No She DIDN'T...

[lonelysky]

I went up to Sally's to buy some bigger rollers and some pins for the rollers. I though that I would ask about clarifying shampoos (not really in the market for one, but I though that It might lead me to a chelating shampoo...).

The lady that was working was pointing out the different brands. She started out showing me some Quantum and then ended with the Paul Mitchell knock off stuff. She mentioned someting about Tea Tree and how it wasn't quite a clarifyer but it was less harsh than the other shampoos.

Her words were something to the effect of, "Its less harsh than the others. Which would probably be good for your hair."

She really did put the emphasis on your. I'm not even lying. I wanted to ask her, "What about my hair," but I didn't.

I'm not really mad, I found her ignorance humorous...in a sad kind of way

 

[MAMATO]

Sorry this happened to you... but honestly I dont see anything wrong with what she said...Take care

 

[chebaby]

i had plenty of white women say this to me in beauty stores. it makes mee look at them twice but doesnt really bother me. a couple of times it made me laugh.

 

[lonelysky]

I wasn't really bothered by it. I thought that it was more humorus than anything. It kind of seemed to me that she was implying something. Maybe that didn't come accross well in the OP.

 

[RavenMaven]

It happens all of the time. I'm just used to it and keep it moving because I know my hair looks good and what

 

[mrsmeredith]

I didn't get the offense but hey if you felt wronged so be it. I sorta liked her advice. Paul Mitchell "knock off" is a good product so is Quantum. She did her job sorry that you felt offended.

OT: Ravenmaven, I absolutely love your hair. It looks so shiney and like it swang for days.

 

[mstar]

The main lady at my local beauty supply is Hispanic, and she's always pointing out which products would be better for black hair. I find it quite helpful, personally. She steers me (and many other black women) towards products that are more moisturizing, and away from stuff with mineral oil or harsh chemicals. Which is good advice for anyone's hair, but especially important for our hair, right?

When I asked her last week about some product lines that they don't carry, she told me where to find them, and then said, "We don't carry that brand because no one ever asks for it, but it would work great on your hair due to the moisture content." No offense taken.

I've been going to this place since I was a small child (30 years) so I trust them. They're like a part of the community.

 

[Platinum]

I really don't see anything wrong with what she said.

 

[me-T]

i kinda see the slight offense, OP. i would've scrunched my face up on instinct. i just chalk it up to her having that mindset that "our" hair is "different"

 

[soulie]

OP, to clarify (no pun intended), did you interpret her saying your hair in the same tone as she would have said you people? I can see the offense in that situation.

 

[Denise11]

I didn't see anything wrong with her statement.

 

[Soliel185]

I think she was trying to imply that the PM would be better for your hair b/c it's gentler and therefore less drying. AA hair by nature tends to be prone to dryness so a harsh cleanser would just aggravate that...

people have different kinds of hair - it's okay to acknowledge that. Now, if you felt she was trying to infer that your hair was somehow inferior then that's completely different.

 

[Urban]

i kinda see the slight offense, OP. i would've scrunched my face up on instinct. i just chalk it up to her having that mindset that "our" hair is "different"

But our hair IS different. No harm in acknowledging that. Maybe there's something in those differences that leads her to believe that the product would be better for black hair. I don't get what the problem is.

 

[La Colocha]

I went up to Sally's to buy some bigger rollers and some pins for the rollers. I though that I would ask about clarifying shampoos (not really in the market for one, but I though that It might lead me to a chelating shampoo...).

The lady that was working was pointing out the different brands. She started out showing me some Quantum and then ended with the Paul Mitchell knock off stuff. She mentioned someting about Tea Tree and how it wasn't quite a clarifyer but it was less harsh than the other shampoos.

Her words were something to the effect of, "Its less harsh than the others. Which would probably be good for your hair."

She really did put the emphasis on your. I'm not even lying. I wanted to ask her, "What about my hair," but I didn't.

I'm not really mad, I found her ignorance humorous...in a sad kind of way

Jc i don't know where you live but the sally's here stylist work there, and they do recommed stuff for our hair texture. I don't think she meant any offense but i did not hear the convo. If you go back again and have the same thing happen just ask her to clarify what she means.

