Britt
Well-Known Member
For those of you that are dating and in your late 20s and older, how do you feel about making more $$$ than your mate? I mention age, b/c honestly, I feel the older you get your requirements are a bit different. At 23, 24 it would not have been as pressing as an issue b/c I was still living at home. Now, I've been on my own for 3 years and have total independence. Also, it is more acceptable for a man that is under 25 to still be getting things together.
With that said, would you be ok making more than your mate? If you are, does that cause a bit of an issue since you are clearly the breadwinner? I def think issues can arise when the woman makes more than the man. I've seen this in my own relationship and also w/ friends. Personally, I've seen the issues and strain that finances can play in a relationship. Because I'm at an age where I am def seeking stability in a mate, I am not comfortable w/ dating someone that makes substantially less than myself. If he is making a little less and handles his $ well and has earning potential than I'd give him a chance. But a dude that is struggling to make ends meet? Nahhhhh .... can't do it at this stage in my life . My gf's and I are def at this crossroad and find ourselves faced w/this issue. One of my gf's has been on her own for a few years, has a good job, and was dating a really nice guy for 2 years, but from the beginning she knew he was broke as heck, and he was struggling. Anyway, his finances became the ultimate demise of the relationship. He was quite comfy living at home and taking his time to move out. He's 28. I have a similar problem w/ my ex/so also.
What say you? How do you feel about dating and finances? Be honest, no need to be PC, be blunt .... all feedback is welcomed
With that said, would you be ok making more than your mate? If you are, does that cause a bit of an issue since you are clearly the breadwinner? I def think issues can arise when the woman makes more than the man. I've seen this in my own relationship and also w/ friends. Personally, I've seen the issues and strain that finances can play in a relationship. Because I'm at an age where I am def seeking stability in a mate, I am not comfortable w/ dating someone that makes substantially less than myself. If he is making a little less and handles his $ well and has earning potential than I'd give him a chance. But a dude that is struggling to make ends meet? Nahhhhh .... can't do it at this stage in my life . My gf's and I are def at this crossroad and find ourselves faced w/this issue. One of my gf's has been on her own for a few years, has a good job, and was dating a really nice guy for 2 years, but from the beginning she knew he was broke as heck, and he was struggling. Anyway, his finances became the ultimate demise of the relationship. He was quite comfy living at home and taking his time to move out. He's 28. I have a similar problem w/ my ex/so also.
What say you? How do you feel about dating and finances? Be honest, no need to be PC, be blunt .... all feedback is welcomed