"Are You Avoiding Me"

I'd find out what he wanted first. Maybe he felt the need to talk with you about something new in his life, who knows, I'd try and find out first, then decide. If there's nothing urgent, trust that it is a red flag.
 
I wouldn't have canceled on a guy I liked on such short notice. He sounds insecure and needy, not controlling. And it seems like you are not that interested in him.
 
He's a little thirsty which can be a bit of a turn-off if you're not used to that sort of attention. It's obvious that you're not that into him though. lol

If you want to use this an excuse to dipset, do what you gotta do. If you see potential, talk to him about it.
 
This is one of those things that's cute when boo thang does it but it's annoying when it's somebody you don't like.
 
i'd feel some kind of way if a guy i was dating just dropped me last minute like then and then refused to see me afterwards, esp if it sounded like i really wanted to be w. him atm. anyone who truly likes you wouldn't do you like that. i say just let him go if this is any indication of your future treatment to him.
 
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Def don't give him any booty-he will be peepin in your windows and hiding behind some bushes with a dvd in one hand and a pie in the other.

Did he say he was feeling vulnerable? He used that word?
 
I hope you are as understanding when someone cancels on you last minute and then doesn't talk to you. Just sayin.

Seems like you just don't like him. Tell him and move on.
 
Dude does sound a little thirsty, but I don't think it is cool to play around with people's emotions when you know you're not into them--especially when they are into you. Remember the golden rule and put the dude out of his misery.
 
Sigh....I feel as if the original post made me seem a lot colder then what I really am.
I am a bit leery of a relationship with him for several reasons .He is recently divorced
( 2 years). He divorced his ex wife for cheating on him with a friend and having a baby by the person.
His ex-wife wants to reunite,but he says there is no way for reconciliation . If the wife had merely cheated and not had the baby then they would have toughed it out. Talking to him I feel he is still dealing with the residual baggage of the betrayal and is overcompensating with me.I feel as if I am his little "project" in some ways.
Maybe I am just wrong and overreacting.
 
Aww.... he sounds a little pressed but we all have our vulnerable moments at times. If he's not like that all the time, then I don't see the problem.

If you don't like him, the right thing to do would be to cut him loose. I know it seems like he's a great guy, but if you're not into him then you're not into him. No pointing in forcing it.
 
Yemaya said:
Sigh....I feel as if the original post made me seem a lot colder then what I really am.
I am a bit leery of a relationship with him for several reasons .He is recently divorced
( 2 years). He divorced his ex wife for cheating on him with a friend and having a baby by the person.
His ex-wife wants to reunite,but he says there is no way for reconciliation . If the wife had merely cheated and not had the baby then they would have toughed it out. Talking to him I feel he is still dealing with the residual baggage of the betrayal and is overcompensating with me.I feel as if I am his little "project" in some ways.
Maybe I am just wrong and overreacting.
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This explains his behavior. I am sorry that happened to him. Maybe just be upfront with him on how you feel. He has been hurt before and he needs to heal himself before he pursues anything with anybody. Until then, maybe be curteous and be honest.

misspelling but whatev:look:
 
Yemaya said:
Sigh....I feel as if the original post made me seem a lot colder then what I really am.
I am a bit leery of a relationship with him for several reasons .He is recently divorced
( 2 years). He divorced his ex wife for cheating on him with a friend and having a baby by the person.
His ex-wife wants to reunite,but he says there is no way for reconciliation . If the wife had merely cheated and not had the baby then they would have toughed it out. Talking to him I feel he is still dealing with the residual baggage of the betrayal and is overcompensating with me.I feel as if I am his little "project" in some ways.
Maybe I am just wrong and overreacting.
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My answer is still the same, even with his back story. It still doesn't soften the blow that you blew him off last minute to hang with someone else.
 
^^^ITA.

After reading your further posts OP you definitely sound like a caring person who just feels bad for the guy and his situation. However, sometimes the kindest thing you can do in situations like this is to be cruel. Kind of like ripping off a band-aid. This is just going to get worse as time goes on.
 
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