10 monthes without a touchup will my hair fall out

[sylviaatlarge]

hi lady's...
as i've said, it has been 10 mons. since my last relaxer and i now have about 5/6 ins. new growth. the reason for the delay was because i went to this dermatologist and he spoke to me about the dangers of relaxing so vehemenntly that i got scared and put off doing my touch-up for another 4mons...
with that said... i am now at my witts end because even braidouts have began to look hit lol i am scheduled for a relaxer this sunday and i washed my hair last sunday, but i'm thinking that i should probably do a protein treatment today at the latest.
my question is am i cutting it too close? and more importantly will my hair fall out after waiting so long to relax it//.
HELP!!! lol
signed: cousin IT

 

[M_BYRON_M]

Youve done so well over the 10 months in keeping your hair in good condition and i would hate for a relaxer to destory everthing .Maybe you ahould consider going naturla and just growing out the relaxer over time im sure it wont take you much longer .

 

[Chin]

Can you please tell me the dangers of relaxing that your dematologist told you?

 

[Tracy]

If you're afraid to relax, maybe you would prefer to go natural for a while?

If not, I don't think you're cutting it too close and I see no reason why your hair would fall out when you relax it if it wasn't falling out before.....

Good Luck!

 

[Chin]

M_BYRON_M do you know any information on this?

 

[sweetpineapple]

I thought stretching relaxers was a good thing and 10 months is definately a good stretch. I would definately go for the protien treatment before the relaxer to get your hair as strong as possible before any chemical application. Is your dematologist against relaxers completley for you or is he he agiainst frequent relaxers? Unless he thinks your hair just can take them I'm sure with the strecth time you give yourself you can still have healthy relaxed hair.

 

[deborah11]

did u previously have problems with your hair while relaxed. is that why u were seeing the dermatologist? if u were not having problems b4. u should be fine getting a relaxer. I recently went 20 months without a relaxer. I ultimately decided to get a texturizer. My hair is thick and healthy now. I think that I would eventually like to get a relaxer because some areas of my hair are underprocessed dwith the texturizer. My hair did not fall out from the texturizer . I basically got teturizer because took to long to do my natural hair and I really wasn't creative in terms of styling it and I perfer straighter styles. Good luck with your decision

 

[sylviaatlarge]

pricess t.. he just looked at my hair and went on and on about how the hair at the roots was in great condition, and when i mentioned that i was in need of a touch-up he immediatly said that i sshould stop relaxing altogether because it takes your hair out.
my thing was that we all know that if you have two different textures in your head (relaxed and natural) at some point the natural is gonna start breaking off; which mine has began to do now.

someone mentioned i should go natural. lol chile if you saw my head right now you would pay for my touchup ... my braidouts don't even last more than 2 days now; and that second day is a stretch...

 

[M_BYRON_M]

I only know the bacics in regards to relaxing but from hat ive learnt over themoths i know its no good in the long run

Im sure youve read sometihng along these lines before

STOP LIVING THE LYE!

This is a phrase that I read in a book when I was researching what I could do with my hair other than use chemicals to straighten it. So many women today suffer from all types of hair loss. Alopecia, aging, heredity, and stress are some of the most common causes. The cause that is found in almost epidemic proportions in black women, however, is chemical damage from relaxers -- or chemical hair straighteners.

The Process
Most of us have no idea what these relaxers really do to our hair... how they actually go about the process of straightening. There are two types of relaxers. They are SODIUM HYDROXIDE (lye-based) and GUANIDINE HYDROXIDE (no-lye). Although the no-lye products are thought to be less damaging, both types are harmful to the hair because in order to straighten it, they must first strip it of its natural moisture and then break down the structure of the hair.

Let me briefly explain. The hair has two bonds, a physical bond and a chemical bond, referred to as the S and H bonds. These bonds create the S-shaped kink or curl in African-American hair. Chemically processing the hair changes the molecular structure by breaking down these bonds... thereby damaging the hair. Once the bonds are broken, the hair loses its natural shape and elasticity, and can then be manually formed into straight hair. The changed S-shape bond can never be returned to its original healthy form. It has undergone a permanent change caused by chemical damage.

