Transitioning without BC'ing Support Thread

[MissMusic]

Napp, that happened to me and it turned out that I needed to clarify, do a hard protein treatment and use a porosity treatment because the balance in my hair was a little off. I thought I didn't need hard protein because I had used my AO GPB overnight a couple of weeks before, but it turns out my hair needed a large dose of Keratin. I used my trusty Aphogee 2 step and porosity control conditioner. 10 weeks later, I didn't have that matting problem. HTH!

ETA: You can get sample packets of both of those products at Sally's.

 

[daviine]

For about ten minutes today I contemplated BCing and wearing a wig. Changed my mind already though, lol.

 

[SqrpioQutie]

i ordered two new wigs yesterday... i want them to get here so i can start playing... both of them are on the straighter side of things... one even has bangs... i betta like it.. lol

 

[The Princess]

Okay I am late as usual... Had to deal with a pouty husband he is still not happy... (oh well) I am ABSOLUTELY in love. The shorter hair is much easier to deal with. Of course I will have to adjust as it continues to grow, but as promised here you go...

Your hair look really nice.

 

[havilland]

Okay I am late as usual... Had to deal with a pouty husband he is still not happy... (oh well) I am ABSOLUTELY in love. The shorter hair is much easier to deal with. Of course I will have to adjust as it continues to grow, but as promised here you go...

your love for your hair will be contagious! just give hubby a big kiss! LOL

congrats!

 

[havilland]

so i have entered a new phase in my hair journey.

i have NEVER EVER EVER been able to leave conditioner in my hair. usually when i leave conditioner on my hair, the roots swell up and act a fool OR my hair tangles up and catches on the comb. doesn't matter what kind of conditioner either...i have tried them all. my hair is just fine and doesn't like to be weighed down. well, that time has come to an end.

so in my journey up to this point so far, the only way i can get my hair into a smooth ponytail is to soak it in the shower after rinsing my deep conditioning treatment and put it in a ponytail right there in the shower while it is still dripping wet. i mean literally, i soak the hair and get the water to weigh it down, step away from the shower spray and put the scrunchie on while i am standing in the shower. if i get out, it's too late. i will have no smoothness.

the other day i tried something new. as a take on the curly girl method, i put some moisturizing conditioner on my wet roots just to see what would happen. to my surprise the roots just smoothed down and went obediently into a ponytail. first time since about 10 months post that i didn't have to take a ponytail holder into the shower with me!

i am almost 14 months post texlax right now with no plans on cutting.........

here are some pics of how it turned out once it dried.

 

[Linxnme]

Your hair is beautiful.

 

[GeorginaSparks]

Ok i have some better pics. Been wearing my hair in a ponytail and about to install another weave tomorrow. Showing length...hopefully next pics will show growth because ill be using MN.


click on thumbnails for bigger pic:

 

[newbeginnings2010]

daviine
How odd...I had the exact same thought today.

 

[Ashawn Arraine]

havilland your hair is beautiful. How were you able to manage to get it into a banana clip? I tried and it was a no go.

 

[MsDee14]

havilland Your hair looks great!! Your texlaxed hair is beautiful too.

 

[havilland]

havilland your hair is beautiful. How were you able to manage to get it into a banana clip? I tried and it was a no go.

It took some practice. Eventually I discovered my hair does better when I hold it like I am going to put it in a ponytail. Apply the clip. Close it then fan out my hair. Also works better on hair that is somewhat dry or dry. So if I am air drying I put it my hair in a scrunchie and let it dry a few hours before switching to a banana clip.

 

[shortt29]

so i have entered a new phase in my hair journey.

i have NEVER EVER EVER been able to leave conditioner in my hair. usually when i leave conditioner on my hair, the roots swell up and act a fool OR my hair tangles up and catches on the comb. doesn't matter what kind of conditioner either...i have tried them all. my hair is just fine and doesn't like to be weighed down. well, that time has come to an end.

so in my journey up to this point so far, the only way i can get my hair into a smooth ponytail is to soak it in the shower after rinsing my deep conditioning treatment and put it in a ponytail right there in the shower while it is still dripping wet. i mean literally, i soak the hair and get the water to weigh it down, step away from the shower spray and put the scrunchie on while i am standing in the shower. if i get out, it's too late. i will have no smoothness.

the other day i tried something new. as a take on the curly girl method, i put some moisturizing conditioner on my wet roots just to see what would happen. to my surprise the roots just smoothed down and went obediently into a ponytail. first time since about 10 months post that i didn't have to take a ponytail holder into the shower with me!

i am almost 14 months post texlax right now with no plans on cutting.........

here are some pics of how it turned out once it dried.

