Are your friends happy for you?

[HairQueen]

Ok so some of you may think why am I bothered but I just can't help but notice when someone DOESN'T say anything and every body else does. I have this friend that I hang out with quite regularly. I have noticed that she never comments on my hair. When I first met her my hair was shoulder length like hers but a lot shorter and very damaged, so I used to wear a couple of rows of weave in my hair and she never said anything then - it was like I got the look of disapproval for having two rows of weave.

Now that my hair is suddenly much thicker, healther and longer than ever before she has still not commented. Now I know it cant be unnoticed because just about everybody else has said how much my hair has grown and looks healthy.

I know I think too much but I find it hard to be close to someone who isn't happy for me. I have friends that are prettier/cleverer etc etc than me who I envy but I am always able to compliment them still. Does this happen to anyone else?

 

[angaliquew]

Maybe she just doesn't like your hair...just playin

Personally, I give people compliments when I notice they've done something diff. to their hair but not everyone is like that...I wouldn't let it bother me, as long has you know your hair looks good

 

[MeccaMedinah]

Congrats on your retained length.

No, it doesn't happen to me. BUT, maybe she doesn't care about hair, as much as you or we LHCF ladies. If she never said anything before, she may never make a comment. No biggie... right? Happy hair growing.

 

[renee_n_3000]

If she never said anything before, she may never make a comment.

This was my thought, too, since you said you used to use weave hair and she didn't comment then either. She may be the type who doesn't comment on or notice hair very much.

Congratulations on the success you've had with growing your hair! Please don't let the fact that one particular friend has 'overlooked' that success bother you in any way.

 

[curlilocs]

Some people are just not complimentary or it could be jealousy. I wouldn't worry about it, we are all different. My friends and I are very vocal with each other about our appearances. If one or the other doesn't say anything it's usually due to preoccupation.

 

[caligirl]

It could be jealousy. Or maybe she's not sure that's your hair. I get people lookin all up in my head all the time to see if its mine. I'm like dang, just come out and ask!

 

[HairQueen]

This was my thought, too, since you said you used to use weave hair and she didn't comment then either. She may be the type who doesn't comment on or notice hair very much.

Congratulations on the success you've had with growing your hair! Please don't let the fact that one particular friend has 'overlooked' that success bother you in any way.

Her hair always looks perfect and she talks about her hair quite a bit so I know she is very much the type of person who cares about hair, but maybe your right some people just don't comment. Thanks for congratulating me it makes me feel better, I guess its cos I know how much work I put in so I was expecting a compliment!!

 

[HairQueen]

Some people are just not complimentary or it could be jealousy. I wouldn't worry about it, we are all different. My friends and I are very vocal with each other about our appearances. If one or the other doesn't say anything it's usually due to preoccupation.

True, I guess I am just a very vocal person. I always say to my friends I like your hair/shoes/bag/dress etc etc!!!

 

[HairQueen]

It could be jealousy. Or maybe she's not sure that's your hair. I get people lookin all up in my head all the time to see if its mine. I'm like dang, just come out and ask!

Ha! Ha! Me too. This was my point exactly, I can feel the eyes burning into my head and I just think why don't u just ask? That is why I felt awkward when I went out with her on Sat cos I know she was looking at my hair like . Oh well I will try not to let it bother me but sometimes silence can be so loud!!

 

[Supastar]

I think she's jealous and mad. I've had "so called" friends so that to me over hair, clothes, jobs, getting married--the list goes on. With hair, I get people that will compliment and then try to do the same styles I do, but they don't come out right on them--main reason because I'm natural. I like to shingle my naturally curly hair and people are always asking about that. For some reason, I feel uncomfortable telling them that I just wet my hair and go. They kind of look at you funny--What's that about?

 

[CandiceC]

She's probably jealous. If everyone around is looking/commenting and she's looking at your hair that hard too, then she's making it a point not to comment. I'm not sure how her hair appears in comparison to yours, but she's probably threatened by your progress.

 

[Tanelions]

Her hair always looks perfect and she talks about her hair quite a bit so I know she is very much the type of person who cares about hair, I guess its cos I know how much work I put in so I was expecting a compliment!!

I too think its jealousy. You should expect a compliment. This is your friend and if she is into haircare like you say then she does notice. Complimenting all the time is one thing, but never. Watch out, like you said silence can be loud.

 

[chocolate01]

Congrats on your retained length.

No, it doesn't happen to me. BUT, maybe she doesn't care about hair, as much as you or we LHCF ladies. If she never said anything before, she may never make a comment. No biggie... right? Happy hair growing.

What she said!

 

[balisi]

I too think its jealousy. You should expect a compliment. This is your friend and if she is into haircare like you say then she does notice. Complimenting all the time is one thing, but never. Watch out, like you said silence can be loud.

I agree with you Tanelions. I have a friend who is the same way. She'll NEVER say anything about my hair, but she'll try to copy my hair styles. She was natural way before I was, and it is apparent she does not know how to make her hair look its best even though I've helped her with tips and styles. I know she's very much into hair because she is a cosmetology student. I chalk it up to envy.

 

[HairQueen]

Thanks ladies for your replies. Its a real shame I think, cos it just puts a gap between me and my friend meaning we won't be as close as I am with some of my other friends. I dislike it when I feel that someone is in competition with me - they don't know what I went through to get where I got!! Oh well, thats life huh?