Unpopular opinions 2010 Hair Edition

[Helpmeblongagain]

98% of LF wigs r an ugly HAM! If you can't afford 2 drop the money for a quality 1...don't buy 1...Im tired of seeing women who look like they have a bad shape up, boogers on the scalp n a head full of horse hair...yuck!

 

[Vintageglam]

Stevie Wonder could have seen that they didn't make it.

 

[gymfreak336]

LisaLisa, you just reminded me of one...

Don't mix in a million different additives to something and then ask what went wrong

Don't complain about protein making your hair to hard to comb when you slept in kpak, did an oil rinse, sprayed porosity control on your ends, rinsed, put in another cocktail of leave ins and air dried...

If you have to add a cup of oil and butter to make a product work, just trash it and get something else.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

^^^+1

And if it doesn't work, stop using it, please, instead of torturing the rest of us with your about how it jacked your hair up for the 12th time! If it jacks your hair up 11 times, seriously, what do you predict will be the result on try #12???

 

[LaToya28]

APL is long to me sorry, I didn't see many women past that when I was growing up.

 

[Raspberry]

Well.

I was gonna say that to ME, APL is not long. It just isn't. People come in like Yeah, boyeeeee.... how you like me now! My hair is SO LONG!!! And I'm like erplexed..... oooooookkkkkaaaaayyyyyy. Do you, mama! But if it took you 2 years of a 75 step reggie to go from SL to APL.... what are you crowing about?

Come on now, let people have their moment .. APL is big milestone for a lot of us, that's longer hair than like 75% of black women.

 

[LaToya28]

^^^+1

And if it doesn't work, stop using it, please, instead of torturing the rest of us with your about how it jacked your hair up for the 12th time! If it jacks your hair up 11 times, seriously, what do you predict will be the result on try #12???

12th time is the charm LP!

 

[LushLox]

Sometimes, I think that length goals should only be reserved for the non-delusional.
I noticed that last year, there were lots of (Insert goal here) by Dec 2009.
And when Dec 2009 rolled around, some didn't make the length goal, but they still claimed.
And it wasn't ambiguous or anything, it was quite clear that they didn't make it.
Stevie Wonder could have seen that they didn't make it.
But I think that they thought that since hair grows .5 inches a month on average, and they'd been trying for x months, then they must have grown and retained x amount of hair.

Folks got the hair growing game all wrong...that's not how it works. You can set goals, but don't always expect your hair to cooperate. And when (not if) it doesn't, take it like a man, redouble your efforts, extend your goal, and keep it moving. Don't claim a length that you didn't make, just because the month that you set in advance has come.

I don't ever post in any of the progress threads saying that, because OP is usually so happy, and everyone else is all congratulating. I don't want to be a Debbie Downer. AND it's not nice and Momma Chaos told me not to say anything at all when such a situation arises.
But sometimes, I just wanna scream it loud enough to wake the dead.

Agreed.

This is going to sound like I'm preaching to staff at work, but it seems the same principle can be adopted when trying to improve and grow hair. Folks should set SMART targets:

Specific
Measurable
Achievable
Realistic
Tangible

You've got to be honest to yourself. There's no point if someone is clearly at neck length, but yet claim to be SL then complain that it's taking forever and a day to get to APL.

 

[gymfreak336]

The hair thing is supposed to be fun. You should be enjoying your hair at each stage. You shouldn't be in the bed crying over one split end.

Just speaking about myself...when I let some stuff go and decided to enjoy it more, it got a WHOLE lot easier.

Happy growing

 

[gissellr78]

LisaLisa, you just reminded me of one...

Don't mix in a million different additives to something and then ask what went wrong

Don't complain about protein making your hair to hard to comb when you slept in kpak, did an oil rinse, sprayed porosity control on your ends, rinsed, put in another cocktail of leave ins and air dried...

If you have to add a cup of oil and butter to make a product work, just trash it and get something else.

