Use 1 Buy 1 Challenge pt.5

[Eisani]

you guys think i could find a styler/curl cream with no water? i want to start twisting on blowdried hair.

i tried it on stretched hair. i got the length i wanted, but not the definition. hmm!

Have you considered making one? I've been experimenting a lot lately with just oils and I like, but I was thinking of adding something else, just not sure what to use yet.

 

[Eisani]

Oh. I'm about to start adding crushed B-vitamins to all my dc's again. I'll do for about a month starting tonight to see if I notice a difference.

 

[Shay72]

Golden75
I have the Huetiful Steamer. I started out using distilled water but then I saw a ytube video which said you can use tap.

I am not feeling my hair right now so there is no danger of me buying ish.

My ceramide oils will not last through the no buy. I do have other oils to use and other products that contain ceramides so I will most likely wait to purchase until after the no buy rather than replacing them.

 

[bronzebomb]

today is the first time in a long time that I have felt like relaxing my hair.

My BF said he likes straight hair...he said it's more presentable. He also said it's easier (for him) to take me around clients when my hair is done with weave. (he is an attorney) We have been talking marriage, but I think the hair thing is an issue for him.

Now, I will say, I feel more glamorous when I have straight hair.

My first month in 2012 with this natural hair has me pretty sad. I've not retained any hair and I'm sick of the nappy look.

He said I look like this , but I think I look like this . He also said that whenever I tell me I'm going ot get my hair done, he secretly hopes I'm going to get a perm.

tis all...

 

[SimJam]

I think I may have to phase out AOHC, I've been wearing my hair in stretched styles, two flat twists in a milk maid style, or a low bun under my wig so I manipulate my hair less. At the end of the day, I take my hair down to moisturise and seal and the AOHC makes my hair feel greasy. Guess I never noticed since I did a fresh wash n go daily and didn't really touch my wash n go hair that much

Now, with just 2 days of back to back m&s my hair is super greasy and I definitely can't do this daily for a full week

OH I would never use AOHC as a daily sealer, its too thick. When I use it for a twistout I dont have to re-moisturize for like 3 days

Hello ladies! busy with school. So there is someone in here that is not on a no-buy great we can watch you! I completely forgot yesterday was my 2 year naturalvsary(however spelled) since I had that breakage I just ain't thought about it.

I feel you on the "forgetting" a naturalversay I basically made no progress in length last year because I was trimming off my colour, so really there was nothing to show

 

[IDareT'sHair]

@Golden75
I have the Huetiful Steamer. I started out using distilled water but then I saw a ytube video which said you can use tap.

I am not feeling my hair right now so there is no danger of me buying ish.

My ceramide oils will not last through the no buy. I do have other oils to use and other products that contain ceramides so I will most likely wait to purchase until after the no buy rather than replacing them.

@Shay72

Maybe this is what curbed my enthuisam for Haulin' right now. I just feel I should be alot further along.

today is the first time in a long time that I have felt like relaxing my hair.

My BF said he likes straight hair...he said it's more presentable. He also said it's easier (for him) to take me around clients when my hair is done with weave. (he is an attorney) We have been talking marriage, but I think the hair thing is an issue for him.

Now, I will say, I feel more glamorous when I have straight hair.

My first month in 2012 with this natural hair has me pretty sad. I've not retained any hair and I'm sick of the nappy look.

He said I look like this , but I think I look like this . He also said that whenever I tell me I'm going ot get my hair done, he secretly hopes I'm going to get a perm.

tis all...

@bronzebomb

You need to re-evaluate why you decided to go natural in the first place.

If you decide to do it, please do it for you (not "A Man") Right now, you are only talmbout marriage - not married.

When he met you weren't you natural?

If you do decide to relax, you'll have plenty of support here.

Maybe review other options "heat training" etc......

 

[IDareT'sHair]

Eisani

What kind of results were you getting when you were adding the B-Vitamin?

 

[mkd]

bronzebomb that is a lot to deal with. My husband doesn't love my hair curly. He prefers straight hair too. Whatever decision you make will be fine.

