Fine 4s
Well-Known Member
I have so many questions...
Having one of my many convos about relationships and one of my male bff says: "At some point in a relationship all women will have an issue with another woman." Is this true for you? For those married or even in relationships for a long time (1+ years), have you ever had to question the presence of another woman? I find myself doing that because fundamentally, I don't believe men and women can TRULY be JUST friends. As much as I'd like to, I don't believe that it's 100% innocent.
I have trouble believing that my SO and I can be together for years and years and years without him cheating on me! Perhaps it's because I know he's cheated on his ex IDK. I've cheated in the past too so is it hypocritical of me to judge him but yet excuse myself? Why am I in a relationship if I don't believe that a) his female friends are innocent friends and b) why be in a relationship if I think it's just a matter of time before he cheats?
All this makes me wonder if I'm just not ready or if he's just not the one to bring me that peace of mind. This same bff has also said hat it's highly unrealistic to think that he will not make any new female friends just because he's in a relationship. My question is, what's the point of making new female friends? Again, at the root of this is that I don't believe they can truly be friends or that the intentions are pure. If the friendship is not due to work etc. then why would he meet someone socially, get her number of give his number for friendship? How many men do you know want to make new female friends? If this is what I'm suppose to accept then...am I really ready for this? Or is he the one? I don't want to invest much more time if I keep feeling this way.
Having one of my many convos about relationships and one of my male bff says: "At some point in a relationship all women will have an issue with another woman." Is this true for you? For those married or even in relationships for a long time (1+ years), have you ever had to question the presence of another woman? I find myself doing that because fundamentally, I don't believe men and women can TRULY be JUST friends. As much as I'd like to, I don't believe that it's 100% innocent.
I have trouble believing that my SO and I can be together for years and years and years without him cheating on me! Perhaps it's because I know he's cheated on his ex IDK. I've cheated in the past too so is it hypocritical of me to judge him but yet excuse myself? Why am I in a relationship if I don't believe that a) his female friends are innocent friends and b) why be in a relationship if I think it's just a matter of time before he cheats?
All this makes me wonder if I'm just not ready or if he's just not the one to bring me that peace of mind. This same bff has also said hat it's highly unrealistic to think that he will not make any new female friends just because he's in a relationship. My question is, what's the point of making new female friends? Again, at the root of this is that I don't believe they can truly be friends or that the intentions are pure. If the friendship is not due to work etc. then why would he meet someone socially, get her number of give his number for friendship? How many men do you know want to make new female friends? If this is what I'm suppose to accept then...am I really ready for this? Or is he the one? I don't want to invest much more time if I keep feeling this way.