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NaturalBeauty<3

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I CAN NOT stop cutting my hair.
I should have reached my goal years ago, but my hair is so fine, and dense...and knots so easily.
My siggy is my latest hacking. About 2 inches gone, some knots, some splits.
I put myself on a schedule for trims/dustings (about every 2 months) but its not working.
Normally I'm chipper in threads I create, throw in a joke here or there, but I'm kinda deflated.

Anybody else wanna join the pity party? Come, feel sorry for yourself. Got plenty room. :lachen: *NB welcomes others* :lol:
 
I have a complaint. I'm tried of shed hair knots. TIRED I tell you. I'm tired of fighting this mess. I want to be able to finger detangle and go. But NO. I have to sit - before -during - and - after every wash picking at knots that magically form from shed hair. It makes me want to cut. I swear.
 
Ohh I feel like this. I see people who started when I did and they have bc/ and gotten to w/l again. I should have been w/l years ago. Now my hair is thin on one side for some reason. I have a tail that is almost 3 inches longer than the rest of my hair and I'm really contemplating cutting back to bsl.... again.

I get knots from shed hairs also and I am not patient. I rip them out. The one good thing is at least I don't have splits.
 
I straightened and colored my hair in November 2011. I straightened my hair again yesterday and IT IS THE SAME LENGTH as it was when I straightened it in November!!! :wallbash: :wallbash: It is still freaking shoulder length!!!! :nono: It has grown a little over an inch (I can clearly tell because my roots are black)!!! And I have nothing to show for it!! I have not been taking care of my hair :cry3: After I wash my hair curly again, I'm throwing some damn twists in and protective styling like a mug!! :nono: I wanted to be APL by nowwwwwwwwwww!!! :cry3: I hope I can be APL by my 1 year natural anniversary in June! :( Or at least a lot closer!!! :mad: :cry3: ANDDD I have to phucking trim it a little right now because the ends are soooooo stupid!!! :cry:
 
NaturalBeauty<3 said:
I CAN NOT stop cutting my hair.
I should have reached my goal years ago, but my hair is so fine, and dense...and knots so easily.
My siggy is my latest hacking. About 2 inches gone, some knots, some splits.
I put myself on a schedule for trims/dustings (about every 2 months) but its not working.
Normally I'm chipper in threads I create, throw in a joke here or there, but I'm kinda deflated.

Anybody else wanna join the pity party? Come, feel sorry for yourself. Got plenty room. :lachen: *NB welcomes others* :lol:
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Put the scissors down and slowly walk away! :lol:

My only complaint... I washed my hair on Friday and it looked BEAUTIFUL... then it rained. Now I look like a Troll.
 
I decided to straighten my hair in June of last year and sustained some major heat damage. I thought that I woud "transition" by protective styling until my new growth was at least six inches in length, but I listened to a friend who convinced me to allow her stylist to straighten and trim my hair in December. The style was gorgeous, but again, my hair was left damaged.

Last Wednesday, after months of desperation and frustration with my hair, I decided to start over. So here I am, back at square one with a TWA.

I like the idea of starting over, it's the actual starting over that gets me a little down.
 
leona2025 said:
Ohh I feel like this. I see people who started when I did and they have bc/ and gotten to w/l again. I should have been w/l years ago. Now my hair is thin on one side for some reason. I have a tail that is almost 3 inches longer than the rest of my hair and I'm really contemplating cutting back to bsl.... again.

I get knots from shed hairs also and I am not patient. I rip them out. The one good thing is at least I don't have splits.
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leona2025

Well, hearing your story I feel your pain; but not when I look at your hair. Your hair is still beautiful. Do you want to trade?

Ever since my auto accident a few years back, the back of my hair continues to fallout. As a result, my WL hair is extremely thin because my back is not existent. :sad: I keep contemplating just doing a big chop and starting all over. As you, I have been in this game for years and I am still making my way to strong full WL hair.
 
amwcah said:
@leona2025

Well, hearing your story I feel your pain; but not when I look at your hair. Your hair is still beautiful. Do you want to trade?

