honeyflaava
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I really need some advice and prayer, and perhaps even some loving correction and rebuke about what I'm currently dealing with.
I desire to marry but I struggle with letting go and letting God control this area of my life. I will admit the struggle is due to a lack of trust in God that He will completely satisfy me in this area without my help. I have a particular vision for my future husband that includes what I’m looking for in areas such as spiritually, financially, emotionally, physically, etc. But I really place a lot of emphasis on the physical portion. I am physically attracted to a certain type of man (think Ginuwine, Christian Keyes, Trey Songz) and I know that there is nothing intrinsically wrong with desiring someone who is attractive, but part of me feels wrong for having specific physical requirements and being so adamant about them. I feel like this mainly because of 1 Samuel 16:7 ““But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.”
This is a really big problem for me because I think that God may have already placed the man He has for me into my life that has met or is the process of meeting all of my other requirements, but is lacking in the physical department. He’s a great guy that I’ve known since high school and I’m not so much concerned with his looks, because he’s not ugly, but moreso his height. I’m about 5’6” and he’s only 5’7.” Ideally, I would like a man who is at least 5’11.” I’m really hung up on this physical shortcoming and yes I realize this is nothing that can be changed. That is seriously the only thing that is standing in the way of me really giving this guy a chance. He’s actually had an interest in me since high school which he expressed to me a couple of months ago, and the ball is kinda in my court now.
I guess basically what I want to know is am I being shallow and superficial regarding this guy or just my “requirements” in general and possibly missing out on God’s blessing for me? Should physical appearance really matter that much?
I desire to marry but I struggle with letting go and letting God control this area of my life. I will admit the struggle is due to a lack of trust in God that He will completely satisfy me in this area without my help. I have a particular vision for my future husband that includes what I’m looking for in areas such as spiritually, financially, emotionally, physically, etc. But I really place a lot of emphasis on the physical portion. I am physically attracted to a certain type of man (think Ginuwine, Christian Keyes, Trey Songz) and I know that there is nothing intrinsically wrong with desiring someone who is attractive, but part of me feels wrong for having specific physical requirements and being so adamant about them. I feel like this mainly because of 1 Samuel 16:7 ““But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.”
This is a really big problem for me because I think that God may have already placed the man He has for me into my life that has met or is the process of meeting all of my other requirements, but is lacking in the physical department. He’s a great guy that I’ve known since high school and I’m not so much concerned with his looks, because he’s not ugly, but moreso his height. I’m about 5’6” and he’s only 5’7.” Ideally, I would like a man who is at least 5’11.” I’m really hung up on this physical shortcoming and yes I realize this is nothing that can be changed. That is seriously the only thing that is standing in the way of me really giving this guy a chance. He’s actually had an interest in me since high school which he expressed to me a couple of months ago, and the ball is kinda in my court now.
I guess basically what I want to know is am I being shallow and superficial regarding this guy or just my “requirements” in general and possibly missing out on God’s blessing for me? Should physical appearance really matter that much?
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