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bronzebomb - Perhaps you can have a heart to heart discussion with your honey to find what concerns him about your natural hair. Take it as an opportunity to let him know how his comments make you feel. Listen to his views, express your views and hopefully you can find balance between what he feels and what you prefer. You're in a tough space. Evaluate what's important and proceed from there.
 
IDareT'sHair
You nailed it "let me be me" :yep:.Blue collar fits my lifestyle bc I ain't the one to be getting dressed up, fancy dinners, and etc. Besides I love a man in a uniform. Fast food uniforms I can't do but the rest.... Army, navy, air force, marines, ups, post office, mechanics, cable men....:look:
 
@Eisani and @mkd you two have curly hair...I think black men like that better...It's considered "Good Hair"

when he watches the YouTube Videos he points out the hair he likes! It's either perm straight or naturally curly.

He saw Kimmaytube and said "thank goodness her hair is long"

Black men and Long or Good Hair...LOL, I want them both. But I work with what I got!
:lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
bronzebomb

I don't think it's fair to "generalize" like that. SOME black men is a little more accurate.

That's like saying: Black Women like men with Bald Heads. While, I like some Men with a Bald Head, I can get down with a Fro' or Braids or a Fade.

It depends on the individual "Man" and if he treats me like Gold, that's good enough for me.:perplexed

At this point in my Life, it's really all about Me.:lol:
 
bronzebomb, my dh is a lawyer too. I never considered that his preference for straight hair was tied to work. Here in Atlanta, black female lawyers rocking natural hair is pretty common but I know Atlanta is different that way. My feeling are hurt for you. Whenever my husband makes a joke about my curly hair or even comments on how much more he likes straight hair, i roll my eyes at him. This is the way my hair grows out of head, deal with it.
 
When I was in HS & College, I tried to be "all that he wanted me to be":look:

And maybe some of that in my early 30's.....:look:

Now....Hmp.:rolleyes: I'm calling the shots up in this piece.:lol:
 
@bronzebomb

I don't think it's fair to "generalize" like that. SOME black men is a little more accurate.

That's like saying: Black Women like men with Bald Heads. While, I like some Men with a Bald Head, I can get down with a Fro' or Braids or a Fade.

It depends on the individual "Man" and if he treats me like Gold, that's good enough for me.:perplexed

At this point in my Life, it's really all about Me.:lol:
i love the bolded:yep:
 
IDareT'sHair
You nailed it "let me be me" :yep:.Blue collar fits my lifestyle bc I ain't the one to be getting dressed up, fancy dinners, and etc. Besides I love a man in a uniform. Fast food uniforms I can't do but the rest.... Army, navy, air force, marines, ups, post office, mechanics, cable men....:look:
Idk why this made me :giggle: then :lachen:.
When I was in HS & College, I tried to be "all that he wanted me to be":look:

And maybe some of that in my early 30's.....:look:

Now....Hmp.:rolleyes: I'm calling the shots up in this piece.:lol:
I'm in my early 30's now and I'm STILL calling shots. I've been through too much to put up with any old thang. I've always been a handful. If a man can't handle it, he ain't the one for me.

:giggle: i cant wait to grow up so i can call the shots:lol:
Che it's never to early to start! Tell these clowns to get right, or get left! *two snaps*
 
Oh, IDareT'sHair divachyk, mkd the B-vitamins are said to extend the hair's growth phase. I'm going back to internal consumption as well, but I'll be crushin and dumpin as well as adding vitamin E oil. I'm going back to alll my old habits, including my original prepoo recipe I got from Kinikakes back in the day.
 
I went back to the Shi Naturals website to look at ingredients :rolleyes: and looks like her shipping is straight now :yep:. Good because she sells her stuff in 32 oz sizes.
 
Oh, IDareT'sHair divachyk, mkd the B-vitamins are said to extend the hair's growth phase. I'm going back to internal consumption as well, but I'll be crushin and dumpin as well as adding vitamin E oil. I'm going back to alll my old habits, including my original prepoo recipe I got from Kinikakes back in the day.