Ever since my auto accident a few years back, the back of my hair continues to fallout. As a result, my WL hair is extremely thin because my back is not existent. :sad: I keep contemplating just doing a big chop and starting all over. As you, I have been in this game for years and I am still making my way to strong full WL hair.
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It's aggravating. My hair was longer and healthier looking when I was flat ironing once a week. I know I had a major setback with one of my dye jobs, but I'm not gonna cut it to grow evenly. I don't even wear it straight anymore.

When I air dry it's not as noticeable, but that's another problem. My hair seems to retain moisture better when straighten. So I have to cowash several times a week just to keep my hair from being dry. I barely straighten 1 time a month.
 
Yaassss!! this is just what i needed. a pity party :D i dunno why it's making me so happy (teehee).

ok ladies, i've been away for a while (travelling mostly... and uhm... taking my hair for granted). and this is how i've been repaid (see scary pics).

what happened was i was in northern india hanging out and taking pics but i realized after the first 1.5wks i was getting severe sinus colds from frequent washings. so i pretty much stopped washing all together (don't judge me). AND i also basically just stopped touching my head and left it in 6 plaits. and so 6wks later i decide to face the beast and voila! lots of hair! that is now in garbage and not on my head. certainly some of this is just regular shed hair and not due to my severe negligence but probably 2/5 of this could have been avoided. i'm a heavy shedder but this was still sorta scary. bottom line: after 6wks of wig wearing negligence, severe matting ensued. but i took my time to detangle. 3 days in all, finger detangling only.
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so then i learn my lesson and i was thankful no one could tell i lost any hair and i vowed to never leave my hair untouched for more than 4wks. fast-forward to this past week-end. another major mishap. i was sick the previous wknd but took my twists down anyway. no biggie. my hair was in good shape. but i was sooo exhausted i didn't feel like twisting again. nor could i fully detangle. i was really weak. so i just washed with my hair (without separating) and air-dried. left it all out and stayed sick in bed. i needed to gently stretch for a bun so washed monday, again all in a mass with no detangling since it was a workday. and so the week continued... bere wash and go buns! and after a week of that the result was this:
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thank the gods for thick strands and the appearance of too much hair! after this much shedding i really should be bald.
 
I want to cut off all my hair right now. It just isn't quite right. I can't explain it but it doesn't hang right and never has really(except with a relaxer). My crown is completely different texture than my back or front. It shrinks up to my freakin scalp. My front is some straightish crap and my back is loose curls. I hate that I have 3 VERY DISTINCT textures in my head (and yes I have always had this problem). I wish I was WL already so I can do more fly undos and not have to see this craziness. I could be WL by next year graduation barring any major setbacks but I can't seem to put the scissors down. Lastly, I absolutely hate how fine my hair is. I want thick lush hair like I see on here
 
winona said:
I want to cut off all my hair right now. It just isn't quite right. I can't explain it but it doesn't hang right and never has really(except with a relaxer). My crown is completely different texture than my back or front. It shrinks up to my freakin scalp. My front is some straightish crap and my back is loose curls. I hate that I have 3 VERY DISTINCT textures in my head (and yes I have always had this problem). I wish I was WL already so I can do more fly undos and not have to see this craziness. I could be WL by next year graduation barring any major setbacks but I can't seem to put the scissors down. Lastly, I absolutely hate how fine my hair is. I want thick lush hair like I see on here
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Same here it's so weird, therefore I'm constantly wearing braids or twists.
 
I'm hating my hair at the moment. I'm sick of spilt ends, lack of elasticity and holes in my strands. Literal holes. Argh!!!!!!!!

I cant figure out if my hair is high or low porosity and I think this might be the key to my recovery.
 
My hair grows in a pattern thick, then longer, thicker then longer.

Problem I get itchy with scissors when it's in the longer stage cause it looks thinner It's BSL finally but the urge to "trim" for thickness is strong. One would think I know this pattern well:ohwell:
 
I started my "HHJ" almost a year ago. I thought I knew what I was doing but I didn't. My hair stayed around the same length for a full 2 years.:ohwell: It is my fault. I was dc weekly religiously but I was also using the flat iron weekly and coming thru my new growth (usually 18 weeks post or more) like a mad woman.:wallbash: I thought since I was DCing regularly that my hair was almost invincible.:spinning: Because of this, I am going to lay off heat all this year, only to flat iron my new growth, if at all.

