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BSL to a BOB for a sorority?!?!

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This thread is ineresting.

No one can make you do anything. I question anyone who would not be strong enough to say no (unless it wasn't a big deal to them).
I have never heard if anyone required to cut their hair.

nevermind..............
 
Craziest thing I've ever heard of... no I would not cut my hair "Just" to be in a sorority...
 
MsDee4 said:
A girl here at my university has cut her hair from BSL to a bob to become a member of a sorority. The members "urged" her to do so. She is not the first girl, and this isn't the first year of them doing this but she had about the prettiest hair of them all and it SHOCKED me.

I know hair can grow back and the letters are for forever. Because of the ENERYG, TIME, and MONEY I've put into my hair, but I just don't know if I could make that sacrifice... Could you??
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In a word: NEVER!
 
adequate said:
Well not to offend in Sorors in here but (and I'll leave out the chapter), I have 3 sisters who are AKA's, I call them pinkies (they don't like that) and I have 1 sister who is a delta.

When i went to college they tried to force me into picking a sorority to join. At the time I had quite a few friends who were pledging and they were asked to do things to alter their appearance such as cut hair, not wear certain things, wear no make-up to social events (if they normally did), don't shave legs at social events but they'd want you to wear a skirt, etc. :ohwell:

As quiet as I know things were supposed to be, when I heard about this I thought it was ridiculous. It was emotional hazing. They asked women to do things that were demeaning (the AKA's) and I had a serious problem with that. Now, I've met AKA's from other chapters that were very nice. One of my nieces has since become an AKA and the other a Delta (they are sisters) at different colleges and they say it's wonderful. But I never would have joined the chapter I was close to because those women were stuck up and vicious. I have "sisters" - and a lot of them. If I have to go through all that just to prove myself screw em and that's exactly what I told my siblings. To this day they try to get me to pledge graduate status. They keep telling me something about being a legacy member. I'm like ok, let it go. I think it embarrasses them that they have a sibling who didn't pledge. :perplexed

Also, I got into an argument with an AKA once when I told her why I didn't become one. This was a few years ago. She was really nice about it but continued to persistantly tell me how much more fulfilled my life would be as an AKA and that "many doors would be opened" as a result of my association. And I'm thinking opened to where? I was almost willing to listen to her but later that night when she went out partying she apparently been drinking or something and called me on my cell phone telling me what a bytch I was from talking about the AKA's and how they rule the black community and support the black community and I mean it she was serious. I kept hanging up on her and she kept calling me back. She was from some chapter in Virginia. :perplexed

The next day she called to apologize but I didn't answer my phone. She left one message that started off in a winey voice - I'm sorry for what I said last night and then she'd call again and everytime I didn't answer she'd get progressively abusive with her language until she ended up calling me a bytch again for not answering my phone! :blush:

So I know all AKA's aren't like that but my experiences with sororities are not pleasant so I will never join one as a grad - legacy or not and I tell my mother, and my great aunt who graduated from Spelman (she's almost 70 now) and they get preachy but i don't care. :nono:

But, I was married at the time soooooooooooooooooo wasn't really worried about finding a group to accept me.

Spare me all the parks that come with being a soror (not meaning to be offensive) but I work in white corporate america and they don't care what historically black sorority you came from.
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ITA with your ENTIRE post.:) I can see how doors could be "opened for you" but what if a chick interviewing you for a job is secrectly disgruntled about not being picked for a certain soror?? So you see, It works the other way around too!!!
 
No. Any organization that would "urge" me to alter my physical appearance...well that's not the organization for me.
 
MsDee4 said:
A girl here at my university has cut her hair from BSL to a bob to become a member of a sorority. The members "urged" her to do so. She is not the first girl, and this isn't the first year of them doing this but she had about the prettiest hair of them all and it SHOCKED me.

I know hair can grow back and the letters are for forever. Because of the ENERYG, TIME, and MONEY I've put into my hair, but I just don't know if I could make that sacrifice... Could you??
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No, not for a sorority. If anything, I would just wear a bob length wig when I'm around those sorority girls instead of cutting my hair off. If they wouldn't allow me to wear a wig, I would just forget about being in that sorority.
 
seeminglysweet said:
I definitely would have to say NO. But I personally don't have a good taste in my mouth when it comes to greek orgs. On the otherhand it is "just hair" and it will grow back...hopefully.

One of my good friends had a sister who pledged and they put peanut butter, eggs, ketchup, etc in her hair and she couldn't get the peanut butter out so she had to cut her wasitlengh hair to APL, it's never really gotten back to where it was.
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yeah, there are certain things i would make sacrifices for, but a greek org wouldn't be one of them. i know this lady who grows her hair out to waist length and then cuts it down to ear length bob each time so she can donate the hair to cancer victims. But it's what is important to you, and I can dig that.
 
This is friggin hazing, and they hating. They just see a kute girl with long hair and wanna "bring her down a notch on their level". I wouldn't do that ish. Nobody but me has control over my actions.
 
I have never been into the whole sorrority thing...I never really understood the fascination with them either. There is no way that I am paying membership dues for a semester of abuse and being talked down to in order to ultimately carry three greek letters that mean I must eat, sleep, and dookie with girls who are now my "sisters", but are ultimately of no real kin to to me.

I have to wonder if young greek girls ever represented African Americans the way African Americans are so quick to convert their identities to greek. These sorrorities ask for your identity, your heritage, and during hazing, your self respect...and now you ask for my crown and glory...my hair?????




HEEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL NAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!
 
since i've never had BSL i cant really answer this question

BUT

if a sorority required for me to get a relaxer in order to join, i wouldn't go through with it unless they could thoroughly convince me of how this how be a great benefit to the organization and me.....

i'm all for positive change, but i aint about foolishness for foolishness' sake.....
 
i wouldn't dare do it. that sorority sounds like those jealous stylists that cut off 6 inches of hair at every visit.​
 
I would just like to know what hair length has to do with belonging to a Greek organization/sisterhood. Seems a bit controlling in my opinion. I'm not a member of a sorority so maybe I just can't relate but I just can't see why someone would ask you to cut your hair just to be a member of their club unless of course it was the short hair club. :look:
 
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