 

[Eisani]

bronzebomb your man gets a major side eye from me. Mine prefers mine straight as well, but understands that my hair in all of its phases and moods fits my personality, which he loves. Your man needs to get that not to mention he should be proud his woman is confident enough to rock her hair. That confidence is what he should be wanting clients and colleagues to see.

Sorry, that just kind of irritated me. These men are so selfish and inconsiderate sometimes. YOUR hair ain't about HIM.

 

[chebaby]

I think I may have to phase out AOHC, I've been wearing my hair in stretched styles, two flat twists in a milk maid style, or a low bun under my wig so I manipulate my hair less. At the end of the day, I take my hair down to moisturise and seal and the AOHC makes my hair feel greasy. Guess I never noticed since I did a fresh wash n go daily and didn't really touch my wash n go hair that much

Now, with just 2 days of back to back m&s my hair is super greasy and I definitely can't do this daily for a full week

then just dont moisturize as often. sometimes you dont have to moisturize twice a day everyday. soemtimes with some moisturizers 3x a week is enough.

 

[IDareT'sHair]

bronzebomb

I wholeheartedly agree with what everyone is saying. There has to be a 'compromise' in this.

You are not "your hair" That's kind of superficial. And what other set of "demands" will he attempt to make if you do this?

I'm sure you'll weigh out all your options and make the very best decision for Bronze.

Just don't do anything hasty.

 

[curlyhersheygirl]

bronzebomb Everyone already said what I was going to. Just do what makes YOU feel right.

 

[chebaby]

@bronzebomb your man gets a major side eye from me. Mine prefers mine straight as well, but understands that my hair in all of its phases and moods fits my personality, which he loves. Your man needs to get that not to mention he should be proud his woman is confident enough to rock her hair. That confidence is what he should be wanting clients and colleagues to see.

Sorry, that just kind of irritated me. These men are so selfish and inconsiderate sometimes. YOUR hair ain't about HIM.

i was going to say something very similar to this. but then i realized that my hair although kinky is curly and your hair is curly too. bronze's hair is kinky and 4a4b right? even though i hate to admitt it people(men) do feel differently about hair based on type. i bet if her hair was super curly he wouldnt have an issue with it(which makes me mad). it upsets me but i dont think she can change his mind since hes a grown man.
my ex SO was on board from day one even with my funny shaped head.
my thoughts are all over the place with this topic. part of me wants to say i would kick him in his throat and he should know better but the other part of me is saying its not really surprising that he feels this way. i just assume most men feel that way but some dont feel the need to say it.

 

[Shay72]

bronzebomb
His comment about your hair being more presentable to his clients and colleagues when it's straight or weaved up really has me wanting to . Honestly I'm concerned about everything he said. I don't even know this man so I can't let him get my pressure up.

 

[chebaby]

oh and bronzebomb, let me be honest with you. when i went to the dominicans it was because i was feeling down and un-pretty. when i walked out the salon i felt so beautiful and now im fighting everyday not to straighten my hair for that same look/feeling. ive felt beautiful my entire natural hair journey and then over night i wanted something different.
its ok to need a change or flat out want relaxed hair over natural hair but do it for you. figure out why you went natural and what is more important to you.
for me i like the straight look but not as much as my natural hair. and i realized my hair didnt make me feel less pretty, the extra weight did long straight hair just made my face look smaller.
so figure out what the problem really is for you but dont try to solve his problem. cause its his.

 

[chebaby]

@bronzebomb
His comment about your hair being more presentable to his clients and colleagues when it's straight or weaved up really has me wanting to . Honestly I'm concerned about everything he said. I don't even know this man so I can't let him get my pressure up.

yea that made me mad too but then i was like i bet a lot of dudes feel that way lol. they just smart enough to keep it to themselves.

 

[IDareT'sHair]

Ya'll So Silly!

@chebaby wanting to Kick Him in the Throat

And...................

@Shay72 Worried about getting her Pressure Up!

Um. Yeah. He need to just be good at what he do.

At the end of the day, he need to handle his business on the Career Tip.

And Be on Top Of His Game.