I myself am scissor happy. I just love blunt ends. My SL hair was full of splits so I just decided to hack it off with my scissors. My hair looks and feels thicker, but there are still some splits. I don't want to cut anymore length so I am S&D when I have time. I guess tomorrow I will set aside several minutes(or hours) for me to cut off the remaining splits. It's just frustrating me right now.

My other issue is that the back part of my hair which is usually prone to breakage is shorter than the hair in the front. I trimmed a bit off the back and got most of the splits out of the back so I am happy, but I wish my hair would even out already so I can really start seeing more thickness and fullness in my hair.

But I know I will reach my goals...one day. Good luck with your goals ladies.
 
I have so many worries with my hair. I don't have a recent pic, but it's thinned quite a bit this year. I've been under a lot of stress, so I shouldn't be surprised. My hair is usually the first to show it. When I was younger, I once had bald spots from so much stress. Coming from a family of fine, thin -haired women, I can't afford to lose anything. It was so much thicker when I was younger...

I should've been whip length by now. I wash, steam, deep condition, protein (not as consistent as I could be) blow dry with the tension method every now & then (maybe every 2 months), wear protective styles & it still breaks. I have that hair that breaks if you look at it too hard. I really want to cut it off & start over. I'm thinking about it hard...
 
This is exactly what I need. I know people in my life are tired of hearing me say I'm growing my hair to waist length, because really I should be tail bone length by now. My hair has so many split ends it's not funny. For some reason this last year and a half my hair is splitting like mad. I think I need to start regular protein treatments. My hair is getting so weird. Some of the strands are fine in some places and thick in other places on 1 strand of hair. I S&D to get the knots of the end only to realize the thing is split 1.5 inches up and I end up having to cut off almost 2 inches on a strand instead of just the knot at the end.

A friend broke my hooded dryer, which was my trusty lady dazy and everything on the market these days just looks like junk so no more aphogee treatments for me. I need to find a good protein treatment that does not need heat.
 
NaturalBeauty<3 said:
I feel so... BEHIND.
Its irking me. I wanna chop back to neck length and just, start over. #Sigh
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I totally understand how you feel. I should be TBL by now with as much hair as I've cut, but I slooooooooowwwwwly pushing towards WL. And my hair is now where near as massive as I want it to be. :sad:
 
If I had only said no to bleaching.

I have heat damage and I want to just chop it off.

I wish I would've gone to a barber for my BC. Its two years later and im still salty about the 2 inches I needlessly cut off due to my lack of skillz with some clippers.
 
*whips out the black streamers and sad violin muzak*:violin:

See, someone needs to beat the shrinkage out these curls. I mean, if I ever even get to APL it draws up so bad, it will only look NL! Right now, it's edging past NL. Guess what? Wash n' go's look like TWAs! My flat twist outs stretch me to looking EL! :spinning:

Maybe one day, when I'm 70, and finally reach classic length stretched, a wash n go will actually just cover my neck enough to keep it warm in the old folks' home.:hammer:
 
NaturalBeauty<3 said:
I CAN NOT stop cutting my hair.
I should have reached my goal years ago, but my hair is so fine, and dense...and knots so easily.
My siggy is my latest hacking. About 2 inches gone, some knots, some splits.
I put myself on a schedule for trims/dustings (about every 2 months) but its not working.
Normally I'm chipper in threads I create, throw in a joke here or there, but I'm kinda deflated.

Anybody else wanna join the pity party? Come, feel sorry for yourself. Got plenty room. :lachen: *NB welcomes others* :lol:
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really sorry to hear what is happening to your hair. have you tried changing up your shampoo or conditioner? it maybe something that your hair is not liking. I was just reading about that in the science of black hair.
 
My hair looks like a mullet i NEED a curlycut

My hair shrinks to shoulder length even with increased growth

My hair gets the side eye from me everyday because of these two issues that is all:look::ohwell:
 
Embyra said:
My hair looks like a mullet i NEED a curlycut

My hair shrinks to shoulder length even with increased growth

My hair gets the side eye from me everyday because of these two issues that is all:look::ohwell:
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Girl, mine too!

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