For those who are married.......

[missbugg21]

Does your spouse give you a hair care budget?

I ask because I woke up this morning from a text from my husband saying that I spent $300 on hair products last month, so I'm banned from buying anything for my hair this month! erplexed

In my defense, this was the first time I stocked up on products in over a year...I guess it was just sticker-shock to him.

I'm stressing out a little on what I'm gonna do...especially since I'm out of DC. I guess I'll be DIY'ing it with homemade mixes this month!

What about you guys? Anyone else have these same kinds of discussions with their spouses??

 

[SuchaLady]

I'm not married but I'm just wondering do you work or do you stay at home? I have a terrible shopping problem and will probably always work because of it I wouldn't do well with someone telling me what I can't buy if I get up and work every day

 

[missbugg21]

I'm not married but I'm just wondering do you work or do you stay at home? I have a terrible shopping problem and will probably always work because of it I wouldn't do well with someone telling me what I can't buy if I get up and work every day

Yes, I do work and I know a lot of people who would agree with you. In our home, my husband handles the finances. He does give me lots of wiggle room and doesn't say much when I shop, but I guess $300 in one month on my HAIR was a bit too much for him.

We have 3 kids and we all use the same products, so I think I'll use that as my defense!! lol

 

[TwistedRoots]

We aren't married yet but we have consolidated finances... I don't have a "budget" per say but we are coming out of pocket for our wedding. Even still I know he is frugal so I wait for "sales" and convince him that it's necessary.

As for hair care products in general I have a box of hair care stuff and most of the time he doesn't know what's new or old unless I speak on it. Lol also what in the world did you stock up on?!

 

[Prettymetty]

We just went wig shopping today. He doesn't trip on how much I spend, because he knows I always get a lot for my $$. I use coupon codes, shop online sales, etc. As long as I look nice and I'm happy, he's happy.

 

[kandake]

You don't have your own discretionary income?

 

[sunnieb]

Joint accounts and I always buy what I want for my personal care. No issues.

I do plan big purchases so as not to shock our monthly budget though.

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[SuchaLady]

Yes! Use that. $300 of products that will last awhile for 4 heads isnt bad. Or you could take everyone to the hair salon next month and let him see how much it would cost for a one time visit. Just an idea

Yes, I do work and I know a lot of people who would agree with you. In our home, my husband handles the finances. He does give me lots of wiggle room and doesn't say much when I shop, but I guess $300 in one month on my HAIR was a bit too much for him.

We have 3 kids and we all use the same products, so I think I'll use that as my defense!! lol

 

[sunnieb]

Remind him that having a head full of pretty hair don't come cheap.

Our son uses my NTM, shampoo, and ORS Carrrot Oil too.

It's a family expense.

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[HappyAtLast]

We just went wig shopping today. He doesn't trip on how much I spend, because he knows I always get a lot for my $$. I use coupon codes, shop online sales, etc. As long as I look nice and I'm happy, he's happy.

Yep, same here. (Although he put me on a 1 month ban from Amazon....that expires in 6 days! My wishlist is ready!)

Was it asked already, but um how'd you spend $300 and didn't get any DC?

 

[Amarilles]

This is funny and cute

I would've told DH before spending it but he's normally very cool. Then again he's a libra, you know they love the finer things in life so he could never come for me. Lol. He handles the finances but we both ask each other before spending a lot on something. He just got a $700 robot vacuum thing "on discount" and last month I got $100 razor...we asked each other for both of those. While we're not particularly frugal, neither of us shops much and we aren't spendy with our ordinary purchases.

I do wonder what you got though?!

 

[Prettymetty]

Yep, same here. (Although he put me on a 1 month band from Amazon....that expires in 6 days! My wishlist is ready!)

Was it asked already, but um how'd you spend $300 and didn't get any DC?

That is too cute! I stay on Amazon. What all did u buy to get banned?

 

[missbugg21]

Lol also what in the world did you stock up on?!

LOL! It was actually a lot of small-ticket items. I finally dove headfirst into the world of Ayurveda and purchased lots of powders and oils. I also re-stocked my staples: Raw Shea butter, Parachute Coconut Oil, Eco Styler Argan Oil gel. I also bought my first set of Curlformers and some supplies to make a wig (hair, needles, thread, dome cap, lace, etc.), this included my Manetabolism vitamins, too.

You don't have your own discretionary income?

I have an account that I have $100 direct deposited into each payday. It's not a secret or anything but I don't usually spend it all on myself. I usually end up spending most of that money on stuff for my kids or the house (since our other money is bill money).

Yes! Use that. $300 of products that will last awhile for 4 heads isnt bad. Or you could take everyone to the hair salon next month and let him see how much it would cost for a one time visit. Just an idea

Right?? I know he wouldn't be happy about that salon bill! Good advice!! LOL

Remind him that having a head full of pretty hair don't come cheap.

Our son uses my NTM, shampoo, and ORS Carrrot Oil too.

It's a family expense.

