Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

[veesweets]

Hi everyone! I'm semi new here (honestly lurked for a couple months to get used to the site) but I've been on my HJ since May 2011. I'm only 13 weeks post and I plan on transitioning for 18-24 months depending on how everything goes. I've read through most of the thread pages and got a lot of great information/tips from you ladies so I'm feeling pretty comfortable about the transition. Unless my texture changed from when I was younger I'm a 4a/4b mix. Just wanted to introduce myself to the group

 

[daviine]

Welcome veesweets!!!!

 

[Leslie_C]

I have been rocking a highbun for like two weeks now. I need to twist my hair, but I am so lazy. This weekend, I will Henna, DC, then twist my hair.
This may be an all day process, but I will keep my twists in for like 3 weeks.

Attached is my bun.

Oh and everyone thinks I'm already natural. Anyone else get this?
I'm like, "Can't you see these straight ends?!".

That is exactly how I wear my hair must of the time lol and ive been too lazy to retwist as well....my problem is medium twists wont hold in my hair so I have to twist small and it takes hours.

My hair has been dry and blah lately, but the last couple of days I've been sealing with castor oil and it has softened up a lot! It seems like coconut oil works best in the warner months for me bc its not doing the job right now.

ps chrisanddonniesmommy your hair looks gorgeous! So inspirational!

 

[CandiceC]

One year post relaxer!!!!

 

[january noir]

One year post relaxer!!!!

CONGRATS!
I'm jelly.

 

[havilland]

One year post relaxer!!!!

CONGRATS!

Hi everyone! I'm semi new here (honestly lurked for a couple months to get used to the site) but I've been on my HJ since May 2011. I'm only 13 weeks post and I plan on transitioning for 18-24 months depending on how everything goes. I've read through most of the thread pages and got a lot of great information/tips from you ladies so I'm feeling pretty comfortable about the transition. Unless my texture changed from when I was younger I'm a 4a/4b mix. Just wanted to introduce myself to the group

WELCOME!

 

[havilland]

i flat ironed for thanksgiving....it lasted for 2 weeks. here she was on her last day before i washed her. i had pin curled it the night before and woke up to this

 

[TokyoReina]

I washed my hair a few days ago and for the first time I actually seriously considered cutting it. It's been almost 1.5 years for me and I'm going to try to make it my full 2 as planned. I'm hoping when I do cut it I'll be at least apl but who knows!

Can't wait to get the relaxed ends off though and get on with life. I'm not even all excited about it, my relaxed hair has been a distant memory for a long time!

 

[Leslie_C]

TokyoReina 1.5 yrs is awesome! That is about the longest I think I could go...but anytime after a year is free game for me, especially if I get more demarcation breakage.15-18 months will likely be a wrap.

Gathered up the drive to twist my hair yesterday. Id like to make them last two weeks....made it to about 11 days last time but I had to go out out of town and wanted fresh hair. My scalp kind of starts flaking after a week...hope to figure out how to avoid that.

I had a strong urge to clip the thin ends off bc my twists would actually still have some hang time if I cut the relaxed ends.. .I know because I have a small section of breakage that is all natural in the back and those twist hang down a bit. My hair is on the fine side though and im not sure if I can pull off wearing twists as a style...might be too scalpy. Right now they are long enough to pin up in updos so thats how I wear them...if I bc Id have to wear them down.

When I do bc, I think Id like to wear twists a lot during the grow out phase with a twistout here and there. Its funny how I used to not like twists as a style and only planned to wear them at night for twistouts, but I have really come to love them now.

 

[Rae81]

How are yall doing your twist? Big twist or little twist, and how do yall get them to stay in?

sent from my galaxy

 

[MsDee14]

How are yall doing your twist? Big twist or little twist, and how do yall get them to stay in?

sent from my galaxy

The size of my twists range from small to chunky.
For the most part, either size stays in by sealing the ends with shea-butter and making sure to twist fairly tight.

 

[daviine]

Nice to see you TokyoReina. I was just wondering how you and your hair were doing a few days ago.

 

[Dayjoy]

:welcome3: veesweets

 

[3jsmom]

Can anyone suggest some products for dry 4a/b coarse fine hair that is about 6 weeks post that is transitioning? Thanks

 

[Dayjoy]

OK. It's "real talk confession" time. I feel compelled to admit that one of the things making my transition easier is that sometimes I...won't wash my hair between salon visits. And I go to the salon about every four weeks. Sometimes I just don't want to work with my transitioning hair and the breakage. That's part of the reason I want to cut so badly. I really like 2-3 times per week cowashing, but I'm just NOT going to deal with it right now. Forgive me.

 

[Shinka]

OK. It's "real talk confession" time. I feel compelled to admit that one of the things making my transition easier is that sometimes I...won't wash my hair between salon visits. And I go to the salon about every four weeks. Sometimes I just don't want to work with my transitioning hair and the breakage. That's part of the reason I want to cut so badly. I really like 2-3 times per week cowashing, but I'm just NOT going to deal with it right now. Forgive me.

No shade here. This is completely understandable. I'm only a fraction of your time into this transition and I'm ready to get braids again.