Loving your hair straight and curly !!!! I actually tried putting conditioner back in my wet hair to help smooth it into a wet bun last night...worked pretty well

 

[Meemee6223]

Meemee6223, how do you like Carol Daughterctransitioning kit.

The Princess daviine I love it. I haven't used the conditioner because I have braids (I use a thinner spray conditioner) but the shampoo and the scalp spray are perfect for keeping my scalp clean while I'm in braids. The shampoo doesn't dry my hair or scalp and cleans extremely well. I don't know if the scalp spray has any real benefits for my hair but it feels sooooo good! My new growth feels really soft.

 

[WaterMoccasin]

1 year today! (Or was it yesterday with the extra leap year day?:scratchch)
Anyway, yay! So tempted to big chop...but not as much as I was a few months ago.
Weaving it up next week so I'll probably stay on a transitioning 'plan' a little longer. Now that I'm here actually, I'm having a hard time thinking about letting go of my straggly processed but long-ish hair past the 4-6" of natural hair.
Don't want short hair shock!
But I keep thinking of doing the BC mostly because of hair unevenness- some of it's fully natural already because the processed parts fell off a long time ago.

The attached pic is from about 1 month ago when I flat-ironed. This kind of inconsistency is all over my head (hair is 5" to 16" ).

 

[havilland]

BahamaMama

i feel you. i am not cutting my hair because i don't llike short hair on me.

the only way i am making it through this right now is because my hair can go easily into a ponytail and i don't have to think about it.

 

[JJamiah]

Okay so once upon a time about a few hours ago, I sat on my bed. My braid out was nice but the ends were crying to leave me. The scissors were lonely and started to cry. My hair was sad and wanted to help the scissors. So the scissors asked to only cut the thin ends, I appeased and let it cut the thin ends on a braid out (where they do that at?)
After looking at it looking like a leggo cut. I cut some more, it is so pitiful. I need to wash, and straighten my hair and go get a real cut this weekend. I BUTCHERED my hair like there is no tomorrow. I am no longer in the gravy Section NJoy, I don't even know if My hair is APL or will be after the cut. I am keeping the rest of my ends after the cut. I need to be able to style my hair accordingly.

I am just frustrated and my hair was the one who caught the frustration at the moment. Seems like I am falling into the same crazy scenario over and over again.

END OF VENT!

I only took pics of the hair, not the butchered result, will do after the hair cut.

OH yeah, someone said "Someone said I am in trouble, when they get home" If you don't here from me, 9 1 1 okay

 

[SqrpioQutie]

i took pics today for the njoy challenge, so i figured i'd share them over in this thread too.... freshly washed and conditioned hair, no product (except for the ponytail - i used some leave-in before i put it up)....

9th month, 3rd week, 6th day of my transition....

 

[MsDee14]

i took pics today for the njoy challenge, so i figured i'd share them over in this thread too.... freshly washed and conditioned hair, no product (except for the ponytail - i used some leave-in before i put it up)....

9th month, 3rd week, 6th day of my transition....

It honestly looks like you only have a few inches of relaxed hair left. Your hair must grow SUPER fast!!

 

[SqrpioQutie]

It honestly looks like you only have a few inches of relaxed hair left. Your hair must grow SUPER fast!!

i think it does grow pretty fast, but only when i'm paying attention to it... ... meaning, ps'ing, being mindful of how often i straighten and use heat tools, etc... BUT, i also think that some of the area at the very top of the straighter pieces were texlaxed... i'm going to look for a pic from when i last relaxed....

ETA: i found a pic that was 1 month post... so yeah, some of the curlies that i have now are definitely texlaxed.... who knows when i'll be fully natural... lol

 

[MsDee14]

SqrpioQutie

Your texlaxed hair almost looks natural.

You are also very pretty!

 

[Leslie_C]

i washed my hair in braided sections and my hair matted within the braids. it was like the braid fused together. it was ridiculous. as soon as water hits my hair it turns into dreadlocks..

