CharUK
"Honestly, Truly"
Hi all, I don't want to go too much into detail, but I was hoping someone going or having been through similar could help? (I have pics attached to the thread which are quite large, so you can get a better idea as my sig pics are small)
I have been natural for 7 years (on the 5th January!) but I've had enough now and I would like to see how tex-laxing suits me.
Background:
I have very thick and coarse 4b hair, when I used to perm, I had to get the coarse perm kits and even then, my hair would sometimes revert, which meant my aunt would need to leave the perm on longer, and my scalp is extremely sensitive and used to burn (it's still sensitive now, and I wince even when having canerows installed)
I eventually stopped perming and moved onto relaxing and as I did not want to grow out the perm I had a relaxer put straight on top of my permed hair!!! (I know, I was young, forgive me!) naturally, after about a year my hair became thin and started breaking something awful. I then decided I'd had enough and began transitioning for about 6 months before doing the big chop as I couldn't deal with the two textures.
What I plan on doing:
I plan on using a regular relaxer and mix with conditioner or oil, as I feel using a mild or a texture softener would be a pointless exercise given my hair history, does anyone agree? I would then follow all the directions on the box and follow up with a deep conditioner. I also plan to oil my scalp a few days before and put vaseline on it on D.Day. As it'll be my initial time I would apply the relaxer to my entire head and what I'm aiming for is to 'touch up' my hair no more than 3 times a year. As I'm already natural I am aware of how to detangle and be gentle with this type of texture, but what I was wondering is will the line of demarcation be easier to manage this way, as oppose to when I was transitioning out of my relaxer? I aim to wear protective styles like wigs or braids when the going gets tough.
Reasons:
I've just had enough, the longer my hair gets the more unmanageable it becomes, I have 4 children and a job and I just cannot dedicate the time I would like to my hair, which leaves me frustrated and makes me want to hide behind fake hair. I currently only wear my natural hair for maybe 4 months out of the year, the rest of the time it's hidden.
Does anyone have any words of wisdom, or advice please? I'm very very nervous!!
Thanks in advance.
I have been natural for 7 years (on the 5th January!) but I've had enough now and I would like to see how tex-laxing suits me.
Background:
I have very thick and coarse 4b hair, when I used to perm, I had to get the coarse perm kits and even then, my hair would sometimes revert, which meant my aunt would need to leave the perm on longer, and my scalp is extremely sensitive and used to burn (it's still sensitive now, and I wince even when having canerows installed)
I eventually stopped perming and moved onto relaxing and as I did not want to grow out the perm I had a relaxer put straight on top of my permed hair!!! (I know, I was young, forgive me!) naturally, after about a year my hair became thin and started breaking something awful. I then decided I'd had enough and began transitioning for about 6 months before doing the big chop as I couldn't deal with the two textures.
What I plan on doing:
I plan on using a regular relaxer and mix with conditioner or oil, as I feel using a mild or a texture softener would be a pointless exercise given my hair history, does anyone agree? I would then follow all the directions on the box and follow up with a deep conditioner. I also plan to oil my scalp a few days before and put vaseline on it on D.Day. As it'll be my initial time I would apply the relaxer to my entire head and what I'm aiming for is to 'touch up' my hair no more than 3 times a year. As I'm already natural I am aware of how to detangle and be gentle with this type of texture, but what I was wondering is will the line of demarcation be easier to manage this way, as oppose to when I was transitioning out of my relaxer? I aim to wear protective styles like wigs or braids when the going gets tough.
Reasons:
I've just had enough, the longer my hair gets the more unmanageable it becomes, I have 4 children and a job and I just cannot dedicate the time I would like to my hair, which leaves me frustrated and makes me want to hide behind fake hair. I currently only wear my natural hair for maybe 4 months out of the year, the rest of the time it's hidden.
Does anyone have any words of wisdom, or advice please? I'm very very nervous!!
Thanks in advance.