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chocolat79

chocolat79

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Ok, this may sound petty but I've never been in this situation before. This guy I'm "talking" to lives in Baton Rouge and I live in Atlanta area and he's coming to see me (driving) this weekend. He was going to come up earlier this year, but it didnt' work out. He's staying with me and have a few activities planned, but when we go out, should I expect him to pay?

I'm just not sure of the proper etiquette. I'm a part-time "Rules" girl, I guess, but I'm not sure how these long distance things are supposed to work. PLEASE HELP!
 
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Well I would be prepared with your own money just in case. He should offer to pay, but just in case you are prepared, also maybe you guys could take turns paying. I don't know how you feel about that, but its a suggestion.

I'm sure the ladies will have a lot of great advice for you, but have fun and stay safe!!!
 
I just thought of something else, since he is staying with you, he doesn't have to pay for a hotel, so he should pay!!! lol
 
Thanks! I'm definitely going to have my own money and I really dont' mind taking turns paying either (I'd rather not of course, but you know). Personally, I think he should pay, but I'm fine if we take turns. Thanks a lot!
 
He should pay. Don't even entertain the notion of you paying. Carry $20 cash for emergencies and then your credit/debit card. :)
 
He should PAY.....you are providing him shelter, your company and your attention for the whole weekend!

Is this his first visit? Are you sure you want him to stay at your place?

It could be very awkward, if you are not feeling him in person to have a house guest for the whole weekend.

p.s. he betta not ask for some gas money! :perplexed
 
CurliDiva said:
He should PAY.....you are providing him shelter, your company and your attention for the whole weekend!

Is this his first visit? Are you sure you want him to stay at your place?

It could be very awkward, if you are not feeling him in person to have a house guest for the whole weekend.

p.s. he betta not ask for some gas money! :perplexed
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LOL...yeah, he BETTER not ask for any gas money! Well, I met him through my cousin. She and he were really good friends and I THINK that he's cool. Yes, this is his first visit. Trust, if he acts up, there's a Hilton Place right around the corner, he will get put out.
 
chocolat79 said:
LOL...yeah, he BETTER not ask for any gas money! Well, I met him through my cousin. She and he were really good friends and I THINK that he's cool. Yes, this is his first visit. Trust, if he acts up, there's a Hilton Place right around the corner, he will get put out.
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Good for you!

I only asked because I did that once -- visited by someone after great "phone" relations, but in person he was a dud and I felt STUCK with him. :perplexed He was telling everyone we ran into (waitress, stranger on the street, etc.) that I was his future wife and I could not wait to get RID of him.....:lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
CurliDiva said:
Good for you!

I only asked because I did that once -- visited by someone after great "phone" relations, but in person he was a dud and I felt STUCK with him. :perplexed He was telling everyone we ran into (waitress, stranger on the street, etc.) that I was his future wife and I could not wait to get RID of him.....:lachen::lachen::lachen:
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:grin::grin::grin:
 
Update:

He didn't come up because he got laid off on Friday and he was taking it pretty hard, so he said he'll come up in 2 weeks. Update in a couple weeks, I guess....
 
chocolat79 said:
Update:

He didn't come up because he got laid off on Friday and he was taking it pretty hard, so he said he'll come up in 2 weeks. Update in a couple weeks, I guess....
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Thanks for the update!

I'll say this... although you don't know what could happen, I wouldn't bet on a visit in two weeks. I could be dead wrong, but I've seen this happen with a few close friends. Dude will be talking up a visit for a long time and right before it's time to make the trip, something happens. Usually financial (so they say).

So the visit gets put off and then there's still something later on... and something more and something more....

Anyway, again, I don't know what could happen, but be prepared for the fact that he could be backing out of the visit period, ESPECIALLY since this is the second time that he's bailed on you.
 
Bunny77 said:
Thanks for the update!

I'll say this... although you don't know what could happen, I wouldn't bet on a visit in two weeks. I could be dead wrong, but I've seen this happen with a few close friends. Dude will be talking up a visit for a long time and right before it's time to make the trip, something happens. Usually financial (so they say).

So the visit gets put off and then there's still something later on... and something more and something more....

Anyway, again, I don't know what could happen, but be prepared for the fact that he could be backing out of the visit period, ESPECIALLY since this is the second time that he's bailed on you.
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Bunny,

You're exactly right. I was actually thinking the same thing. I'm not really getting that excited because there is a STRONG possibility he won't come. I'm prepared for that, but thanks for reiterating.
 
Update...he didn't come. So, it's done...Bunny77, you were right. Not sure what is wrong with me, but I can't even seem to get past phone conversations. :perplexed
 
chocolat79 said:
Update...he didn't come. So, it's done...Bunny77, you were right. Not sure what is wrong with me, but I can't even seem to get past phone conversations. :perplexed
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:bighug:

I'm sorry... there's nothing wrong with you... I'm out of town right now, but let's revisit this next week... see if we can get you past phone conversations! :)

Stay strong!
 
It's his loss. Stay strong. I used to always wonder if something was wrong with me then I realized what it was. I wasn't into playing their stupid games.

But today, I have an SO soon to be DH. Don't worry everything will fall into place :)
 
Dont take it as if you did anything wrong , from what you told us he didnt sound like he was serious anyway. You have to weed out all the jerks before you eventually meet the right one.
 
Thanks everybody for the encouragement! :thankyou: It's just really frustrating :pullhair: Bunny, you can PM me when you get back in town.
 
chocolat79 said:
Update...he didn't come. So, it's done...Bunny77, you were right. Not sure what is wrong with me, but I can't even seem to get past phone conversations. :perplexed
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When I was reading this, Bunny's idea never occured to me. Now, that it's played out, it totally makes sense. That guy :nono:
 
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