@Napp, I know several others have chimed in, but I just want to agree that this has happened to my hair before too, and it probably needs a moderate to hard protein. I like nexxus emergencee. That is about the hardest protein I use. My hair would be all gummy/webby and I couldnt detangle at all bc it was so matted together at the roots. Ill bet if you do a hard protein followed by a good moisturizing treatment, your hair will behave. Maybe finish up with an ACV or AVG rinse for good measure.

My first attempt at wet bunning. I am so falling in love with my natural hair.

@Eclipse, loving the waves!

i have got to figure out how to get a ton more moisture to the middle/back of my hair.... from what i can tell, my curls are tighter there and more prone to dryness.... i always laugh when people say "a little goes a long way" with products - that's very rarely the case for me... i need to discover a HG cheapie moisturizer... so far, my best find has been the beautiful textures tangle taming leave-in conditioner... lol

@SqrpioQutie, have you tried Shea moisture curl enhancing smoothie and/or curl and style milk as a moisturizer? These have literally saved my hair and the first moisturizers that have worked for it pretty much EVER!

@Meemee6223 Yay for no more itchy scalp. I hope you figure out how to make it last. And then come back and tell me, lol.

How do you like the transitioning kit?

@daviine, ACV rinses pretty much solve my dry,itchy scalp problems.

Okay I am late as usual... Had to deal with a pouty husband he is still not happy... (oh well) I am ABSOLUTELY in love. The shorter hair is much easier to deal with. Of course I will have to adjust as it continues to grow, but as promised here you go...

@Ashawn Arraine Im in love with your BC results!!! seriously! Has hubby gotten more used to it now? Its beautiful IMO and makes me think I may be able to BC at 15 months if Im feeling froggy (that was one of my tentative dates bc Ill be 15 months on my birthday next year). Thats about the length of my braid n curls now anyway so I could definitely work with that length if my hair is around there at that amount of time.

Ok i have some better pics. Been wearing my hair in a ponytail and about to install another weave tomorrow. Showing length...hopefully next pics will show growth because ill be using MN.


click on thumbnails for bigger pic:

@shockolate, pretty waves and curlies!

@BahamaMama

i feel you. i am not cutting my hair because i don't llike short hair on me.

the only way i am making it through this right now is because my hair can go easily into a ponytail and i don't have to think about it.

@Haviiland, your texlaxed and natural hair are so lovely! I hear you, my hair isnt anywhere near the length of yours, but transitioning because so easy when I was able to figure out how to make a puff into a bun...that will keep me sane bc I can look presentable in minutes whether I styled it previously or not.

OH yeah, someone said "Someone said I am in trouble, when they get home" If you don't here from me, 9 1 1 okay

@JJamiah, girl you need to retire those scissors lol. I think I got all my chopping out of my system early in my transition bc I cut it from (longest layer) about APL to the bottom of my neck in mid may and I did another light trim a few weeks ago. No desire to hack the rest off as of now lol. My hair has been growing and retaining like crazy though! I blow dried a section in the back out of curiousity and it has grown out sooo much...like 3 or more inches! I cant believe it! Its possible it could be APL by the end of the year at this rate. My hair is layered plus I had breakage before I started and had to cutt he middle a lot when I started transitioning, so the middle is pretty short...some of it seems like its almost all natural. But the bottom and sides are the longest part. Ill play it by ear bc Im trying to avoid the mullet look lol.

i took pics today for the njoy challenge, so i figured i'd share them over in this thread too.... freshly washed and conditioned hair, no product (except for the ponytail - i used some leave-in before i put it up)....

9th month, 3rd week, 6th day of my transition....

@SqrpioQutie, loving your pattern, do you have any pics of your hair natural from last go around?




Ladies, I cant seem to capture my pattern on camera lol. Ill try again today bc this fro is kinda dry today, been slacking on moisture this week. I think I might have the kinkiest hair out of any of the long term transitioners Ive seen lol. Ive also recentlyaccepted that my hair is fine lol. I honestly never thought it was before, not sure why...but yeah the individual strands are baby fine...no wonder it is so fragile!

Celebrating 7 months post on Sunday!

 

[RemyRem]

Sorry Ladies I've been gone for a while. But im back now!!

I have a serious question?

How do yall deal with hair being matted and knotted. I was detangling today and it was horrible and im not even that far in my transition. I had so many knots it wasnt even funny. Is it because I wear my roller sets alot or what?

