It's funny you bring this up because I went to this bible study on Monday (singlespleasingthelord.com btw) and she talked alot about online dating. Her viewpoint was that when you're going to these online dating websites, the website's not going to tell you things like: You're not ready to date right now, this person's a maniac, etc. and basically things that you would
most likely find out when spending time with this person on a consistent basis ( but with all these
people out here, this is not necesarily true all the time either).
Now although I don't date online, I'm not one of those people that throws the baby out with the bathwater. It works for a few, but I know that that's not God's plan for me. It's really one of those case-by-case basis type of things. My question for you would be: has God 'nudged' or lead you to continuously go on these websites as a means of obtaining a mate, or are you taking the situation into your own hands as a result of the lack of opportunities to date?
I view online dating, going places & joining things because whatshisname is going to be there, etc. as 'planting' yourself in plain view so that someone can find you. However, one should 'plant' themselves only when being lead to by God. Kinda like when Ruth laid at the feet of Boaz.
But back the the bible study-- what I learned from that was: girl, God got GPS on you! He knows where you at! He can bring you some dreamsicle from the Netherlands without the websites
Seriously! All you can do is go about your life doing what you're doing, and making sure that you're where you're supposed to be and when you're supposed to be there, and doing what you're supposed to be doing. And it's not as deep and calculated as people make it seem either. Next thing you know--poof! Mr. Dreamsicle will just show up! At least that's what I heard!
Hey, I'm not one with a extra pair of biceps in my bed either, so I'm right there with ya, but I can say I'm in a place where I can truly not fret over that as I did when I was younger (not saying that you are fretting, of course) But I always tell people: when you ask, God will just give you total fulfillment in every dept. of your life (as you allow it) and get you to a place where you celebrate being single, and look at it as the GIFT that it is-- not something that needs to be stopped asap!
I said all that to say: Sorry I kinda hijacked your thread like that, but I wanted to call myself encouraging you
! I know everything will work out for you though!