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Excuses people make to justify their short and/or damaged hair

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caribeandiva

caribeandiva

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This chick was just telling me the reasons her hair broke off and won't grow back:

-if you didn't have long hair as a child you'll never have long hair as an adult.

-I don't have time to waste or spend on my hair.

-I just need to start going to the salon every week like I used to and my hair will grow. <--- sounds like wasting time and money to me.

-I don't care about hair. <--- yeah right. then why do you buy weaves?

-I'm not obsessed with hair like you are. <-- she got me there


When she was done I told her that her excuses were just that, excuses. I showed her before and after pictures on Reniece.com and she was still skeptical.

Some people will never get it. Save your breath and move on.
 
JustKiya said:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NwrL9MV6jSk

:nono:

They blame it on everything but themselves.

So sad.
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I'm sorry but :lachen:

I honestly think it's simply a lack of knowledge and thereby a lack of confidence that they can have healthy, long hair. If BW hadn't collectively been taught that beautiful hair is unattainable for us, folks may put more effort into it. And since so many of us have a deep hate for our hair textures, a lot of women would just rather not deal with or think about it and focus their time/energy/money on just abusing it into submission.

Plus, if they truly believe that it's out of their reach, I think it's easier for them to pretend that they don't care.
 
My roommate is like that, full of excuses.

She keeps buying products (good ones at that), but her practices are shot-to-the-curb. I tell her that if she doesn't change her hair care practices, then the products won't matter. She thinks that the products are some magical thing that will make her hair grow.

She doesn't retain her length at all. Her ends were very bad, so she got a bob last fall, like in September...it's now almost February, and her hair is still the same length :-\

She puts heat in it a whole lot, and she uses the highest temp setting of the flat-iron. She doesn't know how to do anything in moderation. She looks at my progress and wonders why she doesn't have much her self.

I let her fail on her own. Sometimes, you just get tired of trying to help people who won't help themselves.
 
It has been a while since I'd heard any of it and I just heard it today.

My black roommates (weaved up) were explaining to one of the white ones and they didn't have one good thing to say about hair. "It breaks off when I do this, this, and this..." I wanted to pop in the room and say, "Disclaimer: That's YOUR hair, not mine!"
 
Oh, let's not forget that not everyone wants or cares to have long healthy hair. Some people are totally cool with having short beat up hair. keep it short and every month it's like a fresh start. Or, they weave it up and it always looks fresh.
 
Qualitee said:
Most popular "I dont got that good hair" :rolleyes:
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:lachen::lachen:

My mom use to tell me i had a good grade of hair BUT it was thick???! First- whats wrong with thick hair?? I rather thick hair then little strings. Second- i didnt consider my hair "good" because it was dry(bone dry), dirty(because of her,actually! she use to tell me dirt makes my hair grow, and how my cousin only washes her hair like once a year and its down her back:sad:), and damaged!

Also when we would see a black women with long hair i.e. APL, she would say "She has good hair" or "She must be mixed":nono:

I know this isnt a race thread, but im sorry i am tired of the stupid excuses to explain why WE(as black women) do not have long hair. Its not race or hair texture, its because we do not take care of our hair properly, plain & simple! And you cannot change any ones mind unless they experience or see it(the results) for their selves.
So now i only give a person the same advice once. No more A-B-C, 1-2-3, over & over again.
 
caribeandiva said:
This chick was just telling me the reasons her hair broke off and won't grow back:

-If you didn't have long hair as a child you'll never have long hair as an adult.

-I don't have time to waste or spend on my hair.

-I just need to start going to the salon every week like I used to and my hair will grow. <--- sounds like wasting time and money to me.

-I don't care about hair. <--- yeah right. then why do you buy weaves?

-I'm not obsessed with hair like you are. <-- she got me there


When she was done I told her that her excuses were just that, excuses. I showed her before and after pictures on Reniece.com and she was still skeptical.

Some people will never get it. Save your breath and move on.
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Dang, I'm speechless, I don't have much to say! Phew!:nono:
 
"I used to have long hair but I cut it." Ummm....you cut it 5 years ago boo boo. Why is it still the same length it was when you cut it?
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All my friends with damaged hair say that they like it that way and wear it that short and choppy on purpose. I just look at them like...come on son. Who cuts their ends into a W shape?


That was the story that I told too though.
When my hair first started to break at the crown, I'd tell people that I had gotten layers.
When it broke more, I told people that I was experimenting with different lengths.
And when it was all gone, like to the top of my ears, I'd tell people that I'd cut it that way. And I maintained my lie too...people would ask me how come my hair didn't grow, and I'd just be like oh..I get it cut every few months. (False)

It's easier to make up stuff than to swallow your pride and admit that you don't know wtf you're doing. And that you are scared and need help.
 
I like weave and never plan on wearing my hair out anyway :perplexed
I don't have a good grain of hair :perplexed
My hair doesn't grow :perplexed
Long hair doesn't run in my family :perplexed
I'm not mixed... my hair won't look like the ladies on those sites :perplexed


....all this from someone who has seen me go from stringy NL to healthy APL in a year
 
PearlyCurly said:
:lachen::lachen:

My mom use to tell me i had a good grade of hair BUT it was thick???! First- whats wrong with thick hair?? I rather thick hair then little strings. Second- i didnt consider my hair "good" because it was dry(bone dry), dirty(because of her,actually! she use to tell me dirt makes my hair grow, and how my cousin only washes her hair like once a year and its down her back:sad:), and damaged!

