ShiShiPooPoo
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My daughter has tightly coiled 4b or c hair that is beautiful to me. It is brown with coppery highlights when the sun hits it. I try to instill a good sense of self-worth, esteem, when it comes to her because I don't want her to ever question her beauty. She is 8 months old and I treat her hair just about the same as I do mine. What I mean is that I treat it with the same amount (if not more) of care. Anyway, my mom is a very negative, critical person and we don't talk, see each other much for primarily that reason (there is a lot of history behind that). Anyway, my mom came to visit this weekend and we were outside and I made a comment about how pretty my baby's hair was and she said..."Hmmmm. She's got her grandmother's hair...(no response from me). She's got her grandmother's hair...it's bad."
I couldn't tell you how angry/hurt I was...If she had been anybody else besides my mother I would have let her have it for real. I told her that my daughter's hair was not "bad" and that I LOVE her hair. I felt like I should have told her more but you know I was intimidated. My husband froze in his tracks when she said it 'cuz he thought I was gonna go off. Next time I won't be so nice about it. She got home and called my cousin and made a comment like, "Her mother has pretty hair...I don't know what happened to hers". So we had our neighbor braid her hair and it looks GORGEOUS! She has the perfect hair for braiding. So I was thinking about sending a picture to "various relatives" one being my mother, and writing some type of message that uplifts us as black women with the underlying message of "DON'T EVER CALL MY BABY'S HAIR BAD AGAIN!" I was thinking about quoting the woman who was saying that she tells her daughter that her hair is "growing to heaven/God".
Thanks for letting me vent...I don't know what to do with that woman.
I couldn't tell you how angry/hurt I was...If she had been anybody else besides my mother I would have let her have it for real. I told her that my daughter's hair was not "bad" and that I LOVE her hair. I felt like I should have told her more but you know I was intimidated. My husband froze in his tracks when she said it 'cuz he thought I was gonna go off. Next time I won't be so nice about it. She got home and called my cousin and made a comment like, "Her mother has pretty hair...I don't know what happened to hers". So we had our neighbor braid her hair and it looks GORGEOUS! She has the perfect hair for braiding. So I was thinking about sending a picture to "various relatives" one being my mother, and writing some type of message that uplifts us as black women with the underlying message of "DON'T EVER CALL MY BABY'S HAIR BAD AGAIN!" I was thinking about quoting the woman who was saying that she tells her daughter that her hair is "growing to heaven/God".
Thanks for letting me vent...I don't know what to do with that woman.