 

[CocoBunny]

i kinda see the slight offense, OP. i would've scrunched my face up on instinct. i just chalk it up to her having that mindset that "our" hair is "different"

But it is different and does require extra moisture. So why the scrunched face? it tis what it tis

 

[Iluvsmuhgrass]

I didn't get the offense but hey if you felt wronged so be it. I sorta liked her advice. Paul Mitchell "knock off" is a good product so is Quantum. She did her job sorry that you felt offended.

OT: Ravenmaven, I absolutely love your hair. It looks so shiney and like it swang for days.

Quantum is the ONLY clarifying shampoo I've ever been able to use. Most clarifying poos totally ravage my hair.

 

[keepithealthy]

uggghm it didn't sound offensive to me (unless she said it really nasty).....our hair is different.

 

[lonelysky]

OP, to clarify (no pun intended), did you interpret her saying your hair in the same tone as she would have said you people? I can see the offense in that situation.

yeah, that's how I interpreted it, but like I said, I'm not offended. I just thought that it was funny

 

[Barbara]

I didn't see anything wrong with her statement.

I totally agree.

 

[lonelysky]

I guess that this story was somehow lost in translation...

 

[winnettag]

I guess that this story was somehow lost in translation...

Yea, that happens a lot online unfortunately.

I would have appreciated her steering me to the less harsh shampoos....maybe she knows a little something about black hair care?
However, you were there to hear what tone she used and anything negative/ignorant she might have been implying.

 

[ACRawlins]

Hmmm...well unless she said it really nasty, you may have just been projecting. Sometimes when we feel a little insecure about something, we are easily offended. Kinda like how fat people don't take too kindly to being referred to as being fat, even though you're just stating the obvious. Not saying that that is definitely the case, cuz like you said, it may just be lost in translation.

 

[that_1_grrrl]

JC, I understand where you're coming from. I get that ALL the time, usually when a White person is arguing with me about what I need for my hair. I was even told that for my hair I needed a 1/2 inch flat iron, even though my friend was able to straighten it with 2 1/2 inch (I just asking for a 1 inch).

I remember I was at a show once, waiting in line and a girl I see at shows a lot was there with her mom. They started talking about hair and another girl mentioned how mayo was good for the hair. I said, "Oh yeah, it is because of the protein." Ol' girl's mom turned to me and said, "Can you use mayo in YOUR hair?"

Obviously, our hair is different, but it is not so radically different that people have to emphasis the "your" or deter us from using certain products, especially when we know what we need.

 

[ebonylocs]

JC, I understand where you're coming from. I get that ALL the time, usually when a White person is arguing with me about what I need for my hair. I was even told that for my hair I needed a 1/2 inch flat iron, even though my friend was able to straighten it with 2 1/2 inch (I just asking for a 1 inch).

I remember I was at a show once, waiting in line and a girl I see at shows a lot was there with her mom. They started talking about hair and another girl mentioned how mayo was good for the hair. I said, "Oh yeah, it is because of the protein." Ol' girl's mom turned to me and said, "Can you use mayo in YOUR hair?"

Obviously, our hair is different, but it is not so radically different that people have to emphasis the "your" or deter us from using certain products, especially when we know what we need.

Not everybody knows what they need, and it's the assistant's job to give advice. i know there are shampoos out there for white folks that have stripped my hair in the past. If when I was a child some assistant had pointed my mother to some gentler shampoo better for "our" hair, I would have avoided some of the dried out scrunchaliciousness of post wash hair that would take a week or two of repeated (re)oiling, (re)combing, and (re)braiding to recover.

 

[Odd One]

Dont see what was offensive in what she said. BUT only you really knows, maybe she had a certain attitude or negative vibe :S

 

[Irresistible]

I would have to thank her for knowing

Cause clarifying aint no joke and almost jacked my hair! it does have to be gentle and she knew that , kudos to her for offering you good advice for 'your' hair, better than her telling you otherwise , she's looking out for the many ladies that would have no clue about 'their' hair and clarifying

 

[Irresistible]

oh and it was the 'gentler' tea tree that she suggested that stripped the bejezuz out of my hair, so go figure, I see it as a good thing she is not in there recommending anything stronger