years of hiatus
ASAP i really need your help/opinions (updated 5/1)
hello everybody *waves* i dont usually open up on forums but i really need some guidance and this forum is somewhere i can feel free to express myself.
so here's the deal:
i have a boyfriend and were been together going on 7 months. i REALLY enjoy being around him, hes great. great personality, not too agressive, not too timid, alot like me...in a male version. and i really like being in this relationship. he is independent, has a job(2 at that), knows how to budget his $$ so his bills get paid in full (on time), has great relationship with his family, no kids, faithful, and is also putting himself through college. great guy, huh?
so my problem? yea, im getting to that.
sex. yep...*sigh* sex. about a month or two into our relationship i decided that i didnt want to have sex anymore b/c im not ready for the consequences and since getting closer to God i have decided its something im going to just wait out untill im married.
now HE on the other hand doesnt have those views. he thinks sex is a way to show affections, and a way to have a special closeness. i agree with that, but i think that i can wait till im married for thattype of closeness. ontop of that, hes just a overall horny freaktified(is that even a word?) person.
our delimma is basically the sex thing. he says that he respects my abstinence, but he doesnt think that its something he can partake in b/c everytime we are together he wants to have sex and its too much for him to keep trying to stop himself.
so now we are ont he brink of a breakup b/c im just as persistent about being abstinent as he is about having sex. EVERY other part of the relationship is PERFECT...we just cant see eye to eye on the sex thing. its tearing us apart and i really want to stay with him. we talked about it the last 2 days and it seems as though breaking up may be our only option b/c of sex despite the fact that we are happy otherwise. im at a point where i feel helpless and dont know what to do
we are going out this saturday and i know its going to be a topic.
can you guys help me out with some advice now that you've heard my babbling? id really appreciate it. any kind of suggestions, compromises, or ANYTHING will be taken to heart.
hello everybody *waves* i dont usually open up on forums but i really need some guidance and this forum is somewhere i can feel free to express myself.
so here's the deal:
i have a boyfriend and were been together going on 7 months. i REALLY enjoy being around him, hes great. great personality, not too agressive, not too timid, alot like me...in a male version. and i really like being in this relationship. he is independent, has a job(2 at that), knows how to budget his $$ so his bills get paid in full (on time), has great relationship with his family, no kids, faithful, and is also putting himself through college. great guy, huh?
so my problem? yea, im getting to that.
sex. yep...*sigh* sex. about a month or two into our relationship i decided that i didnt want to have sex anymore b/c im not ready for the consequences and since getting closer to God i have decided its something im going to just wait out untill im married.
now HE on the other hand doesnt have those views. he thinks sex is a way to show affections, and a way to have a special closeness. i agree with that, but i think that i can wait till im married for thattype of closeness. ontop of that, hes just a overall horny freaktified(is that even a word?) person.
our delimma is basically the sex thing. he says that he respects my abstinence, but he doesnt think that its something he can partake in b/c everytime we are together he wants to have sex and its too much for him to keep trying to stop himself.
so now we are ont he brink of a breakup b/c im just as persistent about being abstinent as he is about having sex. EVERY other part of the relationship is PERFECT...we just cant see eye to eye on the sex thing. its tearing us apart and i really want to stay with him. we talked about it the last 2 days and it seems as though breaking up may be our only option b/c of sex despite the fact that we are happy otherwise. im at a point where i feel helpless and dont know what to do
we are going out this saturday and i know its going to be a topic.
can you guys help me out with some advice now that you've heard my babbling? id really appreciate it. any kind of suggestions, compromises, or ANYTHING will be taken to heart.
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