Ooooh just remembered 1.

Some women claim they are protein sensitive to even light protein but they are RELAXED....are you relaxer sensitive too....because that's stronger!

 

[hairsothick]

Short and thick >>> Long and thin

See-through ends are not the business. You look crazy walking around with stringy see through BSL hair, when it would look better bluntly cut to APL or wherever the thickest part of your ends is.

Straight synthetic wigs look a hot mess. Curly/wavy synthetic >>>> straight synthetic

Don't half-a$$ your way through the a rollerset, twistout or braidout and then get mad cause it didn't turn out the way you wanted it to. The same with using styling tools.

I think box braids should either be done with extensions or not done at all.

You don't have to grow your hair out for months to know what your hair type is. You can look at your edges and nape and tell right away. Also type 3 hair has a different appearance when straight than type 4 hair does.

 

[gymfreak336]

Agreed.

This is going to sound like I'm preaching to staff at work, but it seems the same principle can be adopted when trying to improve and grow hair. Folks should set SMART targets:

Smart
Measurable
Achievable
Realistic
Tangible

You've got to be honest to yourself. There's no point if someone is clearly at neck length, but yet claim to be SL then complain that it's taking forever and a day to get to APL.

I like this.

 

[hairsothick]

JUst because you see a curl in your hair, doesn't automatically make you type three.

 

[gissellr78]

Agreed.

This is going to sound like I'm preaching to staff at work, but it seems the same principle can be adopted when trying to improve and grow hair. Folks should set SMART targets:

Smart
Measurable
Achievable
Realistic
Tangible

You've got to be honest to yourself. There's no point if someone is clearly at neck length, but yet claim to be SL then complain that it's taking forever and a day to get to APL.

YES! some women jump on a WL challenge and they are APL like SERIOUSLY!
It may happen for a handful but we all know is rare so please don't join!

 

[Nice & Wavy]

I have SOOOOO much RESPECT for a brown skinned 4a4b long hair woman.
Sorry 3's, but it's just easier for you.:perplexed

I don't know where ya'll get that from

-Type 3 hair does not always equal easier, especially when length plays a factor.
-Stop being delusional about length.
-Wet hair length shots don't count.
-I hate see thru ends. HATE.
-Long hair just ain't meant for everybody.
-Some people really do look better with straightened hair.
-All those extra damn vitamins and supplements aren't necessary.
-TWA's aren't the business on every head.
-Who gives a **** what someone else considers natural or relaxed?
-Every 2 week washing is not for me.
-It's not so much the product as technique/regimen that improves hair health.
-Folks ain't gotta lie to kick it.
-When relaxed, my hair loved some mineral oil, cones, and the Dominican salons!
-I refuse to believe one visit to a stylist can cause irreparable damage to your hair. Unless a chemical service is involved. Blowdry? NOPE
-Just because I pay a "professional" to do my hair and give them directions doesn't mean I'm not going to ask for a hand mirror and watch what the hell is going on! I consider it protecting an investment.
-It's okay to be picky and speak up w/a stylist. They're paid to serve.
-I hate sisterlocs!
-Little bitty box braids is a children's style. Sorry.

umm...I'll just stop now.

I so agree with #1

Ok....I'll go:

I thought this was a random thoughts thread...not a behind the text, sneaky bashing of peoples textures, length's, edges, etc. We have come along way, ladies...and we have got to do better!

I don't think this thread will last too much longer. If it does, then I will come back and say I was wrong.

Type 3 heads struggle just as much as other's....every type has their own issues.

Prepooing with oil (preferrably Vatika) is great for my hair.

My hair doesn't like Castor Oil...even if its mixed in conditioner

Being natural must be a choice you want to live with, cause it ain't easy. Don't follow the masses if you are not ready.

Rollersets aren't that bad without flat ironing...you can do one without the other and its ok.

