Allowing your mate to continue to talk to the woman he cheated on you with.

This happened to me - my ex b.f was really good friend with his ex, they hung out all the time. I had no insecurities about it because I was convinced he would never cheat on me. What a fool I was. Anyway, I told him the only way I was going to get back with him was if he ended all communication with home girl. A year later I discover they were still talking when he left his phone beside me and went to the bathroom. When I told home girl to stop calling my man, can you believe she had the nerve to curse me out? You man stealing beech! anyway, that relationship ended not to long after that.

In answer, no, I wouldn't let my mate talk to the chick he was cheating with. If he can do it once with her, then he'll do it again.
 
Allowing is probably not the proper term to be used here. You can't tell anyone what to do. However you don't have to accept it. If thats what he wants to do, thats what he's going to do behind your back of course.
 
Apparently my coworker allows her female neighbor to talk with her husband. I could have sworn she mentioned he cheated with her like a month ago. Im newsy. Everybody agrees with it. They must not like her. Im new so i cant really dish my opinion I'm not comfortable yet. Girrrrrrrrl.
And i thought my *** was dumb.
 
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What did i tell u. They arent her friends we were at lunch and they talked about her like a dog. The main one who she calls her friend is laughing hysterically. I feel bad for her. That must be very uncomfortable to live next door to the person.
 
My ex-husband and I are on good terms, but that was after a while, seperated 05, divorced 07. We were back on speaking terms as of 08.

If his girlffriends didn't want him to speak to me, I wouldn't have a problem with it and I wouldn't talk to him. So far none have had any issues. BTW we are not besties who talk every day, but about 2-3 times a month and I have not seen him in close to a year. I DON'T WANT HIM. I was with him for 12 years. PLEASE LADY KEEP HIM OCCUPIED. He doesn't want me either, so it works out great.

It is an issue when someone wants someone. I have seen plenty former spouses who continue to talk especially if they had kids. Ex-husband and I didn't have children together, so it works for us, but it does make other's uncomfortable because they act like they don't know how to address us, I say, call us Thickhair and Ex-husband's first name, DUH.

ETA: I guess I should have finished reading the title. There was no infidelity in our marriage, I guess that makes a HUGE difference.
 
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He can talk to her whenever he likes because as soon as I read 'cheating' I thought, there's no way I'd still be with someone who cheated on me.:nono:
 
iCandyc said:
Allowing is probably not the proper term to be used here. You can't tell anyone what to do. However you don't have to accept it. If thats what he wants to do, thats what he's going to do behind your back of course.
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girl yes well said!!! i would tell him 1 time, u choose- her or me.. but if u choose me ANYTHING with her is a wrap.. and if i find out he continues contact, don't be mad when i'm gone and he's cut off lol.. the guy should be lucky i even stay with him anyway..
 
No, definitely not. If you cheated on him with someone and wanted to continue communication he would FLIP his lid. The nerve of some men ...and the naivety/ignorance of the women who allow them to run over them :nono:.
 
Men do what they want to do, especially after they are told not to do it.

Depending on his finances, lifestyle and what state we live in, I would tolerate it for 10 years then BOOYAH I'm taking half! Say goodbye to your skanks for me, I'm moving to the mediterranean to walk the sandy beaches and hang with Adolfo.
 
what, how can things even get to this point?

surely, the moment he cheats on you is the moment any form of interaction between you and he ends? at this point who he talks to and who he doesn't is not relevant anymore
 
YaaAsantewaa said:
This happened to me - my ex b.f was really good friend with his ex, they hung out all the time. I had no insecurities about it because I was convinced he would never cheat on me. What a fool I was. Anyway, I told him the only way I was going to get back with him was if he ended all communication with home girl. A year later I discover they were still talking when he left his phone beside me and went to the bathroom. When I told home girl to stop calling my man, can you believe she had the nerve to curse me out? You man stealing beech! anyway, that relationship ended not to long after that.

In answer, no, I wouldn't let my mate talk to the chick he was cheating with. If he can do it once with her, then he'll do it again.
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She s not a "man stealing b+*h ",he allowed it ,HE wanted to keep talking to her and ,excuse my bluntness ,but he didnt give two ishts about you .Dont blame her ,blame him and yourself fot letting him walk all over you.
 
Kindheart said:
She s not a "man stealing b+*h ",he allowed it ,HE wanted to keep talking to her and ,excuse my bluntness ,but he didnt give two ishts about you .Dont blame her ,blame him and yourself fot letting him walk all over you.
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Something about the word allowing isn't sitting right with me. *shrug*

He should be choosing to leave her alone and showing you he isn't going to do it again. (Providing you with pws, extra contact information, access to the car GPS tracker, offering to move to a different city) If he isn't... he really isn't for me.

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jazzerz said:
Something about the word allowing isn't sitting right with me. *shrug*

He should be choosing to leave her alone and showing you he isn't going to do it again. (Providing you with pws, extra contact information, access to the car GPS tracker, offering to move to a different city) If he isn't... he really isn't for me.

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At what point are requirements going too far? That falls into privacy issues IMO. Although, I'll take a peek :ohwell:
 
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