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Yes!! This is so true!! lol

Yep, same here. (Although he put me on a 1 month band from Amazon....that expires in 6 days! My wishlist is ready!)

Was it asked already, but um how'd you spend $300 and didn't get any DC?

LOL at the ban from Amazon! That would be me, too. I bought DC at the beginning of the month, but I'm almost out already and need to refill. I usually only buy 1-2 bottles at a time.

 

[missbugg21]

This is funny and cute

I would've told DH before spending it but he's normally very cool. Then again he's a libra, you know they love the finer things in life so he could never come for me. Lol. He handles the finances but we both ask each other before spending a lot on something. He just got a $700 robot vacuum thing "on discount" and last month I got $100 razor...we asked each other for both of those. While we're not particularly frugal, neither of us shops much and we aren't spendy with our ordinary purchases.

I do wonder what you got though?!

We do the same...it always works out. I just usually have to wait a little while for the bigger-ticket items.

 

[HappyAtLast]

That is too cute! I stay on Amazon. What all did u buy to get banned?

Prettymetty
My kids snitched me out and told DH that I get boxes in the mail from Amazon all the time! They said because nothing ever comes in the boxes for them! Darn kids! I buy vitamins, hair stuff, gadgets for the house...girl anything! And why did I just discover that as a college student I get FREE Prime for 6 months and then it's half price after that! It's gonna be on in 6 days!

 

[naturalmanenyc]

No, we don't have a budget although I do track expenses and can tell you how much we spent on miscellaneous/hair care items for the past few years. I've spent a large chunk at once on tools like Pibbs dryer, steamer and Runway flat iron but those are not yearly purchases.

DH gets his hair done about every 2 weeks so he doesn't say much about my hair care purchases. He only notices that I got something new when a package arrives after he gets home, damn Amazon 9 pm deliveries.

 

[greenandchic]

We budget and though I have a fair amount of wiggle room when it comes to beauty and hair, I was never a big spender so he never questions me on what I buy. He only needs shampoo and gel but he knows I need a lot more so its never up for discussion. I never spent $300 in one month though, I'm sure that would make him raise is brows at me.

 

[Rnjones]

Not married but living together. He does what he wants with his money and I do what I want with mine. No questions asked and no judgements passed. We are both good savers so we trust each other not to be reckless with money.

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[reeko43]

We have a joint account for the big bills. After that we take care of our own expenses. I am not a shopper, don't eat steak or lobster, don't wear makeup, leathers or furs. My only splurges are hair products and running shoes. Whenever I buy anything DH is overjoyed, Lol!

 

[ronie]

We both work, and we split everything 50/50. DH handles the finances. He has full access to my account. Each pay day he transfers out my 50% for the bills and for savings. What's left is all mines and he doesn't care what I do with it. If I am low on cash, I would go to either his account or our savings. I also have full access to his account, but i try not to remember that. His account always has money. Mines can barely stay on the positive by the next payday. So I always end up transferring some money from his account to my account to last me until next pay check. He doesn't say anything as long as it is under $100. I always end up spending my personal money on the house anyways or on our daughter. She has her own budget, but I you know my little diva needs extras, lolll.

 

[PinkSunshine77]

I work. He works. I buy what I want, when I want.

 

[ManeStreet]

Split it up next time. $300 one month looks more shocking than $150 two months in a row. Splitting it up will keep you under the radar and it's less likely to throw off the budget.

 

[discodumpling]

I'm currently not working but I usually am.

We have joint checking and savings and individual checking and savings. My hair money comes from my separate $$. His sneaker money (and whatever else he spends his coins on) comes from his stash...and though we both raise eyebrows when the packages come LOL I would never question his purchases cause that will give him the right to question mine.

 

[Joigirl]

I am the primary breadwinner and I manage our finances. I get to spend what I want and I know how much I am comfortable spending. He doesn't like to spend any money so he just shakes his head as the packages arrive.

 

[flyygirlll2]

My husband says Christmas is year round for me cause I'm always getting packages we both work and no children yet. He doesn't like that I have a lot of hair products but I tell him that my hair is work and going to the salon will be as costly if not more anyway. I do love to shop in general though and it's something I'm still trying to work on.. Key word "trying"

 

[PlainJane]

I can't even think of $300 worth of products I would like to try

 

[tiffers]

I don't have a budget for anything, but I can usually keep myself in check and not go overboard. On the rare occasion that I do, he'll be like "Uhhhh... WTF are you doing? "

Usually, there are no surprises though, because we typically run all purchases by each other before buying anything.

 

[divachyk]

I work. He works. I buy what I want, when I want.

That sums up our life as well PinkSunshine

ETA: much like sunnieb, we discuss large ticket items so it doesn't shock the budget.

 

[missbugg21]

Ugh... I shot myself in the foot with this one. I should have split it up like you said, ManeStreet , then I wouldn't have even been having this issue. erplexed

Lesson definitely learned....

 

[divachyk]

Kera Minerals is effective and cheap...roughly $6 from Sally's. missbugg21