Any married nightly baggers out there?

[Snuckles]

I would LOVE to try this baggie method but I don't think my hubby would let me in the bed with a bag on my head. Once we were married he told me that I couldn’t wear a scarf on my head to bed anymore. This I thought was funny cuz he never said anything while we were dating (I guess he figured he got me now). Anyway, I purchased silk pillowcases.

I sorta approached him with the idea of wearing a bag on my head to bed, he joking said that the sex that night betta be good. LOL!

Honestly, what could I do? I think that even walking around with a bag on my head during the day would bother him. Don't get me wrong, I ultimately do what I feel but I do try to keep him in mind and maintain my sexiness.

I guess I could wear the bag on my head when he’s not around, huh? What do you guys do?

 

[SignatureBeauty]

Well My Husband don't care because we are in the house and about to go to Bed anyway, But even before we got married he knew that I would have a scarf on my head at night to protect my hair and to keep it from looking like a bird been pecking it. But Some Men just don't like that, But I mean if it will cause problems then I would leave it alone. But I know that I am still Sexy with that scarf & baggie on my head.

Well I guess you will have to give him a Love TKO! Then you can put your Baggie On LOL!!

 

[br0wney3z]

I was just looking at someone's album and saw that she covered her baggie with a bun cover that she ordered from ebay, they come in all different colors. So you can baggie the ponytail at night, and then slip on the bun cover over it so it doesn't show through. Just an idea.

 

[angie10]

I mostly baggie right before bed. I use the bag, then cover it with a bonnet. My hubby have to wake up real early in the morning, So he mostly goes to sleep before me. I guess he doesn't see too much of my baggying

 

[maleucia]

My husband doesn't mind my baggying. He sees I'm trying to grow my hair and is pleased with the results so far. He's all for whatever I need to do to continue that growth. Besides it's covered with the scarf I normally sleep in...and he's not really that interested in my hair at night.

 

[Blackoutzangel05]

I am not married yet but I have been wearing my scarfs since I met my future hubby. One time I asked what were 3 things that he thought I would need on a deserted island he said him, my Bible and a bag of rollers! So yeah he knows the deal...I don't wear my baggy at night because I wear it under my wigs right now but since I am thinking of purchasing a lace front, I might have to start baggying at night and I don't believe he will mind that either because I have been wearing scarfs since we met.

 

[aurora3140]

I would LOVE to try this baggie method but I don't think my hubby would let me in the bed with a bag on my head. Once we were married he told me that I couldn’t wear a scarf on my head to bed anymore. This I thought was funny cuz he never said anything while we were dating (I guess he figured he got me now). Anyway, I purchased silk pillowcases.

I sorta approached him with the idea of wearing a bag on my head to bed, he joking said that the sex that night betta be good. LOL!

Honestly, what could I do? I think that even walking around with a bag on my head during the day would bother him. Don't get me wrong, I ultimately do what I feel but I do try to keep him in mind and maintain my sexiness.

I guess I could wear the bag on my head when he’s not around, huh? What do you guys do?

Oh crap this was funny! Here I am being naughty during my Computer Science class reading posts on LHCF and this almost made me blow my cover!

 

[JustKiya]

I baggy (whole head) every night, and wear a scarf or a doo-rag over it - and I've just started doing that over the last year - previously, I would usually wear my hair out - but I also had dreads. If hubby told me I couldn't wear a scarf to bed, well. It would be a funny, FUNNY, conversation, and I know there would only be one person sleeping in that bed, and it wouldn't be him!
And as an OP said - by the time we are in bed, the LAST thing he is thinking about is what's on my head. I suppose if it REALLY bothered him, we could do our thang without it on, and then I would get up, put my hair up, do my thing, and go to sleep - the room is dark then, so it ain't no nevermind.

 

[Divine Inspiration]

Hmmm...I'm not married, but I've never had a guy give me grief over my scarves or anything else hair-related.

Does he know what your hair goals are? I mean, if he supports you in your efforts, I don't see why it would be an issue. Does he expect you to look like the cover of a magazine 24 hours a day? If so, that's a big unrealistic, not to mention that most beauty rituals that are effective are UGLY (masks, deep conditioning, shaving...these are thing that you just don't look "sexy" doing although the results are definitely sexy). Besides that, is it better, IHO, for you to never protect your hair but have split ends, dry hair, and breakage? My SO is into HEALTHY hair, no matter the length, and he knows that protecting it is one way I maintain the health of it.