All that other stuff don't even matter.

 

[bronzebomb]

@Shay72

Maybe this is what curbed my enthuisam for Haulin' right now. I just feel I should be alot further along.



@bronzebomb

You need to re-evaluate why you decided to go natural in the first place.

If you decide to do it, please do it for you (not "A Man") Right now, you are only talmbout marriage - not married.

When he met you weren't you natural?

If you do decide to relax, you'll have plenty of support here.

Maybe review other options "heat training" etc......

@bronzebomb that is a lot to deal with. My husband doesn't love my hair curly. He prefers straight hair too. Whatever decision you make will be fine.

@bronzebomb your man gets a major side eye from me. Mine prefers mine straight as well, but understands that my hair in all of its phases and moods fits my personality, which he loves. Your man needs to get that not to mention he should be proud his woman is confident enough to rock her hair. That confidence is what he should be wanting clients and colleagues to see.

Sorry, that just kind of irritated me. These men are so selfish and inconsiderate sometimes. YOUR hair ain't about HIM.

His comment "shook" me to my core. When I met him I was relaxed. We've dated off an on for some time. This is his second career. Many things have changed and I may have to move to Ohio (where he is) when/if we marry.

I will consider heat training, but will not relax my hair. I went natural to work out more. Needless to say, I'm natural and still fat! I just chuckled. He is not fat.

When I was dating another man, he hated my hair too! Isn't is something about professional black men that hate natural hair? The other man was a jerk! Really arrogant. This one is not. He really wasn't saying it to hurt me, he just "wanted to be honest".

My head is too big for regular wigs and my hairline is too close to my eyebrows for a lacefront!

he prefers #1, hates #2, and #3 tolerates the cornrows and weave.

 

[IDareT'sHair]

And I'm wearing a Wig!

And looking like a Picked Chicken underneath it.

Bet Not tell me I ain't thebomb.com

I wish a Nicca wuuuudd. I'd hafta' cut him.

He better get these Cookies & Cartoons & stop trippin'.

 

[Shay72]

bronzebomb
Okay since you brought it up...I can't deal with professional/corporate black men. I'm too much for them . Give me a blue collar man, all day, everyday. I always get "girl, even though you have a college degree.....". Whatever, degree does not = intelligence.Besides some of these "blue collar men" start their own blue collar businesses.

 

[chebaby]

And I'm wearing a Wig!

And looking like a Picked Chicken underneath it.

Bet Not tell me I ain't thebomb.com

I wish a Nicca wuuuudd. I'd hafta' cut him.

He better get these Cookies & Cartoons & stop trippin'.

you know!!! if you with me you must think im sexy and i need you to say it too.
when i cut all my hair off ex SO went out of his way to lie to me and tell me i reminded him of the old jada pinket when she had short hair. was he telling the truth? hell to the naw, the shape of my head is flucked up but he made me feel good

 

[13StepsAhead]

Hey divas

Bronze I think black men are just "use" to seeing straight hair so it's the norm for them and they gravitate to that sort of style. It still does not excuse them, if they are unwilling to learn or compromise with the woman they want to be with. Now with that said, honeslty i think you're natural hair/the styles you have done recently fits you better.

 

[Zaz]

OH I would never use AOHC as a daily sealer, its too thick. When I use it for a twistout I dont have to re-moisturize for like 3 days

then just dont moisturize as often. sometimes you dont have to moisturize twice a day everyday. soemtimes with some moisturizers 3x a week is enough.

It feels greasy even after the 1st application though I guess I'm not really used to not doing anything at all to my hair for days on end.

bronzebombshell I agree with everyone else about doing what YOU feel is right and not what your Boo thinks his clients want.

 

[IDareT'sHair]

chebaby

That's what I'm talmbout. Nicca bet not tell me I ain't all that!

You'll be alright bronzebomb

I agree with Shay72 There is a difference is distinct difference oftentimes in Professional vs Blue Collar. Honeychile...Blue Colla' just glad to be in your company.

I've had them both. I don't have a 'preference' I just want them to be Secure in Who they are and Comfortable in Their Own Skin and allow Me to be Me.

