Vent.
So I was called an 'oreo' today by someone who is not black, nor are they white. (This same guy also continuously is trying to ask me out to dinner, even though I continue to turn him down)
This is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves and I just don't know how to approach the situation.
This guy happens to be my coworker that I work closely with 5 days a week. Ever since I started this job last month he has said slick remarks about me being 'white washed' and I told him countless times not to talk to me like that or refer to me in that manner.
But today he just took it to another level. I was having a conversation with him and another coworker (she happened to be black as well). We were discussing how we were getting a new black associate, and how she would start working tomorrow.
So my coworker says 'so there will be four of us' and I say 'yup four of us, we're coming up!' So he looks at me and says 'but you don't count, you're an oreo!' I was shocked by that and told him again, not to talk to me like that.
I just don't know how to approach this situation, I don't like drama at work, but being nice and telling him respectfully not to talk to me that way is not working.
Even though I was firm in addressing it today and he apologized, I just know it is going to happen again.
How would you handle this situation??
So I was called an 'oreo' today by someone who is not black, nor are they white. (This same guy also continuously is trying to ask me out to dinner, even though I continue to turn him down)
This is one of my BIGGEST pet peeves and I just don't know how to approach the situation.
This guy happens to be my coworker that I work closely with 5 days a week. Ever since I started this job last month he has said slick remarks about me being 'white washed' and I told him countless times not to talk to me like that or refer to me in that manner.
But today he just took it to another level. I was having a conversation with him and another coworker (she happened to be black as well). We were discussing how we were getting a new black associate, and how she would start working tomorrow.
So my coworker says 'so there will be four of us' and I say 'yup four of us, we're coming up!' So he looks at me and says 'but you don't count, you're an oreo!' I was shocked by that and told him again, not to talk to me like that.
I just don't know how to approach this situation, I don't like drama at work, but being nice and telling him respectfully not to talk to me that way is not working.
Even though I was firm in addressing it today and he apologized, I just know it is going to happen again.
How would you handle this situation??
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