Hair Damage
Sodium hydroxide and guanidine hydroxide both have a very high pH factor, meaning they are highly alkaline products. When applied to the hair, they immediately strip it of all moisture, because any retention of moisture would reduce the effectiveness of the straightener. This is why a deep-conditioning treatment is always applied to the hair after the chemical process. These treatments are designed to drive moisture back into the hair shaft and to coat the hair strand to make it look shiny and appear healthy, or in other words -- to camouflage the damage. But no hair that has undergone a chemical relaxer is healthy. It’s been purposely and permanently damaged by the chemicals... and hair can’t be damaged and healthy at the same time.

Relaxed hair is always dry. This is why we’re constantly putting something on it.. oiling our hair and scalp two or three times a week. There are several reasons for this: 1) Start with the moisture-stripping process of the chemical relaxer that I spoke about in the above paragraph; 2) Add the steady regimen of hot-comb touch-ups, curling irons & flat irons (all work with heat which is drying to the hair) and hair sprays and styling/holding gels, (these contain alcohol which is drying to the hair). The natural oils our scalps produce can’t serve our hair’s needs. The scalp can’t manufacturer enough natural moisture to replenish the moisture we’re stripping from our hair on a daily basis; and 3) The products we usually use in an attempt to fight dryness (usually petroleum-based products, or "grease") don’t really add moisture to the hair at all. They simply coat the hair with petroleum to provide shine. At the same time, they clog the pores of the scalp so that the scalp can’t secrete its own natural moisture.

I always thought black hair either doesn’t grow as fast as Caucasian hair – or doesn’t grow at all. WRONG! All hair grows at the same rate – on average ½ inch per month. But the reason that most black women have shorter hair is because of breakage. Why does the hair break? Because of the harsh treatment we give it. We strip it of its moisture in every way we possibly can! So after a period of time (short for some, a little longer for others) the need for a cut to camouflage the damage done to your hair will become evident. When your stylist suggests a “designer cut” (like the fade), that's your cue that your hair has had enough.

Skin Absorption
In addition to the damage done to the hair by these chemicals, we should remember that the process involves more than simply straightening or texturizing the hair above the scalp. Chemicals are absorbed through the skin into the tissue, cells, and blood stream. We rub creams and lotions on our skin -- knowing that the skin will absorb them and be moisturized by them. The medical industry administers drugs through skin absorption -- like the patches for smoking, sea-sickness, and birth control. The skin absorbs everything; and as strong as these chemicals are – causing sores and abrasions on the scalp – why wouldn’t some of it be absorbed through the skull and possibly into the brain?

Causticity
The instructions on the relaxer boxes always say to wear gloves -- because the chemicals are caustic, however it is applied directly to the hair and scalp and left there for a period of time. Women experience burns and scabs from the toxic chemicals, and yet they continue to go back every few weeks for their regular dose of this creamy crack. The FDA banned the manufacture of household liquid drain cleaners that have a higher than 10 percent solution of Sodium Hydroxide because it corrodes drain pipes. Because it is so strong, it may cause dermatitis of the scalp. If left on the hair more than 10 minutes, it will dissolve the hair, causing it to tear easily and become fragile and limp. Would anyone put this cream on their face, or on their arm, and leave it there for 10 or 15 minutes? Then why put it on your head?

Inhalation
And then there are the fumes. A study done by the Cancer Surveillance program at the University California School of Medicine found the number of cases of blood cancer to be excessive for females in the occupations “cosmetologist, hairdressers, and manicurist.” Dyes, shampoos, conditioners, relaxers, permanent wave solutions, nail antiseptics, fungi, and bacteria are the suspect causes of this. Although the study does not specifically look for race in the findings, it is known that blacks in these beauty occupations typically have higher rates of blood cancer. Also, frequent inhalation of this chemical can lead to lung damage.

Love Yourself
In order to stop these damaging practices, we must first learn to love ourselves as we are. Why should we continue the practice of chemically damaging our hair so that we can wear it in styles created for other hair textures when African-American hair can be styled beautifully just as it is? It’s not hard to work with, and there are lots of varieties of styles to choose from.. From locks to twists to coils to afros... from dressy up-dos to the no-care-hair of free-styling. Our hair is not unmanageable, as many people think. My aunt once told me that our hair is easy to manage as long as we stop trying to force it to do things it wasn’t designed to do.

Hair doesn’t have to be straight to be beautiful. It simply has to be well-groomed. There are books by natural hair care specialists that take you through every step of transitioning from chemically-straightened hair to healthy natural stylish hair. There are also support groups all over the country to help people cross over and maintain their natural hair. If you’re interested in attending some of these gatherings in your area, visit A Nappy Hair Affair.

