mscocoface
Well-Known Member
I know there is nothing we can do about the damage and carnage that has been posted in the past about hair dressers cutting waaaaay too much hair and calling it a trim or removing split ends, but maybe, just may, we can save at least ONE person from this same hair trauma drama.
If you would, please post your stories as well as before and after pics of the wrongful death of hair ends by stylists that victimized you in the past.
Also to be fair, anyone who is a stylist and have tips that will help others who just feel compelled to get their hair trimmed at a salon what are the warning signs and advice you would give in order to deal with this mind field of hair trimming aka HAIRCUTS?
I am hoping that if we have enough horror stories this thread will become a sticky as well as save some one, I pray this will save many people the pain and agony too many of us have endured from scissor happy stylists.
Please all come in and share your experiences so that we can educate others.
Here is my contribution: You have the right to tell the stylist NO do not cut, trim, dust, look at my ends, if you truly don't want scissors in your hair and you don't see the split ends the stylist is talking about.
Here is what you can say, Thank you, but no thank you, I do not want you to use scissors on my hair today, just the services I have asked for. Be sure to turn around, look them straight in the face and smile when you say this, trust me that will make an impact like you won't believe.
When I learned my lesson and decided I would never let another person "trim" my hair that is what I would do and I had only one stylist fight me or try to convince me otherwise. That was before I came up with the phrase above and I did not turn around and look at her when I told her NO, I don't want my ends trim.
I would have this same fight about the back of my neck, I have like three peaks in the back it looks like an upside down "W". Every stylist I go to says let me give you an edge up.
Again, Thank you but no thank you, I do not want an edge up, just the services I have requested.
Ladies, I think we are going to really help some people both ways, sharing your experience which it is good to get this stuff off of your chest and educating so that they won't be victimized by these seemingly innocent but dangers statement, "You need a trim or I need to trim your ends they are split".
Let the healing and education begin....
If you would, please post your stories as well as before and after pics of the wrongful death of hair ends by stylists that victimized you in the past.
Also to be fair, anyone who is a stylist and have tips that will help others who just feel compelled to get their hair trimmed at a salon what are the warning signs and advice you would give in order to deal with this mind field of hair trimming aka HAIRCUTS?
I am hoping that if we have enough horror stories this thread will become a sticky as well as save some one, I pray this will save many people the pain and agony too many of us have endured from scissor happy stylists.
Please all come in and share your experiences so that we can educate others.
Here is my contribution: You have the right to tell the stylist NO do not cut, trim, dust, look at my ends, if you truly don't want scissors in your hair and you don't see the split ends the stylist is talking about.
Here is what you can say, Thank you, but no thank you, I do not want you to use scissors on my hair today, just the services I have asked for. Be sure to turn around, look them straight in the face and smile when you say this, trust me that will make an impact like you won't believe.
When I learned my lesson and decided I would never let another person "trim" my hair that is what I would do and I had only one stylist fight me or try to convince me otherwise. That was before I came up with the phrase above and I did not turn around and look at her when I told her NO, I don't want my ends trim.
I would have this same fight about the back of my neck, I have like three peaks in the back it looks like an upside down "W". Every stylist I go to says let me give you an edge up.

Again, Thank you but no thank you, I do not want an edge up, just the services I have requested.
Ladies, I think we are going to really help some people both ways, sharing your experience which it is good to get this stuff off of your chest and educating so that they won't be victimized by these seemingly innocent but dangers statement, "You need a trim or I need to trim your ends they are split".
Let the healing and education begin....


This is not try. Damage can occur for naturals to the ends of hair the same way that it does for women with relaxed hair. I'm a natural and I KNOW for certain that I need a trim right now! Anyone with suggestions for a natural stylist in Atlanta or NYC hit me up!
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It's almost like they're deliberately trying to humiliate you infront of the whole shop, simply because you do not want your hair cut. Now granted, I've seen some ladies where I'll be like, "Ooh wee, babygirl needs to clip them ends."
-that is so disheartening. She actually acknowledged that your ends looked good, and was only trimming because it was "time" And then she trimmed half of your head like that?!! She clearly was not the star student in her class.
Say it again please, especially the last paragraph.
-I just feel like sometimes we go into attack mode in generalizing all stylists when a lot of us don't research, pick a stylist out of thin air, don't speak up in the chair and aren't more observant beforehand. There are bad, good and great workers in every profession. I haven't given up on finding a great stylist to help me care for my hair.