This was a topic on another forum I'm a member of and it got me thinking.
Before my Debt Free Journey I spent as I pleased. Never extravagantly but going into overdraft wasn't a problem. I would never refuse a night out with friends, didn't budget my money and with a public sector job, it wasn't hard for anyone to work out how much I earned. Ive also been a home owner since the age of 21.
I look back and I now realise that most of the people in my life thought I had a ton of money.......some asked to borrow money, like £100's at a time, one asked me to be a guarantor on a loan and just the general things that would be dropped into a convo. More to the point I never once said, 'I can't afford it' or 'Im broke this month'. Even though Im a single parent to 2 children people still presumed I was very flush and I never corrected them.
Now, I am an avid budgeter, I have more savings in the bank than ever before, I never go into my overdraft and Im able to overpay on my outstanding debt which is small. I sometimes find myself saying, 'I can't afford that' and talking openly about my debt and my outgoings. Im not playing poor but Im not coming off as well-off like I must have come across before.
I would never tell anyone what I have now because I know some people would ask to borrow, be jealous or just not understand what Im trying to achieve.
Do you NOT tell the truth about your finances?
Before my Debt Free Journey I spent as I pleased. Never extravagantly but going into overdraft wasn't a problem. I would never refuse a night out with friends, didn't budget my money and with a public sector job, it wasn't hard for anyone to work out how much I earned. Ive also been a home owner since the age of 21.
I look back and I now realise that most of the people in my life thought I had a ton of money.......some asked to borrow money, like £100's at a time, one asked me to be a guarantor on a loan and just the general things that would be dropped into a convo. More to the point I never once said, 'I can't afford it' or 'Im broke this month'. Even though Im a single parent to 2 children people still presumed I was very flush and I never corrected them.
Now, I am an avid budgeter, I have more savings in the bank than ever before, I never go into my overdraft and Im able to overpay on my outstanding debt which is small. I sometimes find myself saying, 'I can't afford that' and talking openly about my debt and my outgoings. Im not playing poor but Im not coming off as well-off like I must have come across before.
I would never tell anyone what I have now because I know some people would ask to borrow, be jealous or just not understand what Im trying to achieve.
Do you NOT tell the truth about your finances?
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