Wow, this sounds great!
 
you guys think i could find a styler/curl cream with no water? i want to start twisting on blowdried hair.

i tried it on stretched hair. i got the length i wanted, but not the definition. hmm!

robot. I don't know of many curl creams without water. However, I will say that when I used Darcy's curl cream gel on blow dried hair I was left with long, huge curls and had tons of definition. I blow dried, applied the curl cream, flat twisted and left the twists in an hour (I was rushing somewhere as usual lol). I only had about 9 flat twiists so it was a real rush job lol

Hello ladies. In bed. Tonight I co-washed with HV Moist 24/7. I still have 75% of a gallon left. I am so over this conditioner. If ever I finish this gallon I may not repurchase. I am too in love with Darcy's pumpkin and cj argan and olive! I left in Enso Aloe and Marshmallow and did chunky twists with Anita Grant creamy caffe latte. Tomoro I will cleanse with cj daily fix and co-wash with moist 24 and leave in enso, anita grant, and add a little of darcys curl creme. I will do flat twists. I need big hair for the weekend. I have another mentor presentation at a high school! Today my two broccoli creams came from Saravun! I was so excited to get a box I didn't know what to do lol
 
Wow, bronzebomb! The ladies have gave you awesome input! You have to be happy for you first, and everyonr else last. Its hard to be married or in a relationship and please everyon, there will always be something you don't like about each other. At least you can wear it straight or curly. I have fine curly hair but long weave is the thing now. I don't care, if its not for you fine move on. I just gotten to a place in my life now that i have to be happy first. In the past trying to please someone all the time i wasn't happy, faking it. So my comment to you is can/will you be happy for you or for him! Life is short be happy curly or straight but for You!
 
Morning Ladies! Had to work last night, so tired :yawn:.

My SO did not want me to BC, he pissed me off one day, and while he was sleep I chopped. I wanted to do it so bad, and he pissed me off, that was my fuel.

When he makes a smart remark about my head, I tell him, I don't like you bald, so grow some hair, and I'll relax. Fool can't grow hair, had a receeding hairline since HS :lachen:

So screw these fools that think they can make us feel a certain way about our hair, they always got ish to say whether its natural, relaxed, wavy, curly, weaved, twists, braids, purple, blonde, blue.

Do you and if he don't like it, :ohwell: either he'll leave or deal with. My fool is dealing with it.

In other news, I'll be taking my KT out tonight. Ready to go to town with some of these products, and start keeping track of how my hair reacts. Think first up will be KBB Mask, still on the fence on this one.
 
*long post warning*

that little 'hair vs man' convo was so cute. all the wisdom made me feel like the youngin in the 'room' :lol: am i the thread baby? lol

well, if yall ever one wanna these young boys, they love the natchal hair, i can tell you. i went to visit a friend (right before finals week, so things were dicey lol) in a headwrap and he was like...

:perplexed why do you have that on? take it off.
i said, boy bye :rolleyes: my hair looks ridiculous under here
him: idc, i've seen it before. i like your hair.

the attention was nice (he actually talks about my hair and how pretty i am/it is often) but i was thinking 'dang you're pushy, it's my hair.' :lol:

my boo thang told me "aint no scalp like yours!" cant keep him out of it :lol: it's fun, though. i've actually had male friends tell me which style they like best on me and i sit there and eat it up :lachen:

meanwhile, i'm gonna wash again either today or sunday. i've been playing in my hair alllll week. i'm worried about the manipulation so i'll use up my aphogee. could you guys recommend another 'gentle' but effective protein?

for the school year i plan to wear puffs/twistouts/braidouts for the week, washing on the weekends, as usual.

i did a braidout to go out last night and it was cute, very 70s my bestie pinned it up in a updo a la johnny bravo. one side came out a lot better than the other, but hey, now i know next time :spinning: i'm thinking about having the back trimmed an inch or two. it's so long it looks like a mullet :nono:

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Morning Ladies! Had to work last night, so tired :yawn:.

My SO did not want me to BC, he pissed me off one day, and while he was sleep I chopped. I wanted to do it so bad, and he pissed me off, that was my fuel.

When he makes a smart remark about my head, I tell him, I don't like you bald, so grow some hair, and I'll relax. Fool can't grow hair, had a receeding hairline since HS :lachen:
you meannn! :lol:
 
@robot. - hey it's the truth, and yes, I can be down right mean, and will hit below the belt:boxing:, and this fool should know by now, but likes to test me. I think it turns him on.:2inlove:

I'm going to see if he will help take out my twists tonight. He does smile when the from makes it's rare appearance :afro:.