And why do you have to stop doing that b/c you're married? If anything, it should've been the other way around.

So, I'd have a chat with him about it...I guess if it's that deep, you just have to pass on the baggy...in order to reduce some of the Aunt Jemima-ness of my scarves, I bought them in pretty colors and patterns to match my nightclothes. This make it attractive but hair friendly. If I'm baggying, I put it on first and put the scarf over it and he never knows it's there.

HTH
{DI}

 

[Snuckles]

Wow, thanks for all the quick replies!

I guess I could get up after doing our thang and baggy up. I usually just want to turn over and go to sleep afterwards so I'm going to have to munster up enough energy to get up.

 

[leleepop]

Put a baggy underneath the pillow. That way it will be right thier when you need it. You could also do a compromise where certain nights of the week, you dress sexy with hair all hanging.The other nights are baggy nights and if he wants to do the "thang" he still can too.lol

 

[Cayenne0622]

Awwww....lololol..

Man, this convo has the potential to get so deep. I don't know how long you have been married but your hubby is gonna have some serious reality shock waves to deal with as you guys move forward together. My husband doesn't care about my scarf wrap at all. I guess he has tunnel vision because his eyes are on the prize! Anyway, he's seen me at my very, very worst - illness, etc., and I'm glad that through it all, he still finds me to be very sexy, beautiful and desirable.

P.S. Don't start anything you can't finish. Meaning: don't get him used to you bending over backwards to meet his standard of beauty 24/7 and then years down the road slack off because it will cause BIG trouble. Just a bit of sisterly advice. I have friends that started off tryna please dat man (even if it meant not doing something that was important to them) and then he got spoiled and when they tried to adjust the situation all hell broke loose.

Share your hair goals with him. I hope he's the kind of guy that would understand.

 

[nelli711]

Awwww....lololol..

Man, this convo has the potential to get so deep. I don't know how long you have been married but your hubby is gonna have some serious reality shock waves to deal with as you guys move forward together. My husband doesn't care about my scarf wrap at all. I guess he has tunnel vision because his eyes are on the prize! Anyway, he's seen me at my very, very worst - illness, etc., and I'm glad that through it all, he still finds me to be very sexy, beautiful and desirable.

P.S. Don't start anything you can't finish. Meaning: don't get him used to you bending over backwards to meet his standard of beauty 24/7 and then years down the road slack off because it will cause BIG trouble. Just a bit of sisterly advice. I have friends that started off tryna please dat man (even if it meant not doing something that was important to them) and then he got spoiled and when they tried to adjust the situation all hell broke loose.

Share your hair goals with him. I hope he's the kind of guy that would understand.

This was very well said. I was going to write something similiar but I think you've covered it.

 

[LaNecia]

This was very well said. I was going to write something similiar but I think you've covered it.

I couldn't agree with you more! She put it very, VERY well.

 

[Divine Inspiration]

He sees the results when we're out and about, he'll do hair comparisons on how unhealthy anothers hair looks (calls it a hot mess).

Imagining him saying that made me laugh.

 

[Hidden_Angel]

I don't know why but this reminds me of a lady who works at my salon i go to who says her husban well have a fit if she has a weave because when they are ... erplexed "busy" he likes to run his hands though her hair.

 

[LocksOfLuV]

Hmmm...I'm not married, but I've never had a guy give me grief over my scarves or anything else hair-related.

Does he know what your hair goals are? I mean, if he supports you in your efforts, I don't see why it would be an issue. Does he expect you to look like the cover of a magazine 24 hours a day? If so, that's a big unrealistic, not to mention that most beauty rituals that are effective are UGLY (masks, deep conditioning, shaving...these are thing that you just don't look "sexy" doing although the results are definitely sexy). Besides that, is it better, IHO, for you to never protect your hair but have split ends, dry hair, and breakage? My SO is into HEALTHY hair, no matter the length, and he knows that protecting it is one way I maintain the health of it.

And why do you have to stop doing that b/c you're married? If anything, it should've been the other way around.

So, I'd have a chat with him about it...I guess if it's that deep, you just have to pass on the baggy...in order to reduce some of the Aunt Jemima-ness of my scarves, I bought them in pretty colors and patterns to match my nightclothes. This make it attractive but hair friendly. If I'm baggying, I put it on first and put the scarf over it and he never knows it's there.