Im so lost and frustrated! Grrrr!


PLEASE HELP

 

[MissMusic]

RemyRem, when is the last time you did a hard protein treatment? I think many of us find that if you slack on your protein treatment, you will end up with matted and knotted hair.

 

[SqrpioQutie]

@SqrpioQutie, have you tried Shea moisture curl enhancing smoothie and/or curl and style milk as a moisturizer? These have literally saved my hair and the first moisturizers that have worked for it pretty much EVER!

@SqrpioQutie, loving your pattern, do you have any pics of your hair natural from last go around?

Leslie_C, i haven't tried any of the Shea Moisture products because i generally have bad experiences with products with shea in them... it boggles my mind!!!!.... i keep trying though so maybe that one will work for me....

and thank you!!... i found the older pics from the '05 era... the first pic was when i started chopping... the second pic was all natural... the third was texlaxed... the last was my comparison...

 

[SqrpioQutie]

SqrpioQutie

Your texlaxed hair almost looks natural.

You are also very pretty!

MsDee14, thank you!!!

 

[RemyRem]

RemyRem, when is the last time you did a hard protein treatment? I think many of us find that if you slack on your protein treatment, you will end up with matted and knotted hair.

Yeah I've been slacking. I need to go get one. What protein treatment would you recommend?

 

[Leslie_C]

@Leslie_C, i haven't tried any of the Shea Moisture products because i generally have bad experiences with products with shea in them... it boggles my mind!!!!.... i keep trying though so maybe that one will work for me....

and thank you!!... i found the older pics from the '05 era... the first pic was when i started chopping... the second pic was all natural... the third was texlaxed... the last was my comparison...

SqrpioQutie I love your hair all three ways I was texlaxed too, but I found over time it ended up being relaxed bc I was unable to get uniform results long term. Eventually the ends ended up straighter and straighter...were you successful? Im a self stylists and dont trust hairdressers so I would be afraid for anyone else to do it. Ill miss wash n go's on texlaxed hair bc the shrinkage wasnt too bad and also surprisingly even living in FL at the time, I didnt get crazy frizz. Looking forward to learning and embracing my hair chemical free though.

Here are a few pics from my texlaxed days: 1st is a wash n go, 2nd is a braidout, 3rd is flat ironed. That was probably my hair at its healthiest and before I got pregnant with my son who is 3. It was still pretty nice for the first few months after he was born bc I think hormones saved me, then it all went downhill lol and just got worse and worse to the point I gave up and didnt even care about it anymore. I neglected it big time. Im surprised I had any hair left lol. Its gotten tremendously healthier since I started transitioning and taking care of it again. Thankfully it has really turned around for the better.

 

[SqrpioQutie]

SqrpioQutie I love your hair all three ways I was texlaxed too, but I found over time it ended up being relaxed bc I was unable to get uniform results long term. Eventually the ends ended up straighter and straighter...were you successful? Im a self stylists and dont trust hairdressers so I would be afraid for anyone else to do it. Ill miss wash n go's on texlaxed hair bc the shrinkage wasnt too bad and also surprisingly even living in FL at the time, I didnt get crazy frizz. Looking forward to learning and embracing my hair chemical free though.

Here are a few pics from my texlaxed days: 1st is a wash n go, 2nd is a braidout, 3rd is flat ironed. That was probably my hair at its healthiest and before I got pregnant with my son who is 3. It was still pretty nice for the first few months after he was born bc I think hormones saved me, then it all went downhill lol and just got worse and worse to the point I gave up and didnt even care about it anymore. I neglected it big time. Im surprised I had any hair left lol. Its gotten tremendously healthier since I started transitioning and taking care of it again. Thankfully it has really turned around for the better.

Leslie_C, thank you!!... i had a hard time getting consistent results too (i haven't had a stylist relax my hair in probably 10 years or so) so that's why i stopped wearing it curly.... but year, your hair looked really healthy in those pics!!!.... i'm scared to death that after i finish this transition i'm not going to be happy with my hair.... SCARED TO DEATH!!!!... i found other pics that i liked from when i was texlaxed but still curly... these are from 2007

 

[tarheelgurl]

I forgot to post that I big chopped back in July!! No longer transitioning! It was kind of bitter sweet.