Our skin is brown because it’s supposed to be. Our hair is kinky because it’s supposed to be. It’s not something that needs to be fixed or hidden. It’s not something to be ashamed of. It’s just hair. It’s not bad hair or good hair. Just hair. The idea that it must be fixed (or straightened) is left-over baggage from the days of slavery... an idea that we’ve held for so long that we don't even realize why we do it, and we no longer have a clue how to manage and maintain our hair in its natural state. We shun our own natural hair texture because we have been told for generations that nappy hair is bad. We’ve been made to feel that the only way to attain ‘good’ hair is to straighten it. We’ve turned perfectly neutral descriptive words into negatives. Straight isn’t a negative word. Wavy isn’t a negative word. When we can hear the words kinky and nappy as being purely descriptive and carrying no negative connotation, and when we can all “stop living the lye”, we will have made it to true acceptance of ourselves

 

[sylviaatlarge]

deb... i went to the derm. because my friends hair fell out and i noticed that where i part my hair was looking a little wwider than usual so i began to imagine that my hair was falling out. i'm something of s hypochondriac

 

[hOnii]

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sylviaatlarge said:
deb... i went to the derm. because my friends hair fell out and i noticed that where i part my hair was looking a little wwider than usual so i began to imagine that my hair was falling out. i'm something of s hypochondriac

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that will happen if you've parted your hair the same way for years. it will start getting wider. my advice would be to stop, or maybe change the part to the other side..get creative with it.

if your hair is in good conition, i dont see why you would need to stop relaxing just because your friend's hair fell out. you'll be fine if you get a relaxer 10 months later. it'll be just like relaxing your virgin hair for the first time.

 

[Leslie_C]

I believe JenniferMD went a similar amount of time without relaxing and her hair looks great. check her out!

 

[Neroli]

I went 18 months without a relaxer -- I was in law school and just couldn't be bother with HAIR so I kept my 4b hair braided and finally got a relaxer for graudation -- no problems whatsoever.

 

[PretteePlease]

Re: 10 monthes without a touchup will my hair fall

i dont think your hair should have a problem if you are healthy & never had problems with the perm b4.

 

[CutiePie0Five]

Re: 10 monthes without a touchup will my hair fall

deborah11, can u explain to me exactly what a texturizer is?

 

[sillygurl18]

Re: 10 monthes without a touchup will my hair fall

That's why my hair seems thinner at the part.Duh! Time to switch up the part. Will it become thicker again do you think?

 

[deborah11]

Re: 10 monthes without a touchup will my hair fall

a texturizer is a mild relaxer that is left in only for a brief period of time to loosen your curl pattern. with the texturier you are suppose to be able to wear your hair curly or straight by wetsetting, flatironing, blowdrying. i got my first texturizer in May 2004 after 20 months of transitioning. the beautician put a mild relaxer in my hair for about 5-8 minutes. she basically splashed it on and combed thru with big comb and rinsed it out. it did absolutely nothing for my hair because she did not separate my hair in sections to apply it to all of the new growth. 2 months (2 weeks ago) later I went to a different beautician and he applied the texturizer (affirm mild) in sections (4) so that my hair would be more evenly processed and not overprocessed. this texturizer was left in no more than 10 minutes per section and worked thru. When i wash my hair now, the waves hang down and look somewhat ccurly like. I wet set and than flat iron hair in large sections. flat ironing entire head takes ablut 15-20 minutes. Will have to see if I like texturizer in the long run as I have never had one before. I never really wear natural hairstyles so will have to see. Don't want to have to use too much heat in my hair. I plan on getting touchups only 2-3 times per year. My next touch up should be in 4 months. I will than decide if I want to coontinue to texturizer of straighten in more --relaxer. Basically texturizer too new for me to know if I am in love with it. I just want to do what best for my hair and will keep it health so bone straight relaxer is not for me. Don't like bone straight hair anyway.

 

[Chin]

Re: 10 monthes without a touchup will my hair fall

Thanks for the information. I have just recently gotten a relaxer. I might go back to natural again. But my mom keeps on giving me a hard time about how puffy my hair is. I like my hair like this but she doesn't . If I go natural again I can always flat iron it. Will it be safe to wash, blowdry and flat iron natural hair every week. And what about pressing the hair. I tried that but I don't like it when it's slik to my scalp.