My last professional was always trying to compete with me. Salary, Professional Connections etc... (alot of hang-ups) and my Mother swore he was "Jealous of Me"

At the time, I couldn't get with the 'concept' that a Man could actually be jealous of a Womanerplexed

But there's some truth in that for insecure men.

Girl, Baby-Boy (Blue Collar/College Graduate) thinks I'm the best thing since Sliced Bread.

And I Am

 

[bronzebomb]

i was going to say something very similar to this. but then i realized that my hair although kinky is curly and your hair is curly too. bronze's hair is kinky and 4a4b right? even though i hate to admitt it people(men) do feel differently about hair based on type. i bet if her hair was super curly he wouldnt have an issue with it(which makes me mad). it upsets me but i dont think she can change his mind since hes a grown man.
my ex SO was on board from day one even with my funny shaped head.
my thoughts are all over the place with this topic. part of me wants to say i would kick him in his throat and he should know better but the other part of me is saying its not really surprising that he feels this way. i just assume most men feel that way but some dont feel the need to say it.

@bronzebomb
His comment about your hair being more presentable to his clients and colleagues when it's straight or weaved up really has me wanting to . Honestly I'm concerned about everything he said. I don't even know this man so I can't let him get my pressure up.

oh and @bronzebomb, let me be honest with you. when i went to the dominicans it was because i was feeling down and un-pretty. when i walked out the salon i felt so beautiful and now im fighting everyday not to straighten my hair for that same look/feeling. ive felt beautiful my entire natural hair journey and then over night i wanted something different.
its ok to need a change or flat out want relaxed hair over natural hair but do it for you. figure out why you went natural and what is more important to you.
for me i like the straight look but not as much as my natural hair. and i realized my hair didnt make me feel less pretty, the extra weight did long straight hair just made my face look smaller.
so figure out what the problem really is for you but dont try to solve his problem. cause its his.

yea that made me mad too but then i was like i bet a lot of dudes feel that way lol. they just smart enough to keep it to themselves.

I have not had a professional straightening since I've been natural and i have 4B hair, no curls at all! You should have seen his face when he saw my hair. (We skype or FaceTime every few hours) He was like .

chebaby I wanted to kick in in the throat too! I disconnected the call and didn't answer the phone.

I think a lot of men feel that way, they just don't say anything. I just happen to meet all the men that do!

I am literally sick to my stomach. I want him to be attracted to me. I will say this new career has him tripping. (He is all into personal appearance and socializing). When I'm in Ohio, we are non stop on the go. golfing, dining, etc. But he makes sure my hair is weaved up! He even "tolerates" the kinky twists if they are in an updo. He asks "Did you get your hair done like I like it!?" or he will pay for a wig (which never fits) erplexed

I have not been right for the last 2 weeks.

 

[bronzebomb]

I am just laughed. I needed that! Thanks y'all.

chebaby - girl you are a celebrity Cree and Jada Pinkett????

Thanks Ladies. I don't think he means to hurt my feelings (although he has). I have to respect his feeling, I just need to find a happy compromise.

 

[IDareT'sHair]

@bronzebomb

Girl, please don't let that make you sick.

Careers come & go.

But Love never ends....................

 

[chebaby]

I am just laughed. I needed that! Thanks y'all.

@chebaby - girl you are a celebrity Cree and Jada Pinkett????

Thanks Ladies. I don't think he means to hurt my feelings (although he has). I have to respect his feeling, I just need to find a happy compromise.

girl i live for the lies.
i recently heard jill scott which is closer to the truth than jada and cree will ever be lmao

 

[IDareT'sHair]

Yeah. We as BWomen have to deal with so much.

 

[bronzebomb]

Eisani and mkd you two have curly hair...I think black men like that better...It's considered "Good Hair"

when he watches the YouTube Videos he points out the hair he likes! It's either perm straight or naturally curly.

He saw Kimmaytube and said "thank goodness her hair is long"

Black men and Long or Good Hair...LOL, I want them both. But I work with what I got!