If the stones fly after my post, trust I'm good at throwing back...I don't miss either J/K

 

[LadyPaniolo]

YES! some women jump on a WL challenge and they are APL like SERIOUSLY!
It may happen for a handful but we all know is rare so please don't join!

I know some folks were prolly at the length goal challenges I joined this year... tis all good though, cuz I have faith and determination I can't wait to be like Tah-DOW a year from now

 

[Junebug D]

The hair thing is supposed to be fun. You should be enjoying your hair at each stage. You shouldn't be in the bed crying over one split end.

Just speaking about myself...when I let some stuff go and decided to enjoy it more, it got a WHOLE lot easier.

Happy growing

Yes! When it becomes more stress & frustration than fun, you should probably take some time out and reevaluate. Half the time it's not as serious as you're making it out to be.

 

[Helpmeblongagain]

When I think some1 has cleverly positioned themselves 2 convince us 2 join them in their delusional ways...the pic doesnt count...i.e. taking a pic with ur hands raised n ur head tilted back or taking a pic of the longest part part n asking what length u r when u kno u have an uneven mess going on....

 

[gissellr78]

I know some folks were prolly at the length goal challenges I joined this year... tis all good though, cuz I have faith and determination I can't wait to be like Tah-DOW a year from now

Your hair is long and lovely! I have seen women with short hair joining these challenges when they need like 10 inches

 

[dynamic1]

Really unpopular opinion coming........

Most people don't know where their waist is located....some are underestimating, which isn't a bad thing. I have seen people with great healthy waist length hair claim mid-back. I blame it on peer pressure (they don't want to get called out) and the former low rise jeans craze.

For Natural Waist:

For naturally indented waist, round waist with the measuring tape close to the skin. Be sure that this is where your body compresses the most.

If you are not very sure where the waistline is, tie a piece of string (preferably elastic) around the waist, and bend from side to side until the string settles in the indented part of your waist.

 

[gymfreak336]

Your hair is long and lovely! I have seen women with short hair joining these challenges when they need like 10 inches

after some trims

 

[Junebug D]

Really unpopular, I WILL be claiming my strand touching APL when it crosses. It may not be full, but it IS an accomplishment!

Some of us who grew out from a baldie or close to it may end up being APL in the back and NL in the front.

 

[Dposh167]

i really hate "did i make APL, WL yet?" threads
i really don't think you need a dozen women on the site to tell u that u made APL, etc.
you're looking at the same pic as we are.

 

[suburbanbushbabe]

If you are transitioning to natural texture or newly natural, there are certain expectations you should just let go of:

- Your edges will never lay down like that straight hair. Textured hairlines are feisty.
- You won't be able to see your reflection in your hair
- There's going to be a cushion between you and your scalp and holding on to your straight ends forever will just make the contrast worse
- There is no miracle product. There are products I wouldn't want to be without, there are products that make my hair feel wonderful and easier to style. But they are just products
- Oil alone is not a styler or a moisturizer.
- Unless you never dry your hair, that out of the shower texture is just water weighing down your hair, not your true texture
- If you pull your hair back so tight into a puff that it looks like you use Botox -- you need an intevention
- If you consistently drool over others' hair without appreciating yours, you will never progress. Get into the habit of loving your own head, as it is, flaws and all.
- If you are asking if you can claim shoulder length then you probably can't.
- Length isn't all that. It's nice, but overall health, feel, volume and texture are key.
- A Ferm perm is a jheri curl with a different brand name.
- "Softeners" break down the chemical bonds of your hair, and are straighteners by another name.
- Relaxers are chemical straighteners. Why do we use so many euphemisms??
- Natural 4b's with long thick hair are my idols. Don't care if it curls; I've learned more from them about hair care than any curly 3-xx
- To wear my hair out during the day, I must protect it at night.
- Straightening it makes my soft fine hair frizzer. Many medium to coarse haired naturals look great when they straighten.

 

[longhairlover]

this is a funny $$$ post right here! "itty bitty box braids are for children" oh darn I was thinking of trying these, skipping away lmao!!!!




