The in-laws outted me

[mochafusion]

So, I am at my fiance's grandmother's house at Thanksgiving with my best application to date, the lace blended very well into my for head, a head aplly tpe under my part for a realistic part....but somehow my fiance's mother and aunts started saying very loudly....she has the same type of hair as Beyonce. The kind that looks like your real hair but isn't and you can only tell sometimes in pictures (or did they say in person?). Anyway, I was sitting in the same room...I was sooo pissed and then I felt self-conscious about my application and if I should have worn my hair less straight. It was horrible !

Then two days later his aunt says "Your hair looks really nice" and this his old country grandmother says "Oh girl, did you grow all of that long pretty hair from your scalp". Which is a stupid question because last year when I came my hair was only slightly past shoulder length and my lacewig is Brastrap length. All eyes were on me and his family is very religious, so I said "No Ma'am, these are extensions." Not wanted to appear like a liar. Then his freakin' noisy behind aunt starts asking all of these questions like oh but it looks so real, who did it, is it sewed in, are the cornrows straight back or in a circle, what type of weave do you like best...........I wonder if that lady ever heard of inappropriate question...I just wanted to escape....I wonder if they've talked about amongst themselves and if they know what lacefront wigs are....

long story short maybe I need more tips on applying a more realistic hairline, any help will be accepted.

 

[LunadeMiel]

(((HUGS)))

I'm sorry this happened to worry. That was really insensitive of them. They should really work on their tact....

 

[soonergirl]

Just chiming in to say im sorry thay offended you... Hey how was their hair chewed up and damaged???? Ha, you probably brought that old green monster out in them....I regretfully dont have any tips on hair line just wanted to give you some encouragement.... Keep smiling...

 

[mochafusion]

The grandmother wears her hair in a natural untamed Tiny weeny afro, the aunt that was asking all of the questions wears hers in a bun which looks think but I don't know if it's all hers or not..I've never seen her ends and his mother's hair is about shoulder length or a little longer but it is very dry...she thinks that oil is moisturizing.

I can't talk there though, I still haven't figured out how best to moisturize my 4b hair.

 

[londonjakki]

~~COWS...LOL.........I'll pm youSomething similar happened to me...I was at my sisters house for a birthday party & I was wearing a half weave..the front of my hair was to my shoulder so it blended really well with my apl weave..so I see people looking at me wondering if it was my hair or not....well they didn't have to wonder anymore my sis takes out her camera and says loudly.."let me take a picture of you & go ahead flick that weave....."WOW...thanks sis.....

 

[HAIRapy]

Were they drinking hater-ade with dinner?? Your hair probably looked very nice. You know when 'we' see another woman's hair, if it looks too nice, they expect it to be a wig/weave. They were asking you all those questions because they want one too. I'm sorry you had to endure that mess. Could you post pics of your hair? I would love to see it. I think it's amazing to see a nicely done lace front. The way you described it, you most likely did a good job. Not only that, but I'm sure if you didn't do a good job on it, your fiance' would've told you so.

 

[dlewis]

Sorry that happened. But ya know sometimes people just don't think. Maybe they didn't mean anything by it.

I was at my grandparents house one day two summers ago. And a friend of mine stopped by (she wears extentions). My grandmother is about to be 77. She asked my friend after starring at her a long time, I that all your hair. My friend said no ma'am, my grnadmother went on the ask additional questions but I knew she didn't mean any harm, she's just like that. She also commented on the size of the lady's butt. I called her later to apologize.

 

[Nicole1976]

Try not to take offense to it.

It sounds like their questions were honest inquiries. I wouldnt worry about it if I were you.

 

[SignatureBeauty]

I am sorry this happened to you, I know how it feels, One year I went around my Husband side of the family whom I don't fool with, and they Noticed I had a wig on, so they started whispering and telling the others I got a wig, and then other members came to me asking about my hair and that it look like a wig, I said you already know it's a wig, ain't that what ya'll been over there whispering about? So what I got a wig on, AND?
I guess that shut that crap down. They tried to embarrasse me in front of the Family, But everyone else has jacked up weaves and then wanna talk about my wig and I still wear my wig off and on to this day.

Maybe that is why they can't stand me LOL!!! Because they can't get to me, I said it very Nicely too, with a smile on my face

 

[gone_fishing]

Enjoy it while they are "future in-laws" and not "actual in-laws". It's likely to only get worse.

 

[Dayjoy]

I'm sorry you felt bad, but from your story it sounded like they were showing genuine curiosity and interest. I'll bet at least one of them really wanted advice on where to get one and how to apply it.

 

[LuvLiLocks]

No tips here, but I'm sorry they called you out like that.

 

[LynnieB]

Enjoy it while they are "future in-laws" and not "actual in-laws". It's likely to only get worse.

heh. that's why she's gotta set the ground work right NOW!

OP, that was pretty ignorant behavior in my book. hellz, i'll apologize for them since they don't kno no betta!

 

[MissLawyerLady]

Enjoy it while they are "future in-laws" and not "actual in-laws". It's likely to only get worse.

In-laws are a TRIP!!!erplexed

 

[lizjoseph]

I'm sorry you felt bad, but from your story it sounded like they were showing genuine curiosity and interest. I'll bet at least one of them really wanted advice on where to get one and how to apply it.

i agree. it sounds like they were shocked that it wasn't your hair, but it looked so good that they wanted to know what you did it. i think most ppl get carried away with asking questions when they see something they admire and want to replicate it.. take it as a compliment.

 

[aloof one]

Try not to take offense to it.

It sounds like their questions were honest inquiries. I wouldnt worry about it if I were you.

ITA: If youre gonna wear it, wear it proud and dont be offended when you get questions. The fact that you have extensions should make you expect someone to notice something different. No offense, seriously, but if you wear a weave, those are the consequences. People talk about weaves just as much as they do about our own hair.

Own it like its yours and their comments wont bother you. As far as your application goes... I don't know what to tell you. If it looks fake, people will talk. I guess you have to just work on it no matter what. Even Beyonce and Rihanna get caught from time to time.

 

[Saida]

This is exactly what I thought also... sorry they hurt your feelings though

I'm sorry you felt bad, but from your story it sounded like they were showing genuine curiosity and interest. I'll bet at least one of them really wanted advice on where to get one and how to apply it.

 

[ajargon02]

Sorry that happened. But ya know sometimes people just don't think. Maybe they didn't mean anything by it.

To the original poster I am so sorry that this happened to you. Girl brush your shoulders off and hold your head high. I am SURE that your hair looked very nice, reguardless! It really seems some of the posters in this thread get so pissed off about what happened to the original poster. Not to stick up for her boyfriends ignorance, but some people are just crass or have no class and DON'T KNOW any better. When ignorance happens to me, I just brush it off and keep going. I mean it's not a good use of my energy to get that mad.

 

[Nicole1976]

In-laws are a TRIP!!!erplexed

Yep

I just met my SO's extended family (auntis and uncle's and grandparents) this ThanksGiving (Uppity people by the way).

I didnt know what to expect (we are an interracial couple).

They were really nice to me though.

I was completely myself...and figured either they like me for who I am or they dont