TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
I'm sure this topic has been address countless times, but I thought I'd revive it in light of some recent occurrences.
I went out with a group of acquaintances from my part time job this weekend and returned home hoping that there was more to getting back out there than what I'd experienced. Granted, they were a little younger than me (and white), but it didn't take long for me to wish I was home with Netflix, wine and my dog. I spent $75 for a round of overpriced drinks at venues I probably wouldn't revisit and getting hit on by men I could have birthed (OK... that last one was a bit of an ego boost, but I don't have time to be anyone's mamma).
Surely, that's not all there is. I know I'm not going to meet anyone continuing to do what I've always done, and the prospects in my immediate area are slim. I'm not religious, so I have no interest in church boys (divorced one- I'm done). I work in a convent in a small town. I can count on one hand how many men I see a day. I don't have any girlfriends my age (or at all), and my coworkers outside of the widow are all married with children. My unmarried coworker and I don't share much in common (different tastes in music, activities, etc.)
I have never been a bar / club kind of chick, but I do enjoy great Neo-soul / R & B (especially live), and I wouldn't mind having a glass of wine at one of the live R and B spots. I haven't done that since my mid-twenties. Is it safe to head to a bar alone? Does it make me seem like an "easy target" or confident?
I'm OK with being single, but wouldn't mind spending time with the right person. I realize I need to shake things up if I want different results. What say you?
I went out with a group of acquaintances from my part time job this weekend and returned home hoping that there was more to getting back out there than what I'd experienced. Granted, they were a little younger than me (and white), but it didn't take long for me to wish I was home with Netflix, wine and my dog. I spent $75 for a round of overpriced drinks at venues I probably wouldn't revisit and getting hit on by men I could have birthed (OK... that last one was a bit of an ego boost, but I don't have time to be anyone's mamma).
Surely, that's not all there is. I know I'm not going to meet anyone continuing to do what I've always done, and the prospects in my immediate area are slim. I'm not religious, so I have no interest in church boys (divorced one- I'm done). I work in a convent in a small town. I can count on one hand how many men I see a day. I don't have any girlfriends my age (or at all), and my coworkers outside of the widow are all married with children. My unmarried coworker and I don't share much in common (different tastes in music, activities, etc.)
I have never been a bar / club kind of chick, but I do enjoy great Neo-soul / R & B (especially live), and I wouldn't mind having a glass of wine at one of the live R and B spots. I haven't done that since my mid-twenties. Is it safe to head to a bar alone? Does it make me seem like an "easy target" or confident?
I'm OK with being single, but wouldn't mind spending time with the right person. I realize I need to shake things up if I want different results. What say you?