 

[january noir]

Can anyone suggest some products for dry 4a/b coarse fine hair that is about 6 weeks post that is transitioning? Thanks

3jsmom
I'm loving the Shea Moisture line sold at Target, Cantu Shea Butter Leave-in treatment and Mixed Chicks Leave-in and Mixed Chicks Deep Conditioner.

Also the Agadir Argan Oil line, though expensive, is very good too.

However, I'm only 6 months in and who if that will change over time, but right now, these products are the shiznit for my hair. I have fine and naturally thin hair.

 

[napbella]

OK. It's "real talk confession" time. I feel compelled to admit that one of the things making my transition easier is that sometimes I...won't wash my hair between salon visits. And I go to the salon about every four weeks. Sometimes I just don't want to work with my transitioning hair and the breakage. That's part of the reason I want to cut so badly. I really like 2-3 times per week cowashing, but I'm just NOT going to deal with it right now. Forgive me.

Dayjoy
I'm feeling you on this. I like the "clean hair" smell and feel but being 6mos post it's just too much manipulation for my hair. So I have decided to do my hair once a month I also found a braider that is so frickin gentle that my hair is not stressed at all. Oh yeah, I use QB Aethiopika butter for hold and the burdock root butter for moisture. Loving it so far

 

[Dee_33]

OK. It's "real talk confession" time. I feel compelled to admit that one of the things making my transition easier is that sometimes I...won't wash my hair between salon visits. And I go to the salon about every four weeks. Sometimes I just don't want to work with my transitioning hair and the breakage. That's part of the reason I want to cut so badly. I really like 2-3 times per week cowashing, but I'm just NOT going to deal with it right now. Forgive me.

I was just thinking of only washing 1x a month when I go to the salon. Yes salon visits make my transition easier.

 

[TokyoReina]

Nice to see you @TokyoReina. I was just wondering how you and your hair were doing a few days ago.

Still going for it! I'm still hoping to get a clearer picture of my texture. I've been wanting to try some kind of cleansing cream and take some pics so I can...just sit and ponder that I guess. I think it is so sad I don't have a clear picture of me natural in my head.

 

[Leslie_C]

Dayjoy no judgement here! I would totally wash every two weeks or so, but my head itches so bad if I go more than a week....and I had to work up to that bc of the itchy flakiness that I get. Do you oil your scalp? I'm open to suggestions to minimize excessive manipulation that has been leading to breakage.

 

[Dayjoy]

Dayjoy no judgement here! I would totally wash every two weeks or so, but my head itches so bad if I go more than a week....and I had to work up to that bc of the itchy flakiness that I get. Do you oil your scalp? I'm open to suggestions to minimize excessive manipulation that has been leading to breakage.

Actually, I don't oil my scalp. For some reason I won't question, I'm on a real easy streak with my hair. Even though it's cold here, neither my hair nor my scalp have been dry. My salon flat irons have been holding until I go back, unless, of course, I wash and my hair doesn't seem to be suffering. After a point I start adding moisturizer and coconut oil. I've been self conscious about my hair smelling, and even that isn't happening (I can't believe it). Not washing my hair is keeping me from cutting prematurely. As long as I don't see the hair in its natural state, maybe I can resist the waves, coils, curls, and kinks. :crossfingers:

 

[Shinka]

My hair feels like butter. Shampoo with diluted optimum shampoo. I deep conditioned with Cathy Howse UBH conditioner under dome dryer for 15 minutes. Rinsed, then followed with Lekair deep conditioner for about 5 hours. Rinse & lightly toweld dried. I sprayed some UBH dew, dangled, and braided in big plaits. I upbraided one a few minutes ago and my hair is so soft. Unfortunately, I don't know what to do with it now

 

[havilland]

i have been having some good hair days.....i'm scared to mention it.....she might turn on me.

miss jessie's pillow soft curls in combination with some KCNT and almond oil have given me some nice hair days.

yay.....so glad i didn't cave in and relax a few weeks ago.

here she is from a wash n go yesterday

 

[The Princess]

i have been having some good hair days.....i'm scared to mention it.....she might turn on me.

miss jessie's pillow soft curls in combination with some KKNT and almond oil have given me some nice hair days.

yay.....so glad i didn't cave in and relax a few weeks ago.

I'm glad you didn't relaxed either.

 

[The Princess]

Still hanging 39 weeks post

 

[Rae81]

Was really looking forward to doing wash n gos when I bc, but the way it's looking that won't be happening. Unless I can get the crown to change texture or something

sent from my galaxy

 

[CandiceC]

Was really looking forward to doing wash n gos when I bc, but the way it's looking that won't be happening. Unless I can get the crown to change texture or something

sent from my galaxy

Rae81

Are your textures drastically different?

 

[shunta]

What a great thread. I'm only 3 mos post relaxer but I plan to transition w/o the BC as well. My head's too big for me to chop all my hair off, lol. I can't wait to see my hair a year from now. I'm 4a so I'm curious to see how my natural curls will look

 

[Rae81]

Rae81

Are your textures drastically different?

The curls in the crown is much tighter and its real frizzy then the rest of my hair. I also have a section in the from that does not curl up at all. Im just trying to imagine how its all going to look when i bc