Are You On This Journey Alone?

[My Friend]

Are you on this journey alone or with your BFF/family?

 

[Aireen]

Yeah I guess, sort of. My mum wants longER hair too (she's WL) but she's the type that has that hair that's always been long, always has grown fast, can do whatever she wants to it and it'll still grow. In other words she doesn't really count, ever since I can remember her hair's been long, so much so that she tells me, "Aireen, don't you remember when my hair was chin length?" I just say no because even it was it would grow back in no time.

 

[SEMO]

I have friends or family that I occasionally talk hair with. But I would consider my healthy hair journey to be a solo one.

 

[Kn0ttyByNatur3]

I am riding solo on this journey. -smuglook-

[Beyonce]All I need is me, myself and I. LHCF will be my own best friend.[Beyonce]

 

[babyshuf2]

My family is SUPER DUPER supportive! They kept me motivated when I Big chopped/Big shaved...lol. (kept me sane). My husband is always reminding me to put my satin bonnet on at night. My son can tell you everything about cowashing and scolds me when I talk about coloring my hair. My brother actually says I have pretty hair that is not "coarse" anymore (he used to braid my hair as a child). My grandmother went natural to support me (she went back to a relaxer this yr but feels differently about natural hair now). My husband/son even co-wash and check product ingredients...lol. NATURAL FAMILIES ROCK!

 

[Katherina]

I clicked "by myself" because I was thinking about the whole journey.

My bestie also started growing her hair this year. We mainly talk products and styles.

 

[pre_medicalrulz]

solo

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[discodumpling]

All by myself! ...I don't play well with others

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[aviddiva77]

Hmmm. If all by myself you mean I am the only one who really does PS, DC, etc then yes. If you mean by going/being natural then no. My niece, who I went natural for, is natural (MBL).

Fam be giving me the side eye when I show up with puffs/afros!

 

[Skiggle]

All By Myself- Celine Dion

 

[kupenda]

Ehh. I'm by myself for the most part. But SO steps in to buy products. Does that count?! If not, it's just me


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[naturalTAN]

I've converted my whole immediate circle (mom, sister, 2 out of 3 aunts, 2 bffs and countless casual friends.) I've even got some PSing with kinky weaves (some used to be so offended by the sight of nappy hair, yet now they're rocking kinky textured puffs, half-wigs and sew-ins ).

I still feel alone though because I go the hardest. I wish I could ease up like them and not be so involved with my hair, because I got way too emotional over my recent setback. I'm trying to force myself to be more casual about hair and just let it grow under la jay for the next year.

 

[danniegirl]

i said family but it really feels like i mostly have you ladies a lot of my family is natural and or/ transitioning but i am the only one that is hair care crazed. They dont talk about product or styles they dont visit any hair boards or anything so i pass along useful information but overall i feel like im alone on my journey.

 

[Carisa]

All alone here! Everybody around me just want me to straighten my hair even after I explain how unproductive daily heat would be for me smdh lol

 

[Ms_CoCo37]

I'm more hardcore about it, but my baby is right there with me. Since I started this journey, I've noticed that she is taking better care of her hair by detangling and tying her satin scarf on in the evenings (she must have gotten tired of my fussing and griping).

Not too long ago, I had to threaten her life because she was using my Argan oil like there was no tomorrow. Do you know she had the nerve to tell me the other day it was time for her next henna treatment?

 

[sunnieb]

All alone IRL, but I have plenty of online hair sistas!

 

[Toy]

I have a couple of friends that are on the journey but they are not into it like i am.

 

[grownupnai]

All alone which is the reason I have been frequenting the board so often. No one else understands me or my hair

 

[Nerdstruck]

Me and my mother. I inspired her to go natural. As soon as I cut off my hair and grew it to long length in 2 years she wanted to do what i was doing. I did my second and last big chop with her last year. However, me and my mother are not on the same page. It's like we're on the journey together but not really. I give her advice and she doesn't want it. She's doing her own thing with her own products. I use natural or organic products and she uses drugstore crap. Sure enough, my hair practices are giving a length longer than hers but I refuse to argue with old folks and let them do them. She's extremely supportive though and everytime I go home she asks me "How'd you get your hair like that?" Ocassionally, she will let me do her hair but all other times, she goes to a salon to get her hair done in twists for 200 bucks when I plead with her to just learn how to twist on her own.

 

[Triniwegian]

I was for the first 3 years now a lot of other women I know are going or have recently become natural. My closest friend and I talk a lot about hair but the other ladies may mention it but we do not talk about products and stuff because they seem to think we do not have the same kind of hair...shrug.

 

[AryaStarr258]

Yes and no. My sister and mom are both natural, and on hair journeys of their own. But, our paths rarely cross unless we see someone using a different product or style. Other than that the hair talks are usually kept to a minimum since our "into hair" levels are completely different.

For me, I'm only in my second year of my hhj so I'm SUPER into it, always looking for products and styles, or just surfing the forums/youtube for inspiration. My sister's been doing this for four years, so she's got a pretty good staple list. She just goes about her routine, and is really chill with it, though she was just like me a few years back. Mom just started this summer, and has yet to be bitten by the bug. She's more of the, "let's see what all this hype is about" kind of hair skeptic so she won't really show any enthusiasm until her TWA grows 3x its size.

Maybe then I'll have a partner in crime IRL? Here's to hoping!

 

[yaya24]

Solo Dolo

 

[LaBelleLL]

it's me and my mom. I started to get serious about my hair and then finally convinced her to cut off her perm. I just funnel a lot of the appropriate hair products for her hair (and she does her own things she grew up doing in her native Haiti). now she loves qhemet and shea moisture.

 

[EbonyCPrincess]

Not even a little bit. I introduce anyone who shows the slightest bit of interest to KISS & Hairlista. I don't tell them about LHCF (or BHM for that matter) until they've gotten the basics under their belt because I personally find this board a little overwhelming and not as helpful for a newbie (personal opinion). So far, no one has become a board stalker like me - but I have several "real life" friends who are also on a hair journey. One person's hair has taken off like a weed, another is a slow grower/slow progresser like me, my mother is just inconsistent as hell, my other friend has had an incredible turn-around in the thickness and health of her hair.

So I didn't vote in the poll because its me and my bestie, my mom, 3 friends, my old college roomate...me and 2 friends are relaxed, 2 are natural, and I finally got my mom to transition. She's one year post relaxer today! I had to be sneaky about it until she was like 9 months in...she wore wigs. But her "care" isn't that good so her length hasn't changed significantly but her THICKNESS and health has.

 

[LaidBak]

Alone. Don't need doubters giving me the side eye every time I have a set back.

 

[BrownieBrie]

One of my very good friends that I have know since HS is on here with me. We have been HHJ'in it up since 2010.

 

[longfroinghair]

Alone. Don't need doubters giving me the side eye every time I have a set back.

AMEN to THAT!!!
Also....I try not to connect with family and friends on this issue, but more with other naturals, even if I don't know them that well, they give me more support if they're doing the same things to their hair as I am.

 

[newnyer]

Kind of. One of my BFFs is on her HHJ & a lurker on this forum too. We've talked about hair products and regimes before & was all into it but our other friends who listen to us ramble look @ us with a major side eye. Lol. So I've just learned to quiet my enthusiam and PJism until I get on here with you ladies. I'll let our hair do the talking.

Y'all understand me though!!
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[chrisanddonniesmommy]

Well, my immediate family members are already natural and on the East coast. So, since I'm transitioning and on the West coast, I'm by myself.

 

[lilyofthenile]

My mom and my sister but they're not as dedicated as me.. I kind of have to push them sometimes, but they are on this journey with me...