HTH
{DI}

i agree. i honestly would be quite upset if my SO decided he had a problem with me wearing my scarf. i look even worse when i wake up with hair sticking all over my head from the result of not wearing a scarf.

i am not married either either but i wear my baggie at night AND a scarf. my man has no problem.

 

[Hidden_Angel]

I agree with you Locks & Divine .. Not to be funny but it almost sounds controling? Why all the suddlen he feels he has a "Right" to tel you not to wear that scarf? if he had beef BEFORE hand why didn't he bring it up before you were married?


Am I missing somthing here?

 

[ashmack]

If you hair is long enough to make a bun with your own hair then you can just baggy your ends and put your hair into a bun by tucking the bagged ends under. I do this and wear my hair to bed like this and to school like this. No one will ever know! Good luck!

 

[HERicane10]

But I knowAND HE KNOWS TOO! that I am still Sexy with that scarf & baggie on my head.

Well I guess you will have to give him a Love TKO! Then you can put your Baggie On LOL!!

ROL at Love TKO! Sometimes ya just gotta whip it on 'em and leave so dizzy they won't thinking about yo baggy.

 

[cocoa27]

This is hilarious!!! This morning ... (yes, this morning)... I had that very thought when my hubby and I was about to engage in some 'relations' before work!!!! I had my plastic cap with my scarf over my head. I was a little self-conscious at first - but I guess he noticed it, and said 'And if you're wondering ... no I don't have a problem making love to a woman with a Jheri Curl cap on!'

....And the rest is history

 

[LaNecia]

@ cocoa27!

 

[Divine Inspiration]

This is hilarious!!! This morning ... (yes, this morning)... I had that very thought when my hubby and I was about to engage in some 'relations' before work!!!! I had my plastic cap with my scarf over my head. I was a little self-conscious at first - but I guess he noticed it, and said 'And if you're wondering ... no I don't have a problem making love to a woman with a Jheri Curl cap on!'

....And the rest is history

What a way to make a LHCF debut!

 

[LocksOfLuV]

This is hilarious!!! This morning ... (yes, this morning)... I had that very thought when my hubby and I was about to engage in some 'relations' before work!!!! I had my plastic cap with my scarf over my head. I was a little self-conscious at first - but I guess he noticed it, and said 'And if you're wondering ... no I don't have a problem making love to a woman with a Jheri Curl cap on!'

....And the rest is history

girl me and my man do the due with my baggie on. it be crinking and crumbling and that man still doesn't care. i love him he is so easy to please. he is just happy he is getting it.

eta; i can't stop laughing at your hubby!!!!!!

 

[LocksOfLuV]

ROL at Love TKO! Sometimes ya just gotta whip it on 'em and leave so dizzy they won't thinking about yo baggy.

lemme high five you on that one.

 

[Cayenne0622]

Thanks Nelli and Vixx...jes tryna help a sistah out. lol Ya'll know these men get....its like the terrible 2's when they can't have their way. buhahahahaha

 

[Snuckles]

K, I can see how some might take this post a little differently then I meant it. My husband thinks I'm sexy all the time, we've been married 7 years and dated 4 years, he's seen me through breast cancer and all that it has to offer, trust me we've been through hell and back together!!! My husband is not trying to control me by any means. Ugh! Anyway, I think most of the women on the 1st page got what I was trying to say. Trust me, I don't need to be saved from my husband, please re-read the original post in a more of a light hearted way.

 

[Snuckles]

Put a baggy underneath the pillow. That way it will be right thier when you need it. You could also do a compromise where certain nights of the week, you dress sexy with hair all hanging.The other nights are baggy nights and if he wants to do the "thang" he still can too.lol

Great idea!!! I think that this is going to be my solution.

 

[MamaBraidedIt]

My husband doesn't care about my scarf wrap at all. I guess he has tunnel vision because his eyes are on the prize! .

I heard that!

 

[Cayenne0622]

This is hilarious!!! This morning ... (yes, this morning)... I had that very thought when my hubby and I was about to engage in some 'relations' before work!!!! I had my plastic cap with my scarf over my head. I was a little self-conscious at first - but I guess he noticed it, and said 'And if you're wondering ... no I don't have a problem making love to a woman with a Jheri Curl cap on!'

....And the rest is history

buhahahahaha.....too funny. Got me wondering if my husband has a second family or something. lololol That's totally something he would say.