Got my last PURA!!! Shocked because when I tracked, didn't have an update. YES SUCCESS!! Let me open and see what I ordered...The gift set. My MMM says unscented, but its scented. I'll shoot her an email. I have a total of 3 brazil locs, and never tried the stuff. 1 Sapote. The DC still does not smell as good as the first batch I ordered, but def smells better then the 2 I got last week. Also the Tahitian Vanilla smells good, but super sweet, I don't remember it smelling so candyish. Will compare when I get home.

Oh yeah & got my Zoya nail polish order, thank goodness cause I wanted some nail polish. (I have 2 free polishes to use by March)

So for hair - just Claudies (2 more nail polish orders) and the packages end. (I have 2 bloom.com vouchers, but think I'll save to get a clarsonic)

ETA: Oh yeah and I got a free Minty shampoo bar. tiffers - come on in here! Didn't you say this left your hair tangled? Why am I thinking this was you?
 
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So I had a hair fiasco with the Shi Naturals Garlic Conditioner this morning :look:. Kind of reminded me of WhoisSugar latest video :lachen:. There were several things I just shouldn't have done. Anyways....I rinsed my hair 50-11 times. It was a mess. I had a meeting this morning and I asked them if I smelled like garlic. My supervisor said "you smell ethnic" :giggle:. Meaning if I hadn't told them the conditioner story she wouldn't have been able to place the smell but she smelled something.
 
Hello ladies.

I wonder how long it takes for bask to ship. :lick:

I will DC tonight with Curl Rehab. I have a long day today, I have to work all day and then I have training afterwords, so when I get home I just want to sit back, relax and DC.
 
So I had a hair fiasco with the Shi Naturals Garlic Conditioner this morning :look:. Kind of reminded me of WhoisSugar latest video :lachen:. There were several things I just shouldn't have done. Anyways....I rinsed my hair 50-11 times. It was a mess. I had a meeting this morning and I asked them if I smelled like garlic. My supervisor said "you smell ethnic" :giggle:. Meaning if I hadn't told them the conditioner story she wouldn't have been able to place the smell but she smelled something.

How do you smell ethnic?:lachen::lachen:
 
Hey divas! My twist out is hittin today! I was just surprised it had actually air dried overnight :yay:! I chelated last night and did a 10 min dc w/the Nutrine Garlic I found topped with jbco. I rinsed and used that Redken Anti Snap leave in then moisturized with HTN leave in. Twisted ea section with Dary's Avocado and Plum twisting cream, used CJ Honey Buttah leave in on the ends and smoothed jbco into my scalp and along the twists. My stuff is shiny and very well defined. I still can't believe it was completely dry this morning! I am geeked.

Oh, had a discussion with my boss and we both agreed neither of us need to be here before noon on Thursdays and Fridays, so guess what? From now on, my official work day doesn't start until noon Thurs/Fri :lol:. I can't wait til tomorrow!
 
Eisani - Nice on starting the work day late. And you just reminded me a got a 32oz tub of Alter Ego garlic treatment. Guess I'll dig that out for tomorrow's wash day. Why da hayll did I get a 32oz tub and only used it once? Dang i think its about a year old too.

Hmmm anybody have this? I've read where some ladies combine steps, apply to scalp, and then dc at the same time vs garlic on scalp, rinse, then dc. Think I am going to try the condensed method.

I must take inventory of my situation.
 
@divachyk - thanks, def going to start using this, so if I notice a difference when coming in & out of kinky twists/braids.

I had a lot of weak moments today on my 2 passions, hair products & nail polish. I even had a few carts made up. But I "x"'d out all of them! I have bigger goals then hair & nails that I needs my monies for!

So proud of me. Plus I'll go shopping in my stash all weekend! Re-visiting, doctoring up, dc'ing, rubbing & loving on my hair.

Leaving the j.o.b. to go to my other j.o.b (can't wait til my arse quit!)
 
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chello ladies
i am irritated because its so darn hot when it aint no summer. and i got on this hot *** uniform:nono: yea im in a bad mood.
anyway my hair is in the same puff i had it in since tuesday:yep: i like doing my hair 1x or 2x a week. low manipulation at its best. and since im wearing a puff every night i actually wear a silk scarf to bed. usually i sleep with my hair out lol.
 
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