Also when we would see a black women with long hair i.e. APL, she would say "She has good hair" or "She must be mixed":nono:

I know this isnt a race thread, but im sorry i am tired of the stupid excuses to explain why WE(as black women) do not have long hair. Its not race or hair texture, its because we do not take care of our hair properly, plain & simple! And you cannot change any ones mind unless they experience or see it(the results) for their selves.
So now i only give a person the same advice once. No more A-B-C, 1-2-3, over & over again.
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:clapping: Great post!
 
yaya24 said:
I like weave and never plan on wearing my hair out anyway :perplexed
I don't have a good grain of hair :perplexed
My hair doesn't grow :perplexed
Long hair doesn't run in my family :perplexed
I'm not mixed... my hair won't look like the ladies on those sites :perplexed


....all this from someone who has seen me go from stringy NL to healthy APL in a year
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and they still say that? amazing. I'd be all over you with questions back when my hair was still damaged. I've always been that way.
 
Chaosbutterfly said:
All my friends with damaged hair say that they like it that way and wear it that short and choppy on purpose. I just look at them like...come on son. Who cuts their ends into a W shape?


That was the story that I told too though.
When my hair first started to break at the crown, I'd tell people that I had gotten layers.
When it broke more, I told people that I was experimenting with different lengths.
And when it was all gone, like to the top of my ears, I'd tell people that I'd cut it that way. And I maintained my lie too...people would ask me how come my hair didn't grow, and I'd just be like oh..I get it cut every few months. (False)

It's easier to make up stuff than to swallow your pride and admit that you don't know wtf you're doing. And that you are scared and need help.
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LMAO @ the bolded! :lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
Chaosbutterfly said:
All my friends with damaged hair say that they like it that way and wear it that short and choppy on purpose. I just look at them like...come on son. Who cuts their ends into a W shape?


That was the story that I told too though.
When my hair first started to break at the crown, I'd tell people that I had gotten layers.
When it broke more, I told people that I was experimenting with different lengths.
And when it was all gone, like to the top of my ears, I'd tell people that I'd cut it that way. And I maintained my lie too...people would ask me how come my hair didn't grow, and I'd just be like oh..I get it cut every few months. (False)

It's easier to make up stuff than to swallow your pride and admit that you don't know wtf you're doing. And that you are scared and need help.
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:lachen:HARD @ that
 
Maybe its because I've always been good at debating and disassembling arguments but I've pretty much never met a sista that I couldn't convince that it was actually their practices that was the problem:look:.....and I live in NY...I've met alota ppl

If they come at me with that "oh you got that good hair" I say really? and whip out a pic of my super tight 4a/b coils and watch their eyes go like this:blush:

If they tell me "oh my hair doesnt grow" I give them a polite lesson in biology and ask them if they ever colored their hair and how quick they got "roots"

I then give them a product list and they pretty much always text me from the BSS asking me to repeat my product recs

It also helps that I'm MBL lol

To me, theres no way I could have this knowlege and let people continue in their ignorance when I'm around....
 
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^^^ Sharing that knowledge is so important and appreciated though cause I swear even if you give excuses it's only because you really just dont know any better
 
BlackMasterPiece said:
Maybe its because I've always been good at debating and disassembling arguments but I've pretty much never met a sista that I couldn't convince that it was actually their practices that was the problem:look:.....and I live in NY...I've met alota ppl

If they come at me with that "oh you got that good hair" I say really? and whip out a pic of my super tight 4a/b coils and watch their eyes go like this:blush:

If they tell me "oh my hair doesnt grow" I give them a polite lesson in biology and ask them if they ever colored their hair and how quick they got "roots"

I then give them a product list and they pretty much always text me from the BSS asking me to repeat my product recs

To me, theres no way I coud have this knowlege and let people continue in their ignorance when I'm around....

It also helps that I'm MBL lol
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I try to share my knowledge too, but everybody don't wanna listen. It's about half and half. Some people attribute it to my skin color and hair type, which is a load of crock. I put so much effort into my hair, that I HATE when someone makes it seem like it was sooooooooooooooooooooooo easy and that the only reason I got it is cause "you got that good hair." It's very annoying.

I think a lot of people just want the lazy way; they don't wanna work for healthy hair.

Saying this makes me mad all over again at my roommate cause damnit she "lost" my $40 shears that I bought from Sally's. I only used them on my hair once, the same day I bought 'em. Then the next day she asks to use them, and all of a sudden can't find 'em no more :wallbash:
 
^ Yea its probably pretty hard for people to imagine that they can do the same things with their hair that you do if they're a type 4 and you're not...they're gonna assume that its related to texture because thats what society tells us from day 1.

I think my progress serves as an example that type 4 hair has just as much potential because they're used to seeing girls with loose/ visible curls have long hair, they're not used to seeing tightly coilies like me have long hair. So people pretty much can't argue with their eyes:lol:

Can't WAIT till I get to my ultimate goal of waist....then all I'll do is give people the side-eye and a product recommendation list.....I won't even speak:rofl:
 
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