the natural blues....!!

[poeticmusiqu]

Im getting so sick and tired of having to apologize for you i am. Its like every since i have decided to go natural people always got something to say...co workers even my own family. Im constanly getting compared to my sister who has wavy hair and brighter skin and im always getting hit with this question..."she's bright her hair's not nappy, so what happen to you" like me being who i am is mistake. That makes me feel so bad. I can't help the way i am and there is nothing wrong with me so why don't other people see it.

 

[sweetnlow06]

Im getting so sick and tired of having to apologize for you i am. Its like every since i have decided to go natural people always got something to say...co workers even my own family. Im constanly getting compared to my sister who has wavy hair and brighter skin and im always getting hit with this question..."she's bright her hair's not nappy, so what happen to you" like me being who i am is mistake. That makes me feel so bad. I can't help the way i am and there is nothing wrong with me so why don't other people see it.

Hugs!I hate it when people don't think before they speak. I'm sorry they made you feel bad.

 

[Cheleigh]

What is "brighter"--is that lighter skinned?

Many times it's easier to state a criticism than to pay a compliment. For all the people coming out of the woodwork to add their (totally unsolicited) two cents, there are more people out there thinking you're hot stuff, but just don't feel the need to say it.

I can imagine that it's hard to be compared to your sibling, and really, the problem is with other people--I will never, ever understand why people think it's okay to do stuff like this, because it never, ever is.

You can only be you, so try not to let people convince you that being you just a'int good enough, because it is--in fact it's the only way to be.

 

[Whimsy]

You can only be you, so try not to let people convince you that being you just a'int good enough, because it is--in fact it's the only way to be.

A to the MEN!!!!

 

[tffy2004]

Im getting so sick and tired of having to apologize for you i am. Its like every since i have decided to go natural people always got something to say...co workers even my own family. Im constanly getting compared to my sister who has wavy hair and brighter skin and im always getting hit with this question..."she's bright her hair's not nappy, so what happen to you" like me being who i am is mistake. That makes me feel so bad. I can't help the way i am and there is nothing wrong with me so why don't other people see it.

Babe I hate to be the one to tell you this but, sometimes you have to remove yourself from people who mean you no good and say things like, "she's bright her hair's not nappy, so what happen to you"

I know they are your family and you love them but sometimes they don't understand that the things they say cut like a knife in place they don't intend to. I think you should sit them down one by one and talk to them and let them know how you feel and how it really does hurt. After that if they continue then its time you distance yourself and do your own thing, surround yourself with positive people. I'm not saying abandon your family or anything but sometimes you got to step out on your own and do whats best for you. And right now that is not the best environment for you or anyone else to be in.

As for your co-workers. They can all go to Hell. Strut yo stuff and keep on keepin on. If you can move to another division make the move if not explain to them that the comments hurt and hopefully they will change.

 

[kinkylyfe]

Thanks for sharing...We all have choices in life and you made one to have natural hair. People are always going to talk about your so let them
LOVE your hair regardless of what anyone says!!!

 

[poeticmusiqu]

thanks everybody i needed to hear that

 

[glamazon386]

Ignore them. It'll be alright. Do what's best for you and your hair.

 

[BroadstreetBully]

Hey, if you haven't already, check out the thread about 4bs with waistlength hair. There are like 2 naturals in there whose hair has gotten me through my natural blues. Beauty comes in all colors and types and perhaps people are just intimidated by unconventional beauty. When your hair is healthy, thick, and beautiful...those who have criticized you will eat their words.

 

[Naturallong81]

You all ways get the worst comments form family and people close to u. that shyt bother me first, but then i realized people get used to seeing you a cretain way and if you look diffrent they dont get it. Also people have there own deffinitions of what beauty is ( my mom only thins straight long hair is attractive) but i say funk them. you gotta look at your hair and say shyt i look good!

An't nothing sexier than confidence, if you let them beat you down then you let them win. keep your shyt looking tight like i'm sure you do cause people gonna have something to say allday everyday.

 

[Hair Iam]

This is what the most important person in the world thinks of you...

Psalm 139:14 reads;
"I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are your works, and my soul knows very well." In the original Hebrew text, the word 'fearfully' means: with great reverence and heart-felt interest and respect. The word 'wonderfully' means: unique, set apart, uniquely marvelous.
So if God thinks your marvelous ... that's all that matters...

 

[~*~ShopAholic~*~]

Not sure if you have b4 but, maybe it's time to tell them how you really feel about the comments they make. I know that has to be annoying on a regular basis.

 

[Nice & Wavy]

This is what the most important person in the world thinks of you...

Psalm 139:14 reads;
"I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are your works, and my soul knows very well." In the original Hebrew text, the word 'fearfully' means: with great reverence and heart-felt interest and respect. The word 'wonderfully' means: unique, set apart, uniquely marvelous.
So if God thinks your marvelous ... that's all that matters...

Wow....thank you, I NEEDED to HEAR THAT!!!!

To the OP, I get flack to from people about my hair, why did I go natural, your hair looked better straight, etc. People are always going to give their opinion and although they have a right to do so, I can either receive it or reject it. It's really none of their business what you do with your hair...it's your hair, but since they like to add their two cents, let them know how you feel about your hair and leave it at that...they will get over it!

Blessings!

 

[DDTexlaxed]

Tell them to respect your choice. You never know who is secretly envying that hair of yours. It may inspire others to "secretly" transition. I really hope that U get more support in the future from your family. If not, U have us!

 

[eve777]

all i can say is as a natural too i have had comments too, i told them im going to make natural look gud and it really does take confidents. most people prefer the european look straight hair fair skin,cus we have been brain wash to belive that white folks and all their features are superior.its all over the media and deeply inbedded in the head of not only black folks but white too.so to go nappy is a sign of rebeliousness, what ever they are comparing you too may or may not be natural,but there is only one you and you are unique.who wants to look the same as every one else any how.time to set the record straight say it loud and say it proud, that i am happy to be ME and i love who i am. dont let any one change you,love your self enough to deal with people whose minds are closed to stereotypes and to what society expects of them.i better stop now ,i cud go on forever.but please its starts with you loving yourself and letting that love grow and going natural was the first step of self love.we love you just the way you are,mwahhhhhhhhhhhh

 

[SEMO]

Aww, I'm sorry that your friends and family are giving you a rough time about your hair and comparing you to your sister . Like you said, there is nothing wrong with you. Your hair looks great the way it is . And being on LHCF will help you learn how to best care for your hair.

Before long you may find some of your former naysayers asking you for hair advice. Good luck on your hair journey.