MikaMikami
New Member
Hi all, a random update post.
A month ago I decided that perhaps going natural wasn't my style so I read up on relaxers and learned literally hundreds of things I wish I had known before even starting my hair care journey. With that knowledge I relaxed my hair with Silk Elements Olive Oil Lye relaxer and had results that only appeared in my dreams. I actually cried from joy. My self confidence went through the roof and I was finally able to enjoy the length that I had not been able to properly see for well over a year now. My hair is actually longer than what I thought originally. It reaches the middle of my armpits. Talk about retention!
It's been about 7 weeks since then however from the 4 week onward my hair has felt as if it had been 8+ weeks since my last relaxer. On top of that I had about 4 or so months of growth from where I dyed my hair and it was starting to bother me. I'm in love with my dyed color, so to see the dark original color was slightly agitating.
Yesterday around Midnight I lost my mind and decided to dye my hair again. I used the same stuff I used the first time I dyed my hair (Palty a japanese brand in Milk Tea Brown) My hair came out great. I was sated, I went to sleep.
Today around 3:30pm, I grew sick of the difference between my relaxed hair and new growth. I search the internet a bit and found that it would have been better to have relaxed first then dyed but I didn't let that stop me. I grabbed my mild lye relaxer and plopped it on myself thinking nothing of it. I had set my timer for 10 minutes to apply it all. 5 minutes per section.....I took my time though...too much time...I ended up spending the whole 10 minutes on one section. I quickly changed my pace and slathered on the relaxer on the other side in record time before washing off the other side. I had started to feel a weird tingling sensation at the back of the first section and hurried to remove the relaxer with images of going bald and all sorts of scary things floating to my mind. Then my fear got the better of my and I washed every thing off. I even went so far as to use the entire bottle of neutralizing shampoo that I had on hand.
My head felt very weird. I couldn't name the feeling but it was in the category of "Abnormal". I felt my hair and As God as my witness. It didn't feel like hair....Far from it in fact. I panicked and tore appart my bathroom cabinet for some Aphogge Protein treatment. I had the deluxe bottle, brand new and all. I took it and empited it all on my head and cried out in pain as the liquied ran through certain aeras of my scalp. I held it together however and very gentaly massaged my head realizing that I had probably burned my scalp. Thankfully I experenced no more pain after that and sat under the dryer while it hardened. I washed it all out, Used the Moisureing condidioner as well as a minimun of at least 6 other deep penetrating conditionors and reconstructors including my newly beloved Shiseido Tsubaki (White and Gold lines),Brazillian Tech Smoothing Treatment, and good old Giovanni Smooth as Silk.
My hair thankfully semi returned to it's previous state of softness but it still feels very.......textury...pourous and rough. What was I thinking?
This is going to be the last relaxer for this year. This is going to be the last color for this year. What I went thorugh was life changing to put it mildly. To think with all the knolege that I have about caring for my hair that at a whims notice I'd throw it all away. I'm going to BKT my hair and slap a wig on it on days where the itch for chemicals comes 'a' calling.
Though after all my wordiness I must ask. Has anyone ever felt like I have? Has the need for straight/ more manageable hair ever over powered you to the point of no return? Is there truely any other way to combat this? I've tried strightening with blow dryers and flat irons/hot combs which I've recently mastered but the results don't really last and in order to get the look I want it takes so much work. I seriously need a better way...
Or a real good wig.
A month ago I decided that perhaps going natural wasn't my style so I read up on relaxers and learned literally hundreds of things I wish I had known before even starting my hair care journey. With that knowledge I relaxed my hair with Silk Elements Olive Oil Lye relaxer and had results that only appeared in my dreams. I actually cried from joy. My self confidence went through the roof and I was finally able to enjoy the length that I had not been able to properly see for well over a year now. My hair is actually longer than what I thought originally. It reaches the middle of my armpits. Talk about retention!
It's been about 7 weeks since then however from the 4 week onward my hair has felt as if it had been 8+ weeks since my last relaxer. On top of that I had about 4 or so months of growth from where I dyed my hair and it was starting to bother me. I'm in love with my dyed color, so to see the dark original color was slightly agitating.
Yesterday around Midnight I lost my mind and decided to dye my hair again. I used the same stuff I used the first time I dyed my hair (Palty a japanese brand in Milk Tea Brown) My hair came out great. I was sated, I went to sleep.
Today around 3:30pm, I grew sick of the difference between my relaxed hair and new growth. I search the internet a bit and found that it would have been better to have relaxed first then dyed but I didn't let that stop me. I grabbed my mild lye relaxer and plopped it on myself thinking nothing of it. I had set my timer for 10 minutes to apply it all. 5 minutes per section.....I took my time though...too much time...I ended up spending the whole 10 minutes on one section. I quickly changed my pace and slathered on the relaxer on the other side in record time before washing off the other side. I had started to feel a weird tingling sensation at the back of the first section and hurried to remove the relaxer with images of going bald and all sorts of scary things floating to my mind. Then my fear got the better of my and I washed every thing off. I even went so far as to use the entire bottle of neutralizing shampoo that I had on hand.
My head felt very weird. I couldn't name the feeling but it was in the category of "Abnormal". I felt my hair and As God as my witness. It didn't feel like hair....Far from it in fact. I panicked and tore appart my bathroom cabinet for some Aphogge Protein treatment. I had the deluxe bottle, brand new and all. I took it and empited it all on my head and cried out in pain as the liquied ran through certain aeras of my scalp. I held it together however and very gentaly massaged my head realizing that I had probably burned my scalp. Thankfully I experenced no more pain after that and sat under the dryer while it hardened. I washed it all out, Used the Moisureing condidioner as well as a minimun of at least 6 other deep penetrating conditionors and reconstructors including my newly beloved Shiseido Tsubaki (White and Gold lines),Brazillian Tech Smoothing Treatment, and good old Giovanni Smooth as Silk.
My hair thankfully semi returned to it's previous state of softness but it still feels very.......textury...pourous and rough. What was I thinking?
This is going to be the last relaxer for this year. This is going to be the last color for this year. What I went thorugh was life changing to put it mildly. To think with all the knolege that I have about caring for my hair that at a whims notice I'd throw it all away. I'm going to BKT my hair and slap a wig on it on days where the itch for chemicals comes 'a' calling.
Though after all my wordiness I must ask. Has anyone ever felt like I have? Has the need for straight/ more manageable hair ever over powered you to the point of no return? Is there truely any other way to combat this? I've tried strightening with blow dryers and flat irons/hot combs which I've recently mastered but the results don't really last and in order to get the look I want it takes so much work. I seriously need a better way...
Or a real good wig.
i don't have a story to offer but im just happy that your happy is almost back to normal. maybe the bkt would be best for you because the new growth would blend in better right? just take time to nurture your hair back to health then when you feel comfortable, that would be the time to do it. hope it all works out!
