I know alot of women on this forum are very interested in getting married. Are there any ladies her who just don't want to be married ever? Personally, I'm on the fence about this but I know I'll have to make up my mind very soon.
a monogomous man or a man who finds a woman where he wants to be monogomous has nothing to do with whether he gets married or not, however those are the types of men who would like to get married...I thought I would never get married. I'm still not too big on it seeing as I view it as a religious ceremony and I'm not into organized religion. But, I realized #1 if a man doesn't ask you to marry you then he's just not into you. Also, #2 if you tell a man you don't want to get married then that gives him the opportunity to leave whenever he wants--not saying he cant in marriage but they feel more "free".
Honestly, I don't think a lot of men believe in complete monogamy until you walk down an aisle and sign some papers. Until the ring is on there are too many loop holes.
It's funny because we have been together for years and I never really wanted to get married or live together. My BFF told me I need to stop stringing that man along. I know he is the only person I could be married to but I love my freedom. Also, i have yet to see a marriage that I have admired. Too many people I know have told me too much of their business and now I'm afraid.
a monogomous man or a man who finds a woman where he wants to be monogomous has nothing to do with whether he gets married or not, however those are the types of men who would like to get married...
I'm just saying the fact that he isn't married would be his loophole--whether that's right or wrong. And since some people don't believe in monogamy until marriage or engagement he would have a "pass". Personally I would dump his a**.
I just think without marriage men can find a way to justify their actions. When you are married they may be a bit closer because you can end up with half of their money.
I am a fan of pre-nups...in my favor
I agree. Marriage will not make a man with polygamous tendencies monogamous. And a monogamous man will be monogamous, marriage or not. Any man I have to marry to close down his "loophole" is not a man I want to be with.a monogomous man or a man who finds a woman where he wants to be monogomous has nothing to do with whether he gets married or not, however those are the types of men who would like to get married...
plenty of men who are not monogomous, who don't want to be, barely try to be still get married and still cheat and they usually don't leave because its too much of a hassle to leave vs they really want to stay, they do still think they are "free" to do what they want though.
me personally I would prefer a man leave if/when he feels like it....it won't do me n e good to have a man sticking around unless he really wants to, not because of anything else.....if men like where they are at, they aren't going n e where
the character of the man is what makes him and his feelings on monogomy and love not the marriage
Ever since I was a little girl, I have not wanted marriage, and if anyone asked me, I would say it (which my mom found embarassing because she thought it it reflected badly on my parents' marriage). It wasn't *fear* really, but just a completely independent nature - love of autonomy and freedom. I just like being left up to my own devices. Always have. I like telling the world to leave me alone whenever I like. What I would say was, "I want to be free to go wherever and do whatever, without consulting whoever." I remember looking at women with husband and kids in tow, and feeling a shiver of dread/ nausea - I would make sure that would never be me, so trapped and confined. This kind of feeling is hard to explain to people, because so many assume that a desire for marriage is the default position for women.
I have met only one guy so far that I could ever consider spending the rest of my life with. I remember having a convo with a friend who said she has met several men she could marry. I'm like, "Where?"
This issue is real for me because the only man I ever truly loved wanted the marriage and children thing, and I just couldn't hang with that idea. Even if I could deal with marriage for his sake, I couldn't add children to it. Sometimes I wonder "what if?" After all, I love children, so would it be so bad? But I can't change who I am and how I want to live my life. Time may do that, but I can't will it on myself.
I agree. Marriage will not make a man with polygamous tendencies monogamous. And a monogamous man will be monogamous, marriage or not. Any man I have to marry to close down his "loophole" is not a man I want to be with.
I have met someone very special who's parents relationship mirrors what I grew up with and he is amazing, like no one else I have ever met before and he reminds me of my dad.
This I can also relate to, but it has a sting in its tail. Because the men I'm attracted to (dude I was talking about above is the prime example) are upstanding, solid, intelligent, responsible (yet funny) men of integrity, like my dad. And those types of men tend to be the "family man" "wife and kiddies are a priority" type. So... I guess I can't eat my cake and still have it... (Tiara, I know you don't like that one ).