ChasingBliss
Well-Known Member
And if you are...do you find she gives bad marital advice sometimes?
My mother (bless her heart) has been giving me advice on some matters that have caused me to struggle with paranoid feelings about my marriage. Without going into too much detail...she is advising me on a matter as if I should not trust the future.
It's nothing to do with my marriage but everything to do with her lack of trust in people period. She has always been a strong, do it yourself, do it by yourself and trust no one in the process type of woman. She has always been the type that says you should never trust ANYone to be there for you in the future because you never know what can happen. My dad grew up with this version of thinking too hence their divorce by the time I was 5.
I'm really irritated because I received some advice that somewhat caused my conversation with my husband to shock him. He was hurt and so was I. It resulted in an action that he would have taken to solve a huge problem...NOT happening At least at this time..He wanted to take a step back to re evaluate. He was hurt and in hindsight I do not blame him. And NONE of this would have happened if I had not been under the influence of my mother's advice.
Does your mother give (good) advice?
My mother (bless her heart) has been giving me advice on some matters that have caused me to struggle with paranoid feelings about my marriage. Without going into too much detail...she is advising me on a matter as if I should not trust the future.
It's nothing to do with my marriage but everything to do with her lack of trust in people period. She has always been a strong, do it yourself, do it by yourself and trust no one in the process type of woman. She has always been the type that says you should never trust ANYone to be there for you in the future because you never know what can happen. My dad grew up with this version of thinking too hence their divorce by the time I was 5.
I'm really irritated because I received some advice that somewhat caused my conversation with my husband to shock him. He was hurt and so was I. It resulted in an action that he would have taken to solve a huge problem...NOT happening At least at this time..He wanted to take a step back to re evaluate. He was hurt and in hindsight I do not blame him. And NONE of this would have happened if I had not been under the influence of my mother's advice.
Does your mother give (good) advice?