thatscuteright
Well-Known Member
http://thoughtcatalog.com/christopher-hudspeth/2014/01/7-dating-trends-that-should-stop-immediately/
1. Making a conscious effort to show how much less you can care than the other person.
There’s a game commonly being played in the dating world called, I’m Going To Prove That You’re Into This WAY More Than I Am. It’s kind of like peekaboo but you’re the grown up, the other person is the baby and the objective is to meet their excitement with high levels of disinterest when your face pops into view.
I know this is a defense mechanism that people utilize as a way of proceeding with caution and protecting themselves, but if you think about it there’s no real benefit. Purposely taking long to respond to texts, waiting an extra day to return calls, being nonchalant and whatever about spending time together – these things will only fill the other person with doubt. Then, even if it doesn’t work out, regardless of the relaxed front you’ve put on you’ll still feel incredibly crappy inside. If you’re going to put your precious heart at risk, don’t keep it covered in protective plastic and Styrofoam.
2. Taking screenshots of interaction and sharing it with the masses.
If a person is trying to (and failing at) courting you, the worst possible thing you can do is snap a photo of your exchange and put it online for everyone to see. It’s incredibly, excessively rude. I get it when a scumbag is trying to cheat on their partner or something worthy of being called out, but when a person is just asking you to dinner or showering you with compliments, why try to humiliate them or call it being “thirsty?” That’s why there are only like 32 decent people left in the world, because trying to be nice is considered desperate and at risk for a grand, public ostracizing.
3. Hating being lied to, but also lying to others.
There’s a Stephen M.R. Covey quote that says: “We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior.” When someone likes you and you’re indifferent or not attracted to them, it’s easier to deliver excuses than it would be to potentially hurt their feelings by straightforwardly saying you’re not interested, but what happens when you’re in the reverse? When you place the ball in someone’s court and they are always busy or blasé towards you? Then suddenly it’s about honesty and not giving false hope or blowing you off because where’s the human decency?
Let’s face it, we’re a bunch of hypocrites and dating tends to bring out the selfish double-dealer in all of us. Being honest doesn’t mean being malicious; there are ways to tell the truth without breaking someone’s spirit. Wouldn’t it be nice if we didn’t exist in a chain of disappointment that has Susan leading on Tommy who’s leading on Kristen who’s leading on Bradley and so on, and so on, and Scooby dooby doo.
![mistakesmenmake.jpg](http://quentinmccall.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/mistakesmenmake.jpg)
1. Making a conscious effort to show how much less you can care than the other person.
There’s a game commonly being played in the dating world called, I’m Going To Prove That You’re Into This WAY More Than I Am. It’s kind of like peekaboo but you’re the grown up, the other person is the baby and the objective is to meet their excitement with high levels of disinterest when your face pops into view.
I know this is a defense mechanism that people utilize as a way of proceeding with caution and protecting themselves, but if you think about it there’s no real benefit. Purposely taking long to respond to texts, waiting an extra day to return calls, being nonchalant and whatever about spending time together – these things will only fill the other person with doubt. Then, even if it doesn’t work out, regardless of the relaxed front you’ve put on you’ll still feel incredibly crappy inside. If you’re going to put your precious heart at risk, don’t keep it covered in protective plastic and Styrofoam.
2. Taking screenshots of interaction and sharing it with the masses.
If a person is trying to (and failing at) courting you, the worst possible thing you can do is snap a photo of your exchange and put it online for everyone to see. It’s incredibly, excessively rude. I get it when a scumbag is trying to cheat on their partner or something worthy of being called out, but when a person is just asking you to dinner or showering you with compliments, why try to humiliate them or call it being “thirsty?” That’s why there are only like 32 decent people left in the world, because trying to be nice is considered desperate and at risk for a grand, public ostracizing.
3. Hating being lied to, but also lying to others.
There’s a Stephen M.R. Covey quote that says: “We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their behavior.” When someone likes you and you’re indifferent or not attracted to them, it’s easier to deliver excuses than it would be to potentially hurt their feelings by straightforwardly saying you’re not interested, but what happens when you’re in the reverse? When you place the ball in someone’s court and they are always busy or blasé towards you? Then suddenly it’s about honesty and not giving false hope or blowing you off because where’s the human decency?
Let’s face it, we’re a bunch of hypocrites and dating tends to bring out the selfish double-dealer in all of us. Being honest doesn’t mean being malicious; there are ways to tell the truth without breaking someone’s spirit. Wouldn’t it be nice if we didn’t exist in a chain of disappointment that has Susan leading on Tommy who’s leading on Kristen who’s leading on Bradley and so on, and so on, and Scooby dooby doo.