Originally Posted by Eisani
-Type 3 hair does not always equal easier, especially when length plays a factor.
-Stop being delusional about length.
-Wet hair length shots don't count.
-I hate see thru ends. HATE.
-Long hair just ain't meant for everybody.
-Some people really do look better with straightened hair.
-All those extra damn vitamins and supplements aren't necessary.
-TWA's aren't the business on every head.
-Who gives a **** what someone else considers natural or relaxed?
-Every 2 week washing is not for me.
-It's not so much the product as technique/regimen that improves hair health.
-Folks ain't gotta lie to kick it.
-When relaxed, my hair loved some mineral oil, cones, and the Dominican salons!
-I refuse to believe one visit to a stylist can cause irreparable damage to your hair. Unless a chemical service is involved. Blowdry? NOPE
-Just because I pay a "professional" to do my hair and give them directions doesn't mean I'm not going to ask for a hand mirror and watch what the hell is going on! I consider it protecting an investment.
-It's okay to be picky and speak up w/a stylist. They're paid to serve.
-I hate sisterlocs!
-Little bitty box braids is a children's style. Sorry.

umm...I'll just stop now.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

Your hair is long and lovely! I have seen women with short hair joining these challenges when they need like 10 inches

Thank you!

Really unpopular opinion coming........

Most people don't know where their waist is located....some are underestimating, which isn't a bad thing. I have seen people with great healthy waist length hair claim mid-back. I blame it on peer pressure (they don't want to get called out) and the former low rise jeans craze.

For Natural Waist:

For naturally indented waist, round waist with the measuring tape close to the skin. Be sure that this is where your body compresses the most.

If you are not very sure where the waistline is, tie a piece of string (preferably elastic) around the waist, and bend from side to side until the string settles in the indented part of your waist.

Yeah, I know that happens. It seems like if your hair has grown quickly or outpaced someone else, you are at a risk for :gotroasted: so some posters play down their growth. Cuz you know if half of your hair is at waist and the rest at MBL, you BET not claim waist or there will be lots of snide comments about how you haven't really earned it. *shrug*

That's why I don't bother even claiming a length I have natural layers in my hair and for some reason the folks who claim the longest hair on their head as their current length are the first ones to jump in and criticize a poster with longer hair, saying she isn't really "there" yet.

 

[Bene]

Thank you!



Yeah, I know that happens. It seems like if your hair has grown quickly or outpaced someone else, you are at a risk for :gotroasted: so some posters play down their growth. Cuz you know if half of your hair is at waist and the rest at MBL, you BET not claim waist or there will be lots of snide comments about how you haven't really earned it. *shrug*

That's why I don't bother even claiming a length I have natural layers in my hair and for some reason the folks who claim the longest hair on their head as their current length are the first ones to jump in and criticize a poster with longer hair, saying she isn't really "there" yet.

I make allowances if MOST of the hair has reached the goal. Like, lots of people are growing out bangs and layers, and some prefer a V or U shape. If it's done on purpose or looks like it's done on purpose, then I'm ok with someone claiming a length even though all of their hair isn't there yet.

 

[Helpmeblongagain]

I think most textlaxers r trying 2 fake being a 3 texture...n r dissapointed when they textlax n its not curly...but instead looks like a limp ramen noodle.

I have never seen a cute phony pony...sorry.

 

[longhairlover]

the comments are cracking me up, my hubbys looking at me funny because cause i'm laughing at the computer.

you don't like the celebs phony ponies?

I think most textlaxers r trying 2 fake being a 3 texture...n r dissapointed when they textlax n its not curly...but instead looks like a limp ramen noodle.

I have never seen a cute phony pony...sorry.

 

[Mimi22]

So your saying you loved yourself MORE because you decided to go natural???
Really? Really? I'm gonna need a comparison chart